Milord That approach works well when in a situation where the ideas themselves are primary (like this forum). However, when trying to navigate a personal relationship we sometimes need to accept and work around unreasonable and/or irrational ideas.

To use Tasha's situation as an example, if she completely disregards her parents' opinion it will probably damage the relationship. Thad doesn't mean she has to do what they want all the time, but at least take their opinion into consideration and show them that she takes it seriously and they are more likely to accept a compromise she is willing to make.

      pestulens I agree, but when it is out of convenience, I will not call this accepting idea, i will call it accepting situation.

      On a personal opinion, that someone must accept unfair limit to her personal freedom cannot be accepted even as a situation. But this is me.

        Tasha Like when going outside or when I'm left alone at home.

        And it didn't happen yet or what?

            Renita we did go out once with my parents, me and her weren't belted because we were together with my parents. They were by my side while shopping around.

            But I'm sure if I were to go out by myself they will bring the belt

                pestulens show them that she takes it seriously and they are more likely to accept a compromise she is willing to make

                Yeah, I think me allowing to be belted while outside probably eased me into getting out of the belt.

                I would still like to keep a healthy relationship, but if things don't pan out I'm absolutely willing to break the relationship. But again I think of my sister, wouldn't want to leave her unless she can do something of her own

                    Tasha But I'm sure if I were to go out by myself they will bring the belt

                    I'm asking if you didn't go outside for almost a week beside that shopping?

                        Renita not really. Apart from walks around my house, no where. I don't go out a lot, mainly I stay inside (I prefer to be inside too)

                            Tasha Do you have to ask parents' permission to go outside alone?

                                Milord So in my opinion accepting is recognising that the idea is valid, even if I disagree on it

                                well, maybe i'm too much of a free speech advocate, but for me, any opinion is valid for now, i just don't have to share it. otherwise @pestulens has described well what I mean

                                pestulens To use Tasha's situation as an example, if she completely disregards her parents' opinion it will probably damage the relationship. Thad doesn't mean she has to do what they want all the time, but at least take their opinion into consideration and show them that she takes it seriously and they are more likely to accept a compromise she is willing to make.

                                That's exactly how it is

                                    Renita when I was belted, i used to tell them where i was going. I don't really have to ask permission per say.

                                    Today morning when I went to drop my sister off at school I did wear the belt. I told them I was going out, they put the belt on me. Once I was back I got it removed.

                                    Being belted for short periods hasn't been a big issue so far, I'll keep this going for now.

                                        Tasha Being belted for short periods hasn't been a big issue so far, I'll keep this going for now.

                                        it will also just be a big thing should you meet someone you want to have sex with

                                          Tasha I told them I was going out, they put the belt on me

                                          Did you even have to tell them?

                                              Tasha Is it a rule you tell them where you’re going or is it more of a courtesy?

                                                  Renita Did you even have to tell them?

                                                  Not all the time

                                                  Sasha Is it a rule you tell them

                                                  No it was more of from my own side. I feel it's important for them to know where I am incase I don't come home.

                                                        Tasha Not all the time

                                                        Then the belt is optional now. You can go wherever you wish without letting your parents know.

                                                        Tasha I feel it's important for them to know where I am incase I don't come home.

                                                        Why not just give them a call in such case?

                                                              Renita Why not just give them a call in such case?

                                                              I think it might be more about letting them know where she would be in case she didn't come home and couldn't call because something had happened to her. Even I try to keep a friend aware via text message where I am and how long I expect to be there so if something were to happen, someone would have an idea where to start looking.

                                                                Renita Then the belt is optional now. You can go wherever you wish without letting your parents know.

                                                                @Tasha
                                                                Renita is absolutely right, how is it supposed to be controlled that you wear the belt outside the house? what happens if you don't stick to the rules?

                                                                    Angelina @Renita I suppose that she will be belted when she gets out. Normally when someone gets out others family members notice it.

                                                                        Milord Normally when someone gets out others family members notice it.

                                                                        If they are always home.