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Several people in this forum asked why I wore the belt during our engagement. It was about control - his. We live in a liberal city, my friends were liberal, I was studying for an advanced degree, so there was an expectation that we would have an equal marriage. But that was not going to happen. He was going to make the decisions, manage our finances, everything. Don't misunderstand, he's very sweet and incredibly romantic and no, he's not abusive. But he doesn't believe in gender equality. He says it's fundamentally wrong, based on sloppy thinking, and leads to bad marriages. Locking up my sex was his ultimate form of control. Wearing the belt, it was inconceiveable I would ever think of ours as an equal marriage to be.

There was a second reason, but it's not easy to explain. Let me think about how to say it.

Mary
Are you happy currently?

@Amira

are you still allowed to masturbate or are you permanently closed ?

how do you feel emotionally about it?

@catherine98

How are the negotiations going? I hope you get a few more centimeters
maybe you can make the deal to wear the bands further down and extend the chain length (but only if it helps you)
you still have your release day every 2 weeks or?

@Mary

I think it is very bad that in our modern society women should not have equal rights in marriage
I find it very hard to be happy with that

Mary Hy Mary, Welcome here. Do you still wear your belt 24/7? It's very likely that I will be a belted wife in the future and I would love to know as much as possible about your organisation around the belt. When and how often will it be opened? What are the rules about it? I'm very curious.

Mary

Even if he's sweet and romantic,I think taking control without your consent is a form of abuse.If you were ok before,you talked about it a lot,why not,but,as it seems it wasn't the case,I think it is not good at all.

What is the second reason?

Ines

I wonder too.

Angelina think it is very bad that in our modern society women should not have equal rights in marriage
I find it very hard to be happy with that

Especially if without her consent.If the wife likes it,it's ok,but if it is not the case,that's very wrong.

Vanessa I think taking control without your consent is a form of abuse.If you were ok before,you talked about it a lot,why not,but,as it seems it wasn't the case,I think it is not good at all.

Generally I think the same, but if you go into a marriage without beeing forced by someone after this conditions during the engagement, it feels consensual from this point.

I think she could quit the engagement anytime she wants, but she didn't.

Sara2001

Sara, good that you're writing about this

I am very worried about @Mary, I am afraid that the engagement is based on serious abuse

but I always remember that I thought the same thing about Daniel in the beginning and you were able to convey the positive aspects of your relationship to me

so I don't want to be prejudiced and hope that Mary will write again

I'll bundle the answers to several questions into this post. I'm happily married and wear the belt 24x7. It only comes off when he wants it off. That, and also every morning and most evenings when I shower - supervised. The used belt goes into the dishwasher and I put on a fresh, clean one.

The biggest problem I have is with the thighbands and chastity bra when he goes on business trips. When I'm wearing only the belt, I can do my cardio and pilates. But when he has me wearing accessories, that becomes impossible. So when he's out of town I can't exercise. I don't like those down times.

Our marriage is wonderful, much happier than most of my friends'. Since we know who makes the decisions, we never argue about it. Yes, I know it's politically incorrect for me to say, but I don't have equal rights and that's just fine. He's sweet and usually make decisions that will make me happy. What's wrong with that?

@Lea

yes i was very shocked i got it for my birthday and i have to say that there could not have been a worse present for my 16th birthday
if you're scared of it, just ask

@Mary

ok that sounds a little better and there is nothing wrong with it as long as it is acceptable for you but for most women it would not be

Mary The used belt goes into the dishwasher

Dishwasher? It have to be nice for neoprene...
But for sure @strictfather will be glad with it.

Mary I put on a fresh, clean one.

And the old is hung to dry, I guess.

Hi to everyone. I am Nataly, 16 years old. I am glad that I have found this forum and to know that I am not alone in this.

Nataly

hello nataly, welcome to the forum

would you like to describe your situation in more detail?

Angelina hello and thank you! well, i am from the US, living with parents, and well...i used to masturbate a bit more and got caught few times so they decided to buy me the belt. i did not like the idea but i rather accepted it than to argue. so its been 3 weeks now for me.

Laura northwestern

Mary Thank you for your answer. Are there any other rules or protocols you have to accept in your marriage? I would love to know anything. I'm sure there are many interesting aspects for me, because I think my (possible) marriage with my current boyfriend may have many similarities with yours. What happens if you don't follow the rules? How and who makes the rules and how big is your influence? It would be great if you can explain as much as you like