Introductions
Milord Just a culture shock, but will try not to make you do all this moderation work in the future
In which way do you mean this? I like your postings and critical view of the forum . I also like you offer your help and legal advice. I appreciate if you continue.
If you think you have something which doesn't fit in UWC you can do it at discord and contact me direct. In my profile is my Threema contact.
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Welcome! I see you had already come into contact with some of the diverse (incl. controversial) messages posted here.
I guess, you already got some classifying comments on these. Generally, I suggest to get over any potential culture shocks and truly learn more about the backgrounds - incl. a critical take on their alleged veracity. As good as this is possible via a forum made of text, ofc...
As I read some signal words (like slave) which I associate (given contemporary contexts) usually with BDSM: In case if you are looking for (recipients for) exciting kink stories, I'm pretty convinced other forums provide more fitting sources and much larger, more targeted, welcoming audiences.
Which shouldn't mean this is forum is enemy anything kink/BDSM. On the contrary, certain models like alive, belted marriage are hardly possible without at least sparks of enjoyment for assertive/reactive dynamics, IMO. (BTW: "Topping from the bottom" or obedient wearers that exert their often concealed but likewise irresistible influence is a thing!)
Somewhere between the transition to these models and other models more focused on virtue, personal protection, self-enhancement, discipline, (over-?)concerned parenting, and further ... there are fine lines and often overlaps that can be pretty puzzling and sometimes upsetting. On the other hand, I found that they gave the forum a character all of its own.
Whatever you make of this.
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Addition (fearing that we might drift more and more away from mere introduction towards multilateral discussion), as I read James's comment: @Milord
Even in case you feel upset and agitated because you maybe have a need to help people in situations you perceive as dire, I suggest a piece of advice I had been given in therapeutic or care contexts: Ask whether someone wants your help (or what you believe to be help), before. Situations are not always as they might appear at first. Fortunately, they might not always be as terrible as well.
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Owl As I read some signal words (like slave) which I associate (given contemporary contexts) usually with BDSM: In case if you are looking for (recipients for) exciting kink stories, I'm pretty convinced other forums provide more fitting sources and much larger, more targeted, welcoming audiences.
I'm a BDSMers, but I'm searching for information, not for kink. And yes, I learned a lot. Still... Consent is my polar star, if I see it threatened of course for me it's an immense red flag. As it should be.
Owl Even in case you feel upset and agitated because you maybe have a need to help people in situations you perceive as dire, I suggest a piece of advice I had been given in therapeutic or care contexts: Ask whether someone you think requires help actually wants your help (or what you believe to be help), before. Situations are not always as they might appear at first. Fortunately, they might not always be as terrible as well.
If someone doesn't want, in certain circumstances, to be helped, probably he has not understood correctly the circumstances. Personal opinion.
Damien I don't. But I'm a lawyer, and if I see the description of a crime I know that's pretty serious.
I will make an example.
a girl has been belted for 4 years. She's 20, so she started at 16. This is a crime. She doesn't want to denounce her father, even if she stated that this happened against her will. This is a major offense, for sure worth of some years in jail.
My I have an opinion toward the fact that a major crime against own daughter is a pretty serious issue?
Not judging. Just considering.
I'd like to move the multilateral discussion into "your" thread ( https://unwedchastity.org/d/984-moral-and-legal-questions-on-belting/9 ) and give some remark there.
Yes, please, do not use introduction topic for this.
@Milord , I would ask you that please do not use every topic for, -more or less-, same discussion.
In our rules, abuse is forbidden. Children, forbidden too.
I cut terror tales when they arise, I try to hunt the trolls....
Please, you can see that current active users are all willingly users, and it is valid for the last years.
Maybe you can find something disturbing, please, flag it. It is because I have more life than moderate the forum and I can not reach every corner where some trash is written.
Even former terror tales have evolved when tested that we do not like terror tales.
Of course you can ask to everyone if you have doubt about her status, but please, I am feeling very bad because around all the day I have seen criticism and unfriendly statements towards all, in every thread, towards every user...
And frankly in 2 last years bad users have disappeared. Fortunately.
And I try to do the best that I can, and I do not earn money with this.
Please feel you comfortable, and talk with people, all your doubts will be solved.
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Actually shifting messages, splitting + joining threads can only be done by admins. But for now we might just move the discussion in terms of activity and continue further messages in the respective threads. So the introductions thread can keep focused on the initial intro messages.
UPDATE (15:52 UTC): Crossing Messages / Ines's ninja-ed the post at hand.
Damien Personal, indeed. Because how, from reading in a forum, would you know and judge their circumstances better than they do themselves?
At the risk of rehashing ancient history which I was actually partly around for, this site was made by ladies, largely for ladies - and Laura remains courteous enough to have others be here.
Saying that if a gal doesn't want your help she is either too silly or uneducated enough to appreciate her situation is, in fact, insulting of a gal's intelligence, I would gently argue.
[milady] Ciao a tutti
Using my owner account to get there. I'm Milord slave and wife, and I'm here because my owner talked about this place
It also seems that there is a small possibility I will end in this hellish device, so better be prepared.
Ciao!