Update.
Well it has just been over a week now and I am still mostly free of the belt. I have not been wearing it out of the house when I go to work or when she is away at work or overnight when I am sleeping. Life is so much easier without the hassle of the belt. I am in a much happier place right now that i have been in a long time. Like I think why did I ever put up with any of this I should of done this years ago.
I have had just one instance where I was locked back in but that was for a night out with my friends drinking. I had previously agreed to that so I was not bothered about it. I did come in quite late that night and she was sleeping so had to sleep in it. One of our mutual friends was there and she made a very odd comment that made me think for a min but in the end I concluded it was pretty innocent. She made the comment oh your misses has started letting you out of the cage. It did make me a little shaky for a few min but I figured out it was probably because this was the 1st time in about 4 months I was out at a quiz night mid week.
My partner has been taking it better than I actually thought she would. She has mostly not talked about it but has brought it up on a few occasions. The morning after the night out I had she said "was that not easier going out like that. You are used to the belt and it is no hassle for me to wear it and it gives her so much peace of mind me wearing it". I just turned round and said you try wearing one long enough to get used to it and see how you feel after that. The only other occasion she brought it up was Sunday night she had the belt waiting for me after I had a shower and a shave. She said that "she wanted me ready to go for when she gets back on Tuesday". I just ignored that and put the belt back in the cupboard. She did go quiet for the rest of the evening and was very short with me when I asked her anything.
Giving me the silent treatment did kind of annoy me so I decided to get my own back. I decided to leave my laptop open and on in the living room with a load of tabs open looking at flats in a different city along with a few job applications. I know she has seen it as the laptop was moved and I can see a few websites she went to when i was out.
I actually feel quite pleased at myself for actually standing up for myself and not buckling to my partners unreasonable and unjustified anxieties. Lets see what the next few weeks brings wish me luck.
