Laura

At the time we thought it was not going to work, that it was an exaggeration...
It's not that we regret it either, that our children are all wonderful, but, knowing what we know today, we should have tried.
Today I do not see a realistic way to approach the issue, and honestly, I think it would be more harm than good.
As I said, modern life often collides with what is positive from my point of view.

Joh

Of course, @Joh , everyone can have their universe and opinions, I give mine which is relatively traditional.

        Saintprudence I have to admit that I’m in a more authoritarian mood than usual, to the point that today I feel like it should be the default that all people, but especially single women, be kept under lock and key unless there is a good reason not to!

        If everyone did that, it would at least make things a little less bad for the involuntary ones. no seriously, I like you, but right now you're a bit too authoritarian 😉

        Renita Do you think that nobody cares about sexual activity of a single non-virgin girl?

        I didn't say that, only that virginity is no longer an argument then

        Megan Of course everyone is different.

        So, even if @Christine will disagree with me, I see it this way that a failed relationship or marriage must always be both to blame. Of course someone can have made the big mistake, but that didn't happen without reason.

                Angelina I see it this way that a failed relationship or marriage must always be both to blame.

                So it’s only logical that both bear the consequences of the belt!

                    Angelina that virginity is no longer an argument then

                    I think virginity is not a first argument anyway.

                        Rafael I give mine which is relatively traditional.

                        Nothing against a traditional view. If you have a partner with the same view, perfect.

                          Christine

                          Hello, I have been reading the thread and your situation seems terrible to me.
                          I have a pretty conservative view of almost everything, I'm not opposed to progress, but I think a lot of things were better and easier when I was younger.
                          What I cannot do is try to impose this on the people who love me and who have a certain dependence on me.
                          When everyone has the same vision, it's hard enough, and I've had arguments at home and my sister-in-law @Tere the same. And, to give an example, my situation is like when I start a diet, I open the fridge and take an ice cream. My wife sees me and scolds me. Yes, I know that I am on a diet, that ice cream is not good for me, I know that my wife is right and that she does it for my health but it annoys me. It would be a simil with the belt in my house.

                          In your case, with another vision of things, I don't understand how your mother can do that.

                            Saintprudence That's the paradox thing ablut chastity. The belt thats aimed to prevent you doing things but it also makes you want to do such things in first place. Of course, you can also want to do those things by nature, eventually, that's tge only way it actually makes sense as a tool for prevention.

                            The question is if growing up belted actually steals you the chance to learn a responsitive way to deal with those things.

                                Max9 certainly, growing up in a religious “chastity belt” constructed from guilt and indoctrination did not help me with learning responsible use of self-pleasure.

                                  Max9 The question is if growing up belted actually steals you the chance to learn a responsitive way to deal with those things

                                  I doubt it. I think, having sex is a normal human thing and everybody knows how to do it. And if you don't know how it feels to masturbate, then you don't miss it. Thats my sight, maybe I'm wrong, maybe not 😃

                                      Kris This is why one chastity belt school of thought holds that one masturbation is too many, and two or more should be prevented at all costs.

                                      • Kris replied to this.

                                          Kris I rather mean that it might ve hard to control the sexual behaviour and know what to be afraid of or who would be not a person to trust.

                                          • Kris replied to this.

                                              Max9 I rather mean that it might ve hard to control the sexual behaviour and know what to be afraid of or who would be not a person to trust.

                                              Ahh, ok, now I understood you 😃 I agree!

                                                Saintprudence Kris This is why one chastity belt school of thought holds that one masturbation is too many, and two or more should be prevented at all costs

                                                Sorry I didn't understood that. Can you please explain? 🙂

                                                    Kris Mostly I’m just repeating your statement. According to this line of thought, the best way to prevent excessive masturbation is to keep it from happening even once, so the subject doesn’t know how good it feels. And if they do get to experience it, once you put the belt on, you have to diligently prevent cheating, closely supervise breaks, and never allow “freebie” masturbation sessions. Otherwise, the belted individual could get addicted to the touch.

                                                        Saintprudence So it’s only logical that both bear the consequences of the belt!

                                                        or neither of them 😉 but you want to get almost everyone into the belt at the moment anyway 😂

                                                        Renita I think virginity is not a first argument anyway.

                                                        at least for my father it is

                                                        Christine Sorry, protect from what?

                                                        you have to ask your mother, but it should always be meant as protection of ....whatever

                                                        Saintprudence According to this line of thought, the best way to prevent excessive masturbation is to keep it from happening even once,

                                                        i would doubt that and that is exactly why the chastity belt is out of the question for me as an educational tool, i think it is important to prevent excessive masturbation, but that is only possible if we allow a normal way of dealing with sexuality and can explain excess.

                                                                  Angelina or neither of them 😉 but you want to get almost everyone into the belt at the moment anyway 😂

                                                                  Haha, true enough! Goody and I will both be belted at the end of this if I have my way, though we will both also be assured of sexual fulfillment.

                                                                  Angelina i would doubt that and that is exactly why the chastity belt is out of the question for me as an educational tool, i think it is important to prevent excessive masturbation, but that is only possible if we allow a normal way of dealing with sexuality and can explain excess.

                                                                  I do agree with you here, which is why I specified it was a school of thought and not MY school of thought. I was raised by 70s/80s deeply Catholic parents, and there was a hysterical fear among that community of kids even learning what sex WAS and a lot of frankly psychotic obsession with being sure nobody was self-touching. 70s Catholics are close to Victorians in their zeal for preventing masturbation no matter what.

                                                                        Saintprudence Haha, true enough! Goody and I will both be belted at the end of this if I have my way, though we will both also be assured of sexual fulfillment.

                                                                        I am really very curious to see how the whole thing will turn out for you. 😉

                                                                        Saintprudence

                                                                        yes, i understand the problem. especially in the 70s and 80s, many people were still extremely conservative and the church unfortunately also played a very unfortunate role there.

                                                                            Saintprudence Protect you from the urges that the belt prevents you from acting on.

                                                                            But I don't need such protection.

                                                                            Angelina you have to ask your mother, but it should always be meant as protection of ....whatever

                                                                            No, it's obvious what this protection is from, that's why it looks more like fetish.