Maternal expectation, terrible behavioral precedence by my elder sister (still gotta love her though,) and the strategic exchange of temporary physical autonomy for long-term economic and social opportunity.
how much control you have about wearing it
Preciously limited compared to my demands. (But not wholly absent.)
Reluctant wearer and feminist sounds like an explosive combination.
Not half as explosive as the largest country in the so-called free world having constitutional provisions against denying "any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws," and yet corporations can have policies that systematically underhire, underpay and underpromote half the population, a third of the states can have laws mandating forced involuntary incubatorhood, and every single one of us can suffer a hundred microaggressions daily that serve no purpose other than the further marginalization of our rights and freedoms.
Those same old, dead, white men also wrote "But when a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same Object evinces a design to reduce them under absolute Despotism, is their right, it is their duty, to throw off such Government, and to provide new Guards for their future security."
I'm just throwing 2+2 together, here.