Introductions

Laura

@Mary , welcome to the forum.

Mary My fiance locked it on me when I agreed to his proposal.

What was a particular reason for him to lock you on after the engagement?

Renita

Laura What was a particular reason for him to lock you on after the engagement?

It would sound logical "to protect his assets", but engagement is not marriage yet. So I have the same question.

Ines

Mary
Wellcome here!

Amira

I am back here after a couple of things did happen. My soon to be stepfather is now my stepfather and I agreed on him to adopt me and I get used better to wear the belt. I now can sleep with it on without problems and feel pretty much free even though my private area is not free.
Now I am forward looking to two weeks of no school.

catherine98

Amira

Welcome back!
I am glad to hear that you cope with it! It is not self-evident after so short time, especially since wearing a cb is not always nice.
Do your parents require 24/7 wearing after getting used to it? Or is it already the case?

Vanessa

Angelina but with lea i don't think there is any danger at the moment.

I hope so,for her.

Angelina (if the parents know about it)

I wonder if they know it,too.

catherine98

Glad you resume to post here!🙂

Angelina

I agree,not easy to stay up to date on the posts here.

Mary

Welcome!

It is unusual here,your case is interesting.

However,I'm not sure you did the right choice to stay engaged if it was forced on you against your will.

But,at least,you seem to be happy now,even if it was hard.I understand you were proud to wear it under your wedding dress,I would probably do the same,even if allowed to take it off before(which is very unlikely).

Had you to wear it agin,since married?

Amira

Glad you can manage it.It will make things a bit better.

catherine98

Still single?If yes,is it still due to your chastity belt?

catherine98

Angelina there are news from you ?, if so please do a small update as soon as you have read all posts

Well, there is not much news about me. Just busy in the last weeks and now looking forward for christmas break. Maybe the only news is that i am in negotiation with my mom about connection chain length.

Laura

catherine98 i am in negotiation with my mom about connection chain length.

6 cm or 10 cm?

catherine98

Mary

Welcome here!

I am also curious about your full story. Why did your fiance want to keep you in chastity? To avoid cheating when being out alone? Or to avoid also sex with him?

Seems you have not been a convinced wearer like me.

Amira

catherine98
No, they don't require me to wear it permanent, at least not yet. My stepdad says it would be the easiest but I disagree. I said that I need time without it for cleaning and other things. Mom agreed with me that I can not wear it without breaks.

Angelina Umm, no one so far said any word about masturbation so I think they have it not on their mind that I do it. I think I better not ask about it. What do you think?

catherine98

Laura

I actually did measure, but I would guess rather 10cm than 6cm. But it is always a combination wearing height and connection chain length. My target is being able to walk stairs without carefully approaching each stair step.

Mary

Several people in this forum asked why I wore the belt during our engagement. It was about control - his. We live in a liberal city, my friends were liberal, I was studying for an advanced degree, so there was an expectation that we would have an equal marriage. But that was not going to happen. He was going to make the decisions, manage our finances, everything. Don't misunderstand, he's very sweet and incredibly romantic and no, he's not abusive. But he doesn't believe in gender equality. He says it's fundamentally wrong, based on sloppy thinking, and leads to bad marriages. Locking up my sex was his ultimate form of control. Wearing the belt, it was inconceiveable I would ever think of ours as an equal marriage to be.

There was a second reason, but it's not easy to explain. Let me think about how to say it.

Ines

Mary
Are you happy currently?

Laura

Mary We live in a liberal city

In the Valley?

Mary But he doesn't believe in gender equality.

My family thinks the same. So he is not alone in it

Sara2001

Mary Hy Mary, Welcome here. Do you still wear your belt 24/7? It's very likely that I will be a belted wife in the future and I would love to know as much as possible about your organisation around the belt. When and how often will it be opened? What are the rules about it? I'm very curious.

Vanessa

Mary

Even if he's sweet and romantic,I think taking control without your consent is a form of abuse.If you were ok before,you talked about it a lot,why not,but,as it seems it wasn't the case,I think it is not good at all.

What is the second reason?

Ines

I wonder too.

Angelina think it is very bad that in our modern society women should not have equal rights in marriage 🙁
I find it very hard to be happy with that 🙁

Especially if without her consent.If the wife likes it,it's ok,but if it is not the case,that's very wrong.

Angelina

@Amira

are you still allowed to masturbate or are you permanently closed ?

how do you feel emotionally about it?

@catherine98

How are the negotiations going? I hope you get a few more centimeters 🙂
maybe you can make the deal to wear the bands further down and extend the chain length (but only if it helps you)
you still have your release day every 2 weeks or?

@Mary

I think it is very bad that in our modern society women should not have equal rights in marriage 🙁
I find it very hard to be happy with that 🙁

Ines

Angelina

Angelina I think it is very bad that in our modern society women should not have equal rights in marriage 🙁
I find it very hard to be happy with that 🙁

Angelina, you always see this question or black or white, and you forget always the grey tones!
😂
I do not endorse in any way the abuse towards the women, in fact true crimes and abuses against childs and women are the worst, because we are weaker, but I do not feel uncomfortable not being equal to boys, in fact I like feel different.
But, if not equal we are equivalent.

