Introductions

Ines

Angelina
Really they were not insults but a bitter criticism, however, thread is locked since in some topics the tension can arise.
However, it is true, here we like much more another kind of treatment.

Angelina

Ines Obviously people is always welcome, but some threads will be closed with a moderator advice.

for everyone or only for those under 18 (although a real age check is hardly possible for data protection reasons)?
What topics are you thinking of?

Jane

welcome to the forum, if you have any questions we will try to help you 🙂

Ines Really they were not insults but a bitter criticism, however, thread is locked since in some topics the tension can arise.
However, it is true, here we like much more another kind of treatment.

I think in this case it's better to close threads, I'm always for an open and sometimes direct discussion, but with arguments and not with personal degradation

Joh I got one one time and you see I am still here.

Me Too 😂

Joh The rest would be clean and under-age guest could still read it.

that's true, but there are still the underage users and you can't control that easily. I was 16 when I registered here, I could have just written 18 and nobody would have noticed

Joh

Megan I just don't understand why the BDSM is required at all.

If both like it this way why not. You must not understand it. I just accept it.

Ines

Megan

Megan For instance over the time I have been married I have naturally become more and more lead by my husband this happened naturally without any words and certainly without any beatings. It may just be a part of nature sometimes that being around a man is very calming...
Some of the BDSM users here hold the belief that beating is required, as if I would admire my husband twice as much if he beat me twice as often.

for me it is very similar, I find it very comfortable that a man takes charge of some situations. It gives me security and calms me down. I like to identify the man next to me as better than me in some things, and it comes "naturally" for me to cede the leadership to him.
It has nothing to do with BDSM, and as Megan says, even less with abuse.
The other side of the coin is that, also naturally, I am not at all attracted to men whom I consider, in some way, inferior to me.

Sara2001

Ines for me it is very similar, I find it very comfortable that a man takes charge of some situations. It gives me security and calms me down. I like to identify the man next to me as better than me in some things, and it comes "naturally" for me to cede the leadership to him

I agree to all of this and I think it's extremely important that a man doesn't need to spank his partner to be a good leader. I am sure Daniel would be a great leader without physical discipline, too. But I think when his general ability to be a good leader is given, spsnkings (which have nothing to do with BDSM for me), can be a good addition to improve the setup. Not for everyone, not for the majority, but for some couples like us

But I can say it more clear: Nobody can enforce his leadership by spanking, this would be just bearing and abuse and nobody should ever accept this. It can only work as an addition to an already existing dynamic of a good natural leader and a good natural submissive and only in a setup where both agreed to this setup.

carg

Megan this is not a BDSM community.

Exactly. And I am not here to talk about that (even though I have interest in the B, but not the DSM). But with some posts here I have wondered if they are appropriate or not. So it would be nice to know better whether they fall within the guidelines; otherwise I might let the writer know, or stop responding (or adjust my own post if I have slipped myself 😮)

Like with spanking - personally I don't see the harm in talking about that as a punishment or lifestyle, as long as it does not get sexual overtones. (It is just not something that would be part of my life.) But that is just my view.

Ines

carg
You are a respectful person but lately a lot of fetishist threads were growing around forum.
It is OK an off topic thread, but we have to reduce it to the minimum in order to maintain the nature of the forum.
Mainly we have 1 thread to talk about beatings and another about bdsm, they are enough.

Joh

carg So it would be nice to know better whether they fall within the guidelines; otherwise I might let the writer know, or stop responding (or adjust my own post if I have slipped myself 😮)

Don't worry too much. Your will get a warning before any consequence will happen. @Ines handle it great. I got one one time and you see I am still here.

Ines Mainly we have 1 thread to talk about beatings and another about bdsm, they are enough

Good to know. All posting should be moved there and restricted to members. The rest would be clean and under-age guest could still read it.

youdontknowme I think the only line you can really draw is "do you still want this in your life when you are not horny at the moment?".

I like this. This is a good question to ask yourself. 👍️

youdontknowme

Sara2001 (which have nothing to do with BDSM for me)

Maybe not S&M, but the way you word it suggests that some form of D/S is at work, even if it is more lifestyle than play.

That is the thing with all these power exchange subjects, the border between lifestyle and play can be rather fluid, and many who engage in it primarily for kink reasons do involve it in their lifestyle to a certain extent.

I think the only line you can really draw is "do you still want this in your life when you are not horny at the moment?".

