Happy to see the nuance in this. Also happy you added an option for exceptional circumstances. Honestly that’s my category. But I voted it’s only right if the request comes from the child, a parent seriously proposing it carries a certain expectation with it.

    Sasha thanks for voting. I’ve tryied to add all situations based on what I read, and I thought about you while adding this. Also, I can’t imagine in which real life cases I can consider parental belting right, by I’m not completely closed to the possibility. There are cases in which murder is the right thing to do!

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        i have decided in favour of option 5. normally it should only be ok if the request comes from the child. one exception: if the child visibly shows an unhealthy attitude towards his/her sexuality, in which case therapy would be recommended and the belt should only act as a complementary tool

          Angelina I’d say in that scenario therapy should be the first step, just in case the chastity would make that specific situation worse

              Sasha I’d say in that scenario therapy should be the first step, just in case the chastity would make that specific situation worse

              of course, the belt should only be used as a supplementary tool if it appears to be conducive to the therapy goal

                Thanks for opening the poll. I'm afraid I still haven't found a choice that really reflects my position. I guess it depends on additional context, whether I could call it right or wrong.

                However, something you wrote made me wonder:

                Milord Also, I can’t imagine in which real life cases I can consider parental belting right, [...]

                Still? After reading this forum and its diverse cases (incl. the consensual ones) for months?

                    Owl Still? After reading this forum and its diverse cases (incl. the consensual ones) for months?

                    Especially after reading this forum. Just in case of children initiated (Sasha) or very enthusiastic (Ines) it's just unhealthy instead of abusive. But I still don't consider it a good thing.

                    If the purpose of the forum is convincing that parental belting is even remotely acceptable with me it failed completely .

                        Milord Curious how my situation is an unhealthy one, but everyone is entitled to their opinion. Personally, it has been a very positive thing in my life, and was a great help in stopping some very self destructive behavior.

                            Sasha
                            You know your situation much better than me, so of course it's my opinion.
                            Here https://unwedchastity.org/d/1006-why-it-is-wrong-for-a-parent-to-use-chastity-on-offspring

                            A lot of course cannot be applied to you of course, but a couple of them are still true:
                            Having a keyholder means being emotionally dependent
                            Preventing the possibility weaken willpower. No need to excercing temperance.
                            Phisically limit doing experiences (traveling, going to beach, relocating away, etc)

                            Then, doing unhealthy things is not so wrong, it happens to everyone.
                            But it will not convince me it's a good idea, and your situation is not something I will suggest to a friend with exactly the same issues.

                                Milord A lot of course cannot be applied to you of course, but a couple of them are still true:
                                Having a keyholder means being emotionally dependent

                                Lots of things mean being emotionally dependent. Lack of emotional dependence or connection is a sign of poor mental health.

                                Preventing the possibility weaken willpower. No need to excercing temperance.
                                Phisically limit doing experiences (traveling, going to beach, relocating away, etc)

                                This does not necessarily apply to a correctly fitted belt and a well design program.

                                Then, doing unhealthy things is not so wrong, it happens to everyone.
                                But it will not convince me it's a good idea, and your situation is not something I will suggest to a friend with exactly the same issues.

                                You made a good poll but many, if not all, of these things are not yes or no, black or white issues.

                                I am curious what you would suggest to a friend in the same situation @Sasha found herself in, given to ongoing success of her solution.

                                    Tjc
                                    Lots of things mean being emotionally dependent. Lack of emotional dependence or connection is a sign of poor mental health.

                                    Dependance and connection are far from being synonims
                                    Lack of dependence means being an INdependent adult.

                                    Phisically limit doing experiences (traveling, going to beach, relocating away, etc)

                                    This does not necessarily apply to a correctly fitted belt and a well design program.

                                    Now you will explain me how to go to a gym or beach with a chastity belt fitted with tight bands.

                                    Then, doing unhealthy things is not so wrong, it happens to everyone.
                                    But it will not convince me it's a good idea, and your situation is not something I will suggest to a friend with exactly the same issues.

