Locked by parents :(

Laura

Tabletop we from the states

And what's your first language? 😂

CutiedeTahlia

Laura I don't think native language necessarily holds much weight, they could have moved to the US

Laura

CutiedeTahlia I don't think native language necessarily holds much weight

I see something else as you might have guessed

CutiedeTahlia they could have moved to the US

Indeed. That's why I'm asking. For example, my first language is French

Andrew

Tabletop I can’t just take it off they would go bonks about it 🙁

Life is the art of making decisions. Many of them are not easy. You wanted advice, so we gave you advice. I suspect that no one here will come up with anything wiser than what has been written (although I may be wrong).

youdontknowme

We gave you your options. Either you endure it, or you discuss it and negotiate, or you just blatantly defy your parents and deal with their respone. We informed you of your rights and recourses, which you might want to use in whatever confrontation awaits you. That is all we can offer.

Tabletop

Yea first of all thanks for all the replies. I mean today was the first time out so eeh whatever. I’ll talk to my mum later today. But i definitely don’t want to involve authorities or smt. As much as this sucks a** I’d rather endure it then being kicked out or them ending up in jail

Angelina

Tabletop

ok, maybe the editing is missing a part, but i can't see what exactly you agreed to? what measures to improve your behavior were decided? Did you really agree to wear a chastity cage?

Tabletop

Angelina i didn’t edit the post i guess i wrote something against the rules so i won’t rewrite it (and i don’t remember everything too lol). But yea basically my parents attributed me “acting up” lately to me just hanging in my room and doing… you know…

I started hanging with a new friend group pver aummer and they are scared of pregnancy but i told them I’m not even ready for sex and I’m akward with girls anyways i figure. What is true tho is that i was masturbating a lot i think and they were scared that I’d slack in school too because of it.

Basically we agreed to trying it and technically yes i said it’s fine if they also move my curfew to midnight which they did but i have to keep my phone on me all the time (which i do anyways duh) and answer any call from them immediately.

And i still didn’t talk to my mum abt the shower thing I’llwait for next time

youdontknowme

I mean, having a private shower unlock once a week, or even once a day, would not be enough to let... ahem... certain habits get excessive, and it definitely would not result in you doing anything risky with girls. Should be an easy enough case to argue if your parents are not hardliners on that topic.

Tabletop

youdontknowme yea i think too, I’ll use that as an argument. I’ll ask them to change the “no wank at all” policy too because i read that you actually need to get rid of old spunk from time to time due to health reasons. They are strict but not hardliners i think, especially my mum i think….

Tabletop

Hmm ok so i just wanted to give an update idk if anyone is even interested but yea here you go:

So it’s been like 3 weeks and i think I’m getting used to it really. Like idk 10 days ago i would mainly notice having it on but now it changed as to i really don’t even notice having it. I’ve talked to my parents about the shower situation but according to them my behavior has improved and they attributed that to the no masturbation so no, I’m not allowed to wank it but they agreed to leave me alone in the shower as long as i keep the door open (not the shower curtain) and be quick abt it. So yea theres that.

youdontknowme

Tabletop If that is a compromise you can live with, then that is some excellent progress. But it might help if your behavior stays consistently good. If they have no reason to be unhappy with you, you might be able to persuade them to give you an opportunity to demonstrate that you can behave well even with a little more freedom, privacy and relief.

You need to be absolutely sure you can maintain good behavior after that policy change though, if your parents' satisfaction with you declines when they give you that chance, you are probably not going to get another chance any time soon.

Angelina

Tabletop I’ve talked to my parents about the shower situation but according to them my behavior has improved and they attributed that to the no masturbation so no, I’m not allowed to wank it

good that you now have some privacy when showering, but the question is whether you share the opinion of your parents?

Tabletop

youdontknowme

they said a lot will depend on how that goes, grades and stuff. They argued that it will help me focus on schoolwork, we’ll see abt that ig…

Otherwise yea I definitely am super happy about how it turned out and will def give it my best. They don’t see me completely nude anymore and I’m happy with that tho they do check me daily for the lock still but like only the lock part which is not that humiliating ig

CutiedeTahlia

Tabletop its good to hear its going better for you!

youdontknowme

Tabletop They don’t see me completely nude anymore and I’m happy with that tho they do check me daily for the lock still but like only the lock part which is not that humiliating ig

Honestly if I were in your place, I would have been more bothered by the scrutiny to what I am doing than by the nudity itself. But yeah, that probably does not take into account the awkwardness of your body reacting to that brief moment of freedom. I remember when I was younger, the thread of unintentional erections made family nudity that much more uncomfortable than it usually was.

George

youdontknowme Cough, the question should be first, which country the guy is from, but yes, it's abuse in almost all places.

(Even in the GOP ruled US states he should be able to get help, by phrasing it as "help, my parents locked me into a sex toy", let's see if child services doesn't show with a blue light escort from the PD if they get such a call 😆 )

But fact is that cultural approaches to "self abuse" DO vary by jurisdiction.

Sasha

George Sadly the parents would probably get a warning, be ordered to consoling, etc. But given their track record of leaving kids in bad situations, I doubt it would get much more attention than that.
Now if they get that report 3-4 times then yeah maybe

youdontknowme

George youdontknowme Cough, the question should be first, which country the guy is from, but yes, it's abuse in almost all places.

Yeah, it is a sad truth that not all places are good at recognizing the civil rights of minors. Even within a given legal code's jurisdiction, enforcement could vary a lot between branches of an agency or even between individual agents. But you also brought up yourself how a bit of framing should be enough to cast a negative light on forced device wear pretty much anywhere.

Tabletop

Angelina hey sorry for the late reply, i wasn’t really checking this place out past few days. I’m not sure yet…. on one hand i feel they have a point, we have made agreements that i will after all be let out if i behave to their liking and do my part and yea how should I put it, release is a strong motivation to try and not to slack. On the other hand I’ve really noticed like a decline in horniness haha the past few days especially. Like i partly dont even care anymore if im locked. I mean yea i did get hard in shower but not really “horny” if ykwim.

Angelina

Tabletop

i understand it will always be ups and downs, i think the important thing is to look over a longer period of time at how you really see things