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Sara2001

Angelina it depends on what you mean by near future. i don't think he will change his mind in the next days/weeks but i think there is a chance that he will change his mind before i get marri

I hope so for you. Daniel now seems very sure about my tightbands. I don't think I will ever get rid of them.

Angelina

Sara2001

i will try everything and i think that your situation will only stay as long as you are happy with it 🙂

Valadar

Sara2001 I hope so for you. Daniel now seems very sure about my tightbands. I don't think I will ever get rid of them.

I understand somewhat how tpe works, the dynamic of giving your all to your boyfriend and fiancé to be but its also his job in that situation to make sure your also happy as an unhappy sub / future wife will not be at her best?

Thus if you do eventually grow weary of your thigh bands in particular you will need to bring it to his attention so that it doesn't impact your relationship...

Vanessa

Angelina i will probably not be able to avoid it completely, but i will try to further reduce the wearing time

It would be hard,but maybe easier to convince him to reduce how often you have to wear these than convince him to not use these at all,yes.

Angelina there is a chance that he will change his mind before i get married 🙂

Let's hope you're right!

Sara2001

Yes,but at first,he doesn't wanted you to wear these after marriage,then changed his mind.Don't you think he can change his mind again about it,especially after your marriage?

bismarck

Sara2001 It is a busy month I think your choice has some good points. He knew you feel uncomfortable in the metal bra then drilled holes. He would think about your feeling. And usually people that can make the counterpart to do or wear this or that are the very attractive ones. But I don't find any meaning of people wearing chastity devices after marriage, divorce would give both side bad records. I don't know him living with your father is good or bad as your partner once think you should be rid of at least some parts but he changed mind, perhaps under your father's influence. And well he should know that if you go out to work then he will live a more comfortable life and if you continue to wear the bands in emergency you may have difficulties in saving his life, also your children may not treat him well if they know their father had made their mother felt bad!

Sara2001

Valadar Thus if you do eventually grow weary of your thigh bands in particular you will need to bring it to his attention so that it doesn't impact your relationship...

Yes, I think it is mandatory for a tpe relationship that I can trust him 100% because he earned the trust that he takes care of my needs and wishes.

Angelina

Sara2001

but there could be a problem, because he has to work hard to earn this trust due to the current situation (I hope you understand what I mean)

Sara2001

Angelina but there could be a problem, because he has to work hard to earn this trust due to the current situation (I hope you understand what I mean)

That's why I marry him in a few years and not tomorrow 😂

Angelina

Sara2001 That's why I marry him in a few years and not tomorrow 😂

haha, good answer 🤣

but i admit that you are very serious about the situation and i think it is good that you also demand that he has to earn this enormous trust 🙂

Ines

Vanessa It would be hard,but maybe easier to convince him to reduce how often you have to wear these than convince him to not use these at all,yes.

Agree. Since one of goals is avoid all stimulation, she need them, so probably she would have to wear them. However it is possible to wear them in a much more rational way.

Angelina

Vanessa It would be hard,but maybe easier to convince him to reduce how often you have to wear these than convince him to not use these at all,yes.

this is what i mean, my father won't accept it when i say that i don't want to wear the tighbands anymore, but he might accept it when i say that the tighbands don't always make sense and i try to reduce the wearing time 🙂

Vanessa

Ines

And it would be much better for her.

Angelina

Let us know if you manage it.😉

Tim Hi, I'm Tim. I'm 35 and from North America.

Welcome! 🙂

Ines . It is not rude any opinion, it is rude when you share it in an arrogant and impolite form.

I agree.

Tim To be honest, you and @Vanessa are the most alien to me so I hope talking instead of lurking will help to fix that.

We're not the only ones in this situation here,if you talk about reluctantly wearing a chastity belt.

Angelina

I agree with you.Our situation seems very awful,especially as we hate our chastity devices,but the other parts of our lives are pretty good!🙂

Angelina it is sometimes very hard

I agree too,with time,even if I think we can't get used to it,we can manage it better.

Sara2001

bismarck But I don't find any meaning of people wearing chastity devices after marriage,

He is a strong believer that a wive must not play with herself without permission and he is very much into this idea. I understand and support this point of view, even if I don't like to wear it, I can accept it without being unhappy, because I know it is for a valid reason.

bismarck perhaps under your father's influence.

Definitely not 😃 My mothers rules and equipment is less strinct. No chastity bra and tightbands only from dinner to 6am. We decided that tpe works best for us after a long boot camp.

bismarck And well he should know that if you go out to work then he will live a more comfortable life

Once I have finished my education, I will stay at home and take care of the household.

bismarck if you continue to wear the bands in emergency you may have difficulties in saving his life,

I think this is very theoretical. I don't drive a car anyway and will never do. But if I call the ambulance, they are here within minutes.and I can give first aid until then.

For my future children it will be completely normal that I wear this devices. They will most probably not see it as something special.

