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PigtailSam

pestulens I have. She doesn’t want it. But she doesn’t want me to stop paying for college more. She knew if she didn’t improve her grades I’d either stop paying for it or we would do something drastic. I did tell her I was considering this option off she didn’t improve her grades. So far she hasn’t. She is a smart girl, but she isn’t trying because she is hanging out with her boyfriend all the time and probably haveingvsex.

Laura

PigtailSam I have. She doesn’t want it.

Did she tell her reasons?

Padre

PigtailSam
There can be various reasons for her behavior. puberty, spoiled, no awareness of the consequences of behavior, or mental problems. In the latter case you need a professional. You can outline a scenario what her future may look like if she continues as she does now. You can also outline a different scenario how you think there can be a better future for her and what you think what is needed. If you can't get to terms, it is probably time to call in a professional. He will undoubtedly also hold her a mirror ahead. That can be very confronting. She will then get the choice between a few options, continue or change. It may be that she is opposed to her parents, but from an outsider, the professional, maybe he/she can make her think. She will then probably get a cooling -off period of a few days, after which she will have to tell what it will be as far as she is concerned.

Conrad

PigtailSam

I think that the belt would only marginally improve your daughter’s behavior. If her boyfriend has half a brain he will find a way around it. And since she doesn’t want it anyway, I wouldn’t recommend wasting your money these things are expensive. Instead maybe talk her into psychological counseling, a good counselor would be a better use of money than a belt, but only if she is willing in either case

PigtailSam

Laura I just asked her specifically. She said “it will be uncomfortable won’t it? I have sexual needs all the time. I can’t even think about not taking care of that whenever I want.” Then she said “you also know I have sex with ***** right? I don’t want to give that up”

Perhaps I should start a thread to discuss this? I don’t want to fill up the into page with conversations

Laura

PigtailSam Perhaps I should start a thread to discuss this?

Yes, please

PigtailSam

Padre https://unwedchastity.org/d/1117-my-daughters-potential-chastity

Trying not to jam up the into so started a separate thread

Sasha

Padre You can outline a scenario what her future may look like if she continues as she does now.

There's a thread on the forum already she can read, probably worth showing her daughter.

Sasha

PigtailSam what would your suggestions be to help control a girl who spend way to much time with her boy friend, thinks about sex was to much and is failing out of college?

Well not forcing a chastity belt on her under threat of being cut off for one.
Let her crash and burn, and be there to help her pick up the pieces. But beyond making her aware of the consequences, she's presumably a legal adult, it's time she acts it and gets to experience the fallout of bad choices.

PigtailSam

Sasha https://unwedchastity.org/d/1117-my-daughters-potential-chastity. Discus in this tread so we don’t fill up introductions with a long discussion

PigtailSam

“> Sasha Let her crash and burn, and be there to help her pick up the pieces. But beyond making her aware of the consequences, she's presumably a legal adult, it's time she acts it and gets to experience the fallout of bad choices”

Some things like pregnancy can not be undone. She doesn’t care about consequences. I’d rather her not fail college, but that is not as big a deal as getting pregnant

Maija

Sin since when has this kind of language been allowed on the forum?

Laura

Maija Australian English 😂

MissBlossom

Maija since when has this kind of language been allowed on the forum?

Yeah, when she says

Sin Get to grips

It sounds like she's talking about male me time. So scandalous! lol

Kaja

PigtailSam She needs help with school. No medieval bullshit about sex life. In the next step will you burn her for witchraft?

Angelina

PigtailSam

welcome to the forum 🙂

hanatan

Hi, I'm Hana (not real name). I wear a Fancy Steel p1 belt, reluctantly but willingly.

About me: I live with my dad and my mom, somewhere in western US in a pretty LDS area. I have two much older brothers. I'm a vegan (for the animals, I eat waaaaayyyy too much junk food for it to be healthy), and I like anime (kinda a weeb ngl), crime novels, and gaming.

I've read the forum for support for a while but feel like saying hi, not sure how much I'll post.

Maija

hanatan welcome to the forum! Nice to meet you

pestulens

hanatan Welcom. You will probably get a lot of questions but feel free to share as much or as little as you are comfortable with. Also, feel free to ask any questions you have.

Laura

hanatan How old are you?

Kaja

hanatan Nice to meet you!

hanatan

Maija thank u!

Maija

hanatan is that common in your community?

hanatan

Maija No not really. I know of two other girls who wear or did wear. But it's not a super public thing, just because our parents are close church friends.

Milord

hanatan

Welcome

PigtailSam

hanatan how did they convince you to wear it if your reluctant?

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