                                    You made a good poll but many, if not all, of these things are not yes or no, black or white issues.

                                    But you can express opinions. This poll is about our opinions. For me it's pretty black, as every parental abuse. Beating is another pretty black, as it is any kind of sexual interactions. There are shades of grey? Sometimes, but not always. Sometimes, for some things, they are just wrong. FGM, minor prostitution are examples, but also limiting access to body, conditional love, etc

                                    I am curious what you would suggest to a friend in the same situation @Sasha found herself in, given to ongoing success of her solution.

                                    Situation can be the same, but people are different. Girls outside control happen. Chastity belt doesn’t . Removing from bad environment / committed to specific studies / therapy / transfer into protected environment are all valid solutions.

                                    Sasha is happy this way? Ok, I have no intention to undermine his happiness or satisfaction. Do I believe that it can work for someone else? No, but again it’s my opinion

                                        @WriterAlexis I am a bit confused. In one poll you write you are belted by your parents and in this poll you vote it is never acceptable to be belted by ones parents?

                                          Milord Just wanted to clarify something. It is not my chastity that keeps me from moving, it’s my siblings. I made a commitment to them that I’d at least try to be there for them since our father can’t be. Ended up with a job where both mom and I financially support them.
                                          Also, when unhealthy behavior becomes self destructive, extreme measures may be warranted. I choose this path and it’s worked pretty well. Probably wouldn’t for others and that’s fine. But I’ll say this. When a person doing what I was hits rock bottom, what they’re willing to do to get out of that hole is virtually unlimited. It’s a place not many can imagine being

                                              Milord Then, doing unhealthy things is not so wrong, it happens to everyone.

                                              of course it's not wrong, but if there's a risk that it could easily escalate, you want to protect yourself, that's how i've always understood @Sascha

                                              Bryan I am a bit confused. In one poll you write you are belted by your parents and in this poll you vote it is never acceptable to be belted by ones parents?

                                              why are you confused? if someone is involuntarily in the belt, that's the logical answer

                                                    Sasha Allow me to clarify from my point of view. You know already that I have great respect for your successes. But better to repeat here. I think you have accomplished an enormous amount, and if this is thanks to the belt, then belting yourself has been a very good thing, even if I think that it is a mere tool.

                                                    I think that what worked for you is not something that can be widely applied, on the contrary, is a one-on-a-million-a-million (even less) case. This is my opinion. It can be shared or not, but in this poll I tried to capture the various feelings about parental belting. And I honestly don't think that your own situation can apply to anyone else.

                                                    Sasha When a person doing what I was hits rock bottom, what they’re willing to do to get out of that hole is virtually unlimited. It’s a place not many can imagine being

                                                    I disagree. I had my own sharing of stories. Most people I knew when they hit the bottom start to dig. You are a wonderful exception.

                                                    I hope I have explained my self.

                                                        Milord Now you will explain me how to go to a gym or beach with a chastity belt fitted with tight bands

                                                        That is a good point. If the wearer is required to have thigh bands, then the gym or beach would be difficult (but not impossible) and probably not enjoyable. Most gyms and beaches are public enough that thigh bands would not be necessary to hold the legs closed to prevent attempts to defeat the belt.
                                                        I wear a belt to the gym, the pool, and the beach but I do not have thigh bands. They are less useful or necessary for male wearers.

                                                          Angelina My impression was that @WriterAlexis was an adult who was choosing to remain in her belt for various benefits, something more akin to answer 3 (or 4)

                                                          WriterAlexis While my views are plainly known to my family, it is my intention to leverage my situation for maximum personal benefit. We are all dealt hands we do not choose, be it our families, our economic status, place of origin, and cultural instruction. The bedrock principle of all waves of feminism is grounded in personal choice. My choice is to engage with my local representatives of the Patriarchy in such a way as to 1) reap any benefits available, 2) improve my situation to a personally tolerable level, amd 3) refuse to cede my philosophical viewpoints by acknowledging that it is necessarily a temporary state of affairs and I will ultimately prevail over them in short order.

                                                          @WriterAlexis Am I misunderstanding your situation?