Sasha thank you. This is the trickiest part for me. As you have guessed I'm very much into consent. As soon as I perceive that there is no consent I stop. I can understand that wanting to wear a chastity belt can easily fall in the CNC (consent not consent) environment. And this is the uncharted waters I was talking about.

      Milord I reckon the key is to recognize when "I want out" means "the belt is doing its job" and when it means "I no longer consent to wearing". In the second case, the belt has to come off as quickly as possible. In the former, your job as a keyholder is to encourage her to keep wearing it.

          youdontknowme And that is a pretty fine line. I’d imagine having been with her as a dominant partner for so long though will make seeing it much easier

              Sasha

              Yes, but my kind of relationship is very fragile. It is based on a trust you can't even imagine. Most people never experience giving up everything, the complete surrender needed to be what we are. And when you reach it... You are very careful to keep it, because the fall can be devastating. This is why Im so prudent.

                It sounds both sill and obvious but don't lose the key. Long ago, after updating the standard locks on a belt to a high security Medico lock, my keyholder misplaced the key. It took some sort of frantic searching for about four hours to find. There was a backup key but it was not easily accessible. There was no immediate need to remove the belt so it was not an issue. It bothered the keyholder a lot more than it bothered me. The belt could have been removed mechanically, if necessary. The places she had been were limited between the time they had the key and the time they discovered it was missing. It was just a matter of careful and exhaustive search. But the keyholder felt they had damaged my trust despite my assurances otherwise.
                Don't lose the key!

                  Tjc

                  Right. In my opinion to be with the key is absolutely intolerable.
                  Not only to lose it, but keep it into my range, it would add a lot of distress for me.

                      Tjc exactly! That’s a great suggestion
                      Thank you

                        Ines Not only to lose it, but keep it into my range, it would add a lot of distress for me.

                        Not very clear. Can you explain

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                            Milord

                            Yes, if I have into my range the key, it is a load over my shoulders that I do not have to carry.
                            All the drawbacks of a chastity belt and 0 advantages.
                            Moreover, if you have a keyholder is because he/she cares about you. If she do not care about the key do not care about you.

                              Milord What are the common errors made by a keyholder?

                              let's start with the most obvious. not asking if the wearer even wants a belt and a key holder

                              then of course everything that concerns the topic of safety and hygiene. A key holder must be aware that he/she is fully responsible for everything that the person in the belt can no longer do independently

                                  Angelina let's start with the most obvious. not asking if the wearer even wants a belt and a key holder

                                  I can't understand. It's an error asking or not asking?
                                  If the error is asking, can you explain better? Because not asking is clearly abusive

                                  then of course everything that concerns the topic of safety and hygiene. A key holder must be aware that he/she is fully responsible for everything that the person in the belt c

                                  This is a good suggestion. Easily overlooked

                                      Milord What are the common errors made by a keyholder?

                                      Easy access to the keys.

                                        Milord I can't understand. It's an error asking or not asking?

                                        i meant that slightly ironically, but because there are still girls and women in situations like mine it was important for me to address that lack of consensus is the biggest mistake a keyholder can make

                                            Milord have been unable to find a similar post, so I open mine. What are the common errors made by a keyholder? How to be avoided? Something you would ask your keyholder?
                                            Open to everyone of course

                                            Lax security.

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