Angelina

Sara2001 He is a strong believer that a wive must not play with herself without permission

then he should take care of it by making you sexually very happy and thus avoiding the need to masturbate. it is what i have said before. i don't think i will masturbate after my wedding because it should not be necessary

Sara2001 Once I have finished my education, I will stay at home and take care of the household.

i think you should at least work part time, because if you are "out" for too long it is difficult to find a job, especially in the IT industry, if you want to go back to work sometime (for whatever reason) 🙂

Tim

Hi, I'm Tim. I'm 35 and from North America.

I have a writing hobby and I want to understand how you see things so I can write more diverse characters. (Maybe think of me as a martian anthropologist? Yes, I do share Esteban and BikelockFugitive's perspective on many things, but learning is about listening, not opining, and it would be rude to walk into your space and start shooting my mouth off.)

I've been reading through Tor for months because I'm shy and I'm not very good at reading a room... I kept talking myself out of creating an account because "not introducing myself immediately would leave a bad first impression, and this is too important an opportunity to ruin by being an ignorant boor. Prepare more first."

Ines

Tim

Welcome here. Please, read the rules and feel yourself as in your own home.

Tim learning is about listening, not opining, and it would be rude to walk into your space and start shooting my mouth off.

I do not agree, here. It is not rude any opinion, it is rude when you share it in an arrogant and impolite form.
Have for sure I like much more a person with other ideas than a "girl" with unbelievable story.

Angelina

Tim

welcome to the forum 🙂

as long as you discuss with us politely and factually, you are welcome to share your thoughts with us

Valadar

Tim

Hi Tim. I too, when I first started here felt like I was "invading" in the beginning as I didn't want to disrupt the girls support for each other with their particular unusual challenges...

However let me assure you that the people here are very friendly and open and even if there is a disagreement I have seen that everyone generally maintains a respectful, courteous manner when dealing in such cases.

From my side, welcome to the forum.

Tim

Ines Please, read the rules and feel yourself as in your own home.

Thank you. 🙂

Ines I do not agree, here. It is not rude any opinion, it is rude when you share it in an arrogant and impolite form.

I think we're saying the same thing but I forgot that translators might have trouble with idioms and I used "shooting my mouth off" to mean "arrogantly sharing my opinion without listening".

I definitely have opinions. @Sara2001's description of her family life so closely matches this description of how narcissist fathers trauma bond their daughters, that it made me wish for some dramamine when I read about how many years her younger sister still has until she is an adult. (What else can you do when you see someone in a situation that horrifies you but, as a complete stranger, you understand just enough to know you're powerless to help?)

I think it would be best if I let the regulars set the direction and pace for those kinds of conversations. When I talk about my own worldviews, I have trouble understanding where "passionate" ends and "arrogant" begins.

Tim

Angelina

Thank you.

To be honest, you and @Vanessa are the most alien to me so I hope talking instead of lurking will help to fix that.

I can imagine that, were I in @Ines's situation, I would think like her but to grow up in your or Vanessa's situation would have either left me bitter, resentful, and maybe even sociopathic or made me into a broken shell of a human being.

Ines

Tim
Take it easy, and in general maintain well feed your skepticism in the most strange or dramatic cases.
And, please, feel free of sharing your opinion, but... In the right topic! 😁
Other way Introduction topic will become in a unreadable mountain.

Angelina

Tim To be honest, you and @Vanessa are the most alien to me so I hope talking instead of lurking will help to fix that.

well Vanessa and I are very similar in many ways, but I would not say that we are aliens. What kind of questions do you have for me? Well, maybe this will clear things up for you.

Tim I would think like her but to grow up in your or Vanessa's situation would have either left me bitter, resentful, and maybe even sociopathic or made me into a broken shell of a human being.

none of this is the case, but maybe it's because I try not to let my equipment have too much effect on my character 🙂

Ines Other way Introduction topic will become in a unreadable mountain.

I don't think so, we tend rather to have too many topics 😂

Tim

Ines And, please, feel free of sharing your opinion, but... In the right topic! 😁
Other way Introduction topic will become in a unreadable mountain.

That reminds me of something I wanted to ask, that the rules don't say anything about.

What is the forum's policy on "thread necromancy" (replying to threads that haven't been active for a long time)? How long is too long and how many different threads can a newcomer reply to before it makes them look weird?

(While I was lurking, I took notes on what I could have contributed if I was logged in and I don't want to be "that guy who creates an account and immediately has a post on every thread".)

Laura

Tim What is the forum's policy on "thread necromancy" (replying to threads that haven't been active for a long time)? How long is too long and how many different threads can a newcomer reply to before it makes them look weird?

You can reply to any thread, including archives. In last case I will bring it to the main stream. E.g. no time limitation here.

Tim I don't want to be "that guy who creates an account and immediately has a post on every thread"

That's not an issue. You can reply to every thread, of course, with relevant content.

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