James

Angelina Women don’t have equal rights in marriage. Well, in theory they do, but they hardly have equal opportunities to exercise those rights. I think you know this.

Sara2001

Vanessa I think taking control without your consent is a form of abuse.If you were ok before,you talked about it a lot,why not,but,as it seems it wasn't the case,I think it is not good at all.

Generally I think the same, but if you go into a marriage without beeing forced by someone after this conditions during the engagement, it feels consensual from this point.

I think she could quit the engagement anytime she wants, but she didn't.

Angelina

Sara2001

Sara, good that you're writing about this 😉

I am very worried about @Mary, I am afraid that the engagement is based on serious abuse 🙁

but I always remember that I thought the same thing about Daniel in the beginning and you were able to convey the positive aspects of your relationship to me 😉

so I don't want to be prejudiced and hope that Mary will write again 😃

Vanessa

Sara2001

I agree;she should have quit the relationship when it was forced,if she didn't want it.

Mary I'm happily married

It's the main point.If you're happy like it,it is ok.

Mary The used belt goes into the dishwasher and I put on a fresh, clean one.

It doesn't damage it?

Mary The biggest problem I have is with the thighbands and chastity bra when he goes on business trips. When I'm wearing only the belt, I can do my cardio and pilates. But when he has me wearing accessories, that becomes impossible. So when he's out of town I can't exercise. I don't like those down times.

How long does it last,generally?

Lea Yes I am afraid of it :/

Let's hope it won't happen.You'll know it soon,anyway.

Ines But for sure @strictfather will be glad with it.

😉

Nataly

Welcome!

Nataly

So,you accepted it reluctantly?

Renita Epidemic of chastity belts recently 😃

To be able to wear it often/permanently when the hot times come back.People tend to be more "sexual" in Spring or Summer,I think.

Amira No, they don't require me to wear it permanent, at least not yet. My stepdad says it would be the easiest but I disagree. I said that I need time without it for cleaning and other things. Mom agreed with me that I can not wear it without breaks.

So,you still have some influence on it?

Amira Umm, no one so far said any word about masturbation so I think they have it not on their mind that I do it. I think I better not ask about it. What do you think?

If you have to use the secondary shield,it is partly for it,I think(even if it can prevents some sort of sex,too).

Nataly I was told i am going to wear it till marriage 🙁 and no breaks, have it all the time on me.

Sorry for you!🙁

Mary

Ok,I can understand his idea,even if I find it a bit extreme,especially if the engagement was long...I understand it was awful to not be able to have sex with him,if you were used to(it happened to me when used as a punishment,unable to have sex with my boyfriend/girlfriend anymore,but it was for some weeks).

I imagine the honeymoon was wonderful,however.

Laura I assume he still had the key and could open you anytime. The last step could be to hand the key to somebody else as one my friend did

He probably could open her belt but didn't want to.

Laura Did you ever regret you were not a real virgin on your wedding?

Good question.

Angelina i'm not worried in winter with you 😉, i think in summer it's more likely 🙁

Why?

Laura if a girl gets her belt broken

It should not happen often...

Mary

I'll bundle the answers to several questions into this post. I'm happily married and wear the belt 24x7. It only comes off when he wants it off. That, and also every morning and most evenings when I shower - supervised. The used belt goes into the dishwasher and I put on a fresh, clean one.

The biggest problem I have is with the thighbands and chastity bra when he goes on business trips. When I'm wearing only the belt, I can do my cardio and pilates. But when he has me wearing accessories, that becomes impossible. So when he's out of town I can't exercise. I don't like those down times.

Our marriage is wonderful, much happier than most of my friends'. Since we know who makes the decisions, we never argue about it. Yes, I know it's politically incorrect for me to say, but I don't have equal rights and that's just fine. He's sweet and usually make decisions that will make me happy. What's wrong with that?

Laura

Mary The biggest problem I have is with the thighbands and chastity bra when he goes on business trips.

Did you also have to wear these accessories during the engagement or it was something new for you?

Ines

Mary The used belt goes into the dishwasher

Dishwasher? It have to be nice for neoprene...
But for sure @strictfather will be glad with it.

Mary I put on a fresh, clean one.

And the old is hung to dry, I guess.

Sara2001

Mary Thank you for your answer. Are there any other rules or protocols you have to accept in your marriage? I would love to know anything. I'm sure there are many interesting aspects for me, because I think my (possible) marriage with my current boyfriend may have many similarities with yours. What happens if you don't follow the rules? How and who makes the rules and how big is your influence? It would be great if you can explain as much as you like 🙂

Renita

Mary he used belt goes into the dishwasher and I put on a fresh, clean one.

How many belts do you have in your wardrobe ?

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