Sara2001

youdontknowme Maybe not S&M, but the way you word it suggests that some form of D/S is at work, even if it is more lifestyle than play.

D/S absolutely. But this has nothing to do with BDSM.

youdontknowme I think the only line you can really draw is "do you still want this in your life when you are not horny at the moment?".

And here the easy answer is yes.

Jas

Sanity, Jane welcome to forum! We don't bite, at least without asking 😆

Ines you moderators are still humans that aren't paid to be present here 24/7/365 (or to make little joke, you're not locked to the forum). So, if something happens, one of you will handle it as soon as possible. Trolls are part of internet forums since they started. Don't worry about that. ❤️

In my opinion, if you're happy to be locked, when you're adult, be locked. 🔒️ Don't endanger yourself or anyone with it.

Ines

Angelina for everyone or only for those under 18 (although a real age check is hardly possible for data protection reasons)?
What topics are you thinking of?

Every thread about kids and chastity belts.
A moderation advice and locking. Post endorsing such behaviors will be erased too.

Angelina

Ines Post endorsing such behaviors will be erased too.

even if the underage girl supports it herself? I don't think that will work, every 16-year-old girl will claim that she is 18.
I like to be surprised, but I don't think that we will have fewer problems that way, rather more because then true stories will also become dishonest

Joh

Angelina that's true, but there are still the underage users and you can't control that easily. I was 16 when I registered here, I could have just written 18 and nobody would have noticed

I agree. We have to balance our conversation in that way that we write our opinion as clear as possible but without any details that would be not suitable for under-age readers. Especially in a non-sexual way.
I really like is to discussion with you your view on all the different topics as long as it is in a respectful and not offending way. It would be a pity if it were no longer possible for sensitive issues.

Ines Every thread about kids and chastity belts.

I understand you why but I see it critical. We had many members here they were under-age when they joined. They got support and advice regarding their situation. I did my best to show them what is possible to do but end the end it is their decision.
The same is with parents. If you point it out every time when it arise that this is against the law and harassment we may change there view and they don't do it.

Ines Post endorsing such behaviors will be erased too.

I support it.

Angelina even if the underage girl supports it herself?

Difficult and I see your point. The best will be to find out why and which goal they have. Deliver all information what it means to go this way and offer other solution. A good and solid base is better for a decision than chasing behind an illusion.

Ines

No more of this in introduction thread

Raquel

Hi everyone here.
I introduce myself as a new user, although at the moment I think I'm going to read more than write.
I am a 19 year old girl who recently started wearing my chastity belt. I am the first of my close family to see it, although in another branch of the family they have been known for a long time. I have opened an account here on the advice of one of my relatives who already writes here.

Angelina

Raquel I have opened an account here on the advice of one of my relatives who already writes here.

just because I wrote a post about an hour you're not @Ines's cousin, are you?

However. welcome to the forum 🙂

Ines

Raquel
Eh! Finally. Be careful with your bag!

Laura

Raquel although in another branch of the family they have been known for a long time

Also @Tere ? 😂

Joh

Raquel Welcome to the forum. Feel free to share your experience and ask questions.

Raquel

Angelina
Is she famous, or? 😅

Angelina

Raquel Is she famous, or? 😅

at least here in the forum she is famous 😉
no, i asked because last time i asked @Ines if you wanted to write here and shortly after i read your introductory post.

hungarianguy

welcome to the forum 🙂

may i ask who has your keys ?

hungarianguy

I'm Márton/19/M, come from Hungary. I started to wear a cage since 16 cause I tought its sexy. It was a game at the begining but after some months of the first experience I decided to wear it constantly. I started to feel the effect of the device and to be honest I liked it. Before my lockup sometimes I could not handle my sexual frustration and I masturbated all the time so this is why I wanted to wear a cage. Nowadays I wear it almost 24/7 except those breaks I make to get erection to stay healthy. My ex gf wore a chastity belt too, but when she broke up with me she left her belt at my bed so she isn't locked anymore. Althougt I think she liked to be locked too.

Ines

hungarianguy
Hello, so you wanted start as a game and later you wanted start due you touched yourself so much.
Understood.
Welcome!

Megan

hungarianguy do you mind if I ask why did you break up ?
Was it just life taking you both on different paths?
Was there an issue with money or careers etc?

I have only been in one relationship and when people break up it surprises me

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