I've been pondering this post by @Jonas

Jonas If your sex drive is different from your partner (or if you are just a total horndog) a chastity belt can even things up... while making the wearer feel like they are constantly having sex and never feeling rejected, neglected or dejected.

On the one hand, several people have commented that wearing a belt tends to make you think about intimate time MORE than you would without it, and I agree.

On the other hand, I get the impression that for several of the people here who are in a relationship where one partner holds the keys for the other, it is the partner with the higher libido who is in chastity.

In my case, my husband would normally be interested more often than I am, but the belt helps to keep me at his level of interest, so it does help to "even things up," but if the person with greater interest were the one in chastity, I would think it would make things even more uneven, so to speak.

So, here's the poll, and the question to answer in a post. For those of you in a partner/keyholder relationship, who has the higher libido, and how does chastity affect the balance between you of who is interested more often?

Who has the higher libido in your partner/key holder relationship?

    Hard to say. My partner is up for it anytime really, but he also gets to sort himself out more often. Like he can bat himself stupid the day he flies home from site, knowing he'll be put in chastity when he gets home. So he's generally calm for a few days at least.

    My needs are a little more... intense. And I don't really get the opportunity to indulge myself.

    He'll just get grumpy, whereas for me it becomes all consuming. I'm still trying to work through how much is a physical issue and how much is my mental or emotional response to that.

    So with that in mind, probably me, but he's a guy so it's not like he'll ever say no.

      Not sure if it was a form of training or conditioning in our case.

      As mentioned a couple of times, initially I was made to wear it, when my libido was higher and I tried to push my girlfriend to get to my level.

      It's still a rollercoaster right now. But after trying to fight it (the belt and satisfying my urges) I kinda surrendered. And dunno why, but things have calmed down. Our sexual relationship has become somehow deeper and not a quick frequent firefight anymore. I also started to enjoy physical contact more and more. Small things we both enjoy like cuddling, playing with each others hair feel more intense now - for me at least.

      I am still the one with higher libido. Nothing changed their. But it is far less for whatever reason. And in the worst case I can take it up with my belt. I am sure a few of will agree that fighting with it or finding the one weak spot is really exhausting and taking the steam off. 🤣

      In good times it feels like something precious - like an always present hug from someone you deeply care about. In Bad times like a torture devise.

      Overall it enhanced our relationship dramatically. Although I am not sure what would have happened if I had kept insisting on my girlfriend wearing one as well whenever I have to wear mine.

      Hope I am somehow making a wee bit sense. 🤔

      When my partner held my key for me, I was the one with the higher sex drive and the belt evened things out, so that's how I've voted. These days my chastity is 100%, so we tend to just time-lock the key to my chastity belt away from both of us.

      I think a belt can increase sexual thoughts (via the constant pressure, frustration etc). This can serve to bring a person with a lower sex drive up to their partner, but conversely, it can also keep a highly sexual person's mind occupied and happy. The former gets a nudge and reminder, the latter an almost constant sexual experience. Over all it depends on what the wearer thinks about their belt. If it's seen as an imposition, for example, then nothing positive is going to come out wearing at all.

        a month later

        IMO it's better if it's the locked one has the higher libido adds to the tension.

        3 months later