Tasha's stuff

Angelina

Tasha Thier opinion would be to he belted at home which is not what I'm looking to be in again.

Milord Disagree of course

please read again, i said accept the opinion of the parents and not follow the opinion

Milord

Angelina and i disagree on accepting their opinion.

Angelina

Milord and i disagree on accepting their opinion.

hey, it's nothing different than what I often do to you here. I don't agree with you on some points, but I accept your opinion and try to understand it. @Tasha should do nothing different either.

Milord

Angelina

Maybe we give a different meaning to the word “accepting”. I don’t accept opinion I disagree with. I respect the right to express them, but I don’t respect the idea per se if for me it’s completely wrong. I normally give a lot of explanation on why I don’t accept them.

So in my opinion accepting is recognising that the idea is valid, even if I disagree on it
For example I accept the idea @Ines being belted. Do I think she should? No. But I accept she want this and happy about it.

Hope the example clarify my position.

pestulens

Milord That approach works well when in a situation where the ideas themselves are primary (like this forum). However, when trying to navigate a personal relationship we sometimes need to accept and work around unreasonable and/or irrational ideas.

To use Tasha's situation as an example, if she completely disregards her parents' opinion it will probably damage the relationship. Thad doesn't mean she has to do what they want all the time, but at least take their opinion into consideration and show them that she takes it seriously and they are more likely to accept a compromise she is willing to make.

Angelina

Milord So in my opinion accepting is recognising that the idea is valid, even if I disagree on it

well, maybe i'm too much of a free speech advocate, but for me, any opinion is valid for now, i just don't have to share it. otherwise @pestulens has described well what I mean

pestulens To use Tasha's situation as an example, if she completely disregards her parents' opinion it will probably damage the relationship. Thad doesn't mean she has to do what they want all the time, but at least take their opinion into consideration and show them that she takes it seriously and they are more likely to accept a compromise she is willing to make.

That's exactly how it is

Milord

pestulens I agree, but when it is out of convenience, I will not call this accepting idea, i will call it accepting situation.

On a personal opinion, that someone must accept unfair limit to her personal freedom cannot be accepted even as a situation. But this is me.

Tasha

pestulens show them that she takes it seriously and they are more likely to accept a compromise she is willing to make

Yeah, I think me allowing to be belted while outside probably eased me into getting out of the belt.

I would still like to keep a healthy relationship, but if things don't pan out I'm absolutely willing to break the relationship. But again I think of my sister, wouldn't want to leave her unless she can do something of her own

Renita

Tasha Like when going outside or when I'm left alone at home.

And it didn't happen yet or what?

Tasha

Renita we did go out once with my parents, me and her weren't belted because we were together with my parents. They were by my side while shopping around.

But I'm sure if I were to go out by myself they will bring the belt

Renita

Tasha But I'm sure if I were to go out by myself they will bring the belt

I'm asking if you didn't go outside for almost a week beside that shopping?

Milord

Tasha for me this is exactly how it should be.

Tasha

Renita not really. Apart from walks around my house, no where. I don't go out a lot, mainly I stay inside (I prefer to be inside too)

Renita

Tasha Do you have to ask parents' permission to go outside alone?

Tasha

Renita when I was belted, i used to tell them where i was going. I don't really have to ask permission per say.

Today morning when I went to drop my sister off at school I did wear the belt. I told them I was going out, they put the belt on me. Once I was back I got it removed.

Being belted for short periods hasn't been a big issue so far, I'll keep this going for now.

Angelina

Tasha Being belted for short periods hasn't been a big issue so far, I'll keep this going for now.

it will also just be a big thing should you meet someone you want to have sex with

Renita

Tasha I told them I was going out, they put the belt on me

Did you even have to tell them?

Sasha

Tasha Is it a rule you tell them where you’re going or is it more of a courtesy?

Tasha

Renita Did you even have to tell them?

Not all the time

Sasha Is it a rule you tell them

No it was more of from my own side. I feel it's important for them to know where I am incase I don't come home.

Renita

Tasha Not all the time

Then the belt is optional now. You can go wherever you wish without letting your parents know.

Tasha I feel it's important for them to know where I am incase I don't come home.

Why not just give them a call in such case?

Tjc

Renita Why not just give them a call in such case?

I think it might be more about letting them know where she would be in case she didn't come home and couldn't call because something had happened to her. Even I try to keep a friend aware via text message where I am and how long I expect to be there so if something were to happen, someone would have an idea where to start looking.

Angelina

Renita Then the belt is optional now. You can go wherever you wish without letting your parents know.

@Tasha
Renita is absolutely right, how is it supposed to be controlled that you wear the belt outside the house? what happens if you don't stick to the rules?

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