Single again chastity

Saintprudence

Christine Ofc it was his fault.

Was this ever taken into account when you were belted? Did you accept it somewhat willing at first?

Christine

Saintprudence Was this ever taken into account when you were belted?

It's not related.

Angelina because if she doesn't want to protect you

Sorry, protect from what?

Angelina does your mother think so too?

More or less.

Angelina

Megan Do you know anything about Marriage contracts?

yes, i know that and even though i can understand it, i don't think it's good. a wedding always means taking on responsibility, for that i need the marriage vows, but not a separate contract.

Saintprudence But the same people as your parents, who believe in enforcing chastity on unmarried women, would probably take a dim view of divorced women and prefer that they remain locked until they can be married off again.

i would disagree on one point. they would not do it if the main reason is virginity, because a divorced woman is definitely not a virgin anymore

Christine regardless what causes it.

i would never do that. i think the reason she wants you in her belt is the "key" to everything (little pun). because if she doesn't want to protect you, or even control you, but just wants to live out her own sexual fantasies, that's definitely wrong.

Christine Ofc it was his fault.

does your mother think so too?

Saintprudence

Angelina would disagree on one point. they would not do it if the main reason is virginity, because a divorced woman is definitely not a virgin anymore

That’s true, but anyone who believes in banning masturbation could easily follow the logic that post-divorce masturbation is out of bounds. If you are preventing masturbation for moral reasons, a divorcee is as good a candidate for belting as an unwed woman. (Maybe moreso, for the extremely conservative types who believe in marriage as a tool to control women.) How many people on this forum are still virgins to sex but have been belted after being caught or confessing to self-touch?

Renita

Angelina because a divorced woman is definitely not a virgin anymore

Do you think that nobody cares about sexual activity of a single non-virgin girl?

Saintprudence but anyone who believes in banning masturbation could easily follow the logic that post-divorce masturbation is out of bounds

No masturbation, but sex only. Of course, you don't agree with me.

Megan

Angelina Christine Ofc it was his fault.

does your mother think so too?

That is where there are differing opinions.
In my relationship both of us give extra effort to the other so I don't know how fighting or unhappiness would start.

Of course everyone is different.

Angelina

Saintprudence

Yes, I never said that there were no good reasons, but I just wanted to make it clear that at least this goal (and in my opinion there are quite a few who want exactly that) can no longer be achieved

Saintprudence

Angelina I have to admit that I’m in a more authoritarian mood than usual, to the point that today I feel like it should be the default that all people, but especially single women, be kept under lock and key unless there is a good reason not to! I’d wear my belt myself today if I hadn’t promised Goody I wouldn’t wear it for a year. Maybe being unbelted makes me crueller!

Angelina

Saintprudence I have to admit that I’m in a more authoritarian mood than usual, to the point that today I feel like it should be the default that all people, but especially single women, be kept under lock and key unless there is a good reason not to!

If everyone did that, it would at least make things a little less bad for the involuntary ones. no seriously, I like you, but right now you're a bit too authoritarian 😉

Renita Do you think that nobody cares about sexual activity of a single non-virgin girl?

I didn't say that, only that virginity is no longer an argument then

Megan Of course everyone is different.

So, even if @Christine will disagree with me, I see it this way that a failed relationship or marriage must always be both to blame. Of course someone can have made the big mistake, but that didn't happen without reason.

Saintprudence

Renita No masturbation, but sex only. Of course, you don't agree with me.

No, nor does your keyholder, whose opinion seems to hold sway here. She wants to prevent slutty behavior and defines masturbation as part of that, so she takes responsibility to prevent it. It is true that the shield serves other safety purposes, but those can be fulfilled without locking it. The shield lock keeps you away from where you shouldn’t be touching, though!

Joh

Rafael Unfortunately, modern life does not always mesh well with good habits.

Good habits is in the eye of the beholder. What you see as such can be completely different for a divorced woman. She is free to decide whether she wants to wear one or not.

Rafael

Laura

At the time we thought it was not going to work, that it was an exaggeration...
It's not that we regret it either, that our children are all wonderful, but, knowing what we know today, we should have tried.
Today I do not see a realistic way to approach the issue, and honestly, I think it would be more harm than good.
As I said, modern life often collides with what is positive from my point of view.

Joh

Of course, @Joh , everyone can have their universe and opinions, I give mine which is relatively traditional.

Joh

Rafael I give mine which is relatively traditional.

Nothing against a traditional view. If you have a partner with the same view, perfect.

Saintprudence

Angelina I see it this way that a failed relationship or marriage must always be both to blame.

So it’s only logical that both bear the consequences of the belt!

Renita

Angelina that virginity is no longer an argument then

I think virginity is not a first argument anyway.

Angelina

Saintprudence So it’s only logical that both bear the consequences of the belt!

or neither of them 😉 but you want to get almost everyone into the belt at the moment anyway 😂

Renita I think virginity is not a first argument anyway.

at least for my father it is

Christine Sorry, protect from what?

you have to ask your mother, but it should always be meant as protection of ....whatever

Saintprudence According to this line of thought, the best way to prevent excessive masturbation is to keep it from happening even once,

i would doubt that and that is exactly why the chastity belt is out of the question for me as an educational tool, i think it is important to prevent excessive masturbation, but that is only possible if we allow a normal way of dealing with sexuality and can explain excess.

Rafael

Christine

Hello, I have been reading the thread and your situation seems terrible to me.
I have a pretty conservative view of almost everything, I'm not opposed to progress, but I think a lot of things were better and easier when I was younger.
What I cannot do is try to impose this on the people who love me and who have a certain dependence on me.
When everyone has the same vision, it's hard enough, and I've had arguments at home and my sister-in-law @Tere the same. And, to give an example, my situation is like when I start a diet, I open the fridge and take an ice cream. My wife sees me and scolds me. Yes, I know that I am on a diet, that ice cream is not good for me, I know that my wife is right and that she does it for my health but it annoys me. It would be a simil with the belt in my house.

In your case, with another vision of things, I don't understand how your mother can do that.

Saintprudence

Christine Sorry, protect from what?

Protect you from the urges that the belt prevents you from acting on.

Max9

Saintprudence That's the paradox thing ablut chastity. The belt thats aimed to prevent you doing things but it also makes you want to do such things in first place. Of course, you can also want to do those things by nature, eventually, that's tge only way it actually makes sense as a tool for prevention.

The question is if growing up belted actually steals you the chance to learn a responsitive way to deal with those things.

Christine

Saintprudence Protect you from the urges that the belt prevents you from acting on.

But I don't need such protection.

Angelina you have to ask your mother, but it should always be meant as protection of ....whatever

No, it's obvious what this protection is from, that's why it looks more like fetish.

Saintprudence

Max9 certainly, growing up in a religious “chastity belt” constructed from guilt and indoctrination did not help me with learning responsible use of self-pleasure.

Kris

Max9 The question is if growing up belted actually steals you the chance to learn a responsitive way to deal with those things

I doubt it. I think, having sex is a normal human thing and everybody knows how to do it. And if you don't know how it feels to masturbate, then you don't miss it. Thats my sight, maybe I'm wrong, maybe not 😃

Saintprudence

Kris This is why one chastity belt school of thought holds that one masturbation is too many, and two or more should be prevented at all costs.

Max9

Kris I rather mean that it might ve hard to control the sexual behaviour and know what to be afraid of or who would be not a person to trust.

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