catherine98

there are news from you ?, if so please do a small update as soon as you have read all posts 😉

i know it's hard to keep track, i'm writing here every day and some days i couldn't keep up

    I'd like to introduce myself. I'm Mary and I live in the US. I was an unwed in chastity during my engagement. My fiance locked it on me when I agreed to his proposal. I quickly came to hate the wretched thing and especially the accessories. And since we had a long engagement, it all went on forever.

    It seemed so unfair I almost called the engagement off several times. But somehow I managed to see it through and eventually, I came to accept the belt. When the day came, I wore it under my wedding gown. As I walked down the aisle, I was proud to be wearing it.

      Mary Welcome Mary. How long are you married now?

      Mary

      welcome to the forum 😃

      How long have you been wearing the belt?
      How old are you? (ask just out of interest)
      What do you mean accessories?

      @Mary , welcome to the forum.

      Mary My fiance locked it on me when I agreed to his proposal.

      What was a particular reason for him to lock you on after the engagement?

        Laura What was a particular reason for him to lock you on after the engagement?

        It would sound logical "to protect his assets", but engagement is not marriage yet. So I have the same question.

        I am back here after a couple of things did happen. My soon to be stepfather is now my stepfather and I agreed on him to adopt me and I get used better to wear the belt. I now can sleep with it on without problems and feel pretty much free even though my private area is not free.
        Now I am forward looking to two weeks of no school.

          Angelina there are news from you ?, if so please do a small update as soon as you have read all posts

          Well, there is not much news about me. Just busy in the last weeks and now looking forward for christmas break. Maybe the only news is that i am in negotiation with my mom about connection chain length.

            Mary

            Welcome here!

            I am also curious about your full story. Why did your fiance want to keep you in chastity? To avoid cheating when being out alone? Or to avoid also sex with him?

            Seems you have not been a convinced wearer like me.

            Amira

            Welcome back!
            I am glad to hear that you cope with it! It is not self-evident after so short time, especially since wearing a cb is not always nice.
            Do your parents require 24/7 wearing after getting used to it? Or is it already the case?

              Laura

              I actually did measure, but I would guess rather 10cm than 6cm. But it is always a combination wearing height and connection chain length. My target is being able to walk stairs without carefully approaching each stair step.

              Angelina but with lea i don't think there is any danger at the moment.

              I hope so,for her.

              Angelina (if the parents know about it)

              I wonder if they know it,too.

              catherine98

              Glad you resume to post here!🙂

              Angelina

              I agree,not easy to stay up to date on the posts here.

              Mary

              Welcome!

              It is unusual here,your case is interesting.

              However,I'm not sure you did the right choice to stay engaged if it was forced on you against your will.

              But,at least,you seem to be happy now,even if it was hard.I understand you were proud to wear it under your wedding dress,I would probably do the same,even if allowed to take it off before(which is very unlikely).

              Had you to wear it agin,since married?

              Amira

              Glad you can manage it.It will make things a bit better.

              catherine98

              Still single?If yes,is it still due to your chastity belt?

              Several people in this forum asked why I wore the belt during our engagement. It was about control - his. We live in a liberal city, my friends were liberal, I was studying for an advanced degree, so there was an expectation that we would have an equal marriage. But that was not going to happen. He was going to make the decisions, manage our finances, everything. Don't misunderstand, he's very sweet and incredibly romantic and no, he's not abusive. But he doesn't believe in gender equality. He says it's fundamentally wrong, based on sloppy thinking, and leads to bad marriages. Locking up my sex was his ultimate form of control. Wearing the belt, it was inconceiveable I would ever think of ours as an equal marriage to be.

              There was a second reason, but it's not easy to explain. Let me think about how to say it.

                Mary We live in a liberal city

                In the Valley?

                Mary But he doesn't believe in gender equality.

                My family thinks the same. So he is not alone in it

                @Amira

                are you still allowed to masturbate or are you permanently closed ?

                how do you feel emotionally about it?

                @catherine98

                How are the negotiations going? I hope you get a few more centimeters 🙂
                maybe you can make the deal to wear the bands further down and extend the chain length (but only if it helps you)
                you still have your release day every 2 weeks or?

                @Mary

                I think it is very bad that in our modern society women should not have equal rights in marriage 🙁
                I find it very hard to be happy with that 🙁

                  Mary Hy Mary, Welcome here. Do you still wear your belt 24/7? It's very likely that I will be a belted wife in the future and I would love to know as much as possible about your organisation around the belt. When and how often will it be opened? What are the rules about it? I'm very curious.