PigtailSam She is failing her collage courses. She spends to much time at her boyfriend’s dorm and isn’t studying

Did you know about this before she started college?

PigtailSam My proposal was to make her wear a chastity belt if she wants me to keep paying for college

You should have done it long time ago. College is always risky place for a girl.
https://unwedchastity.org/d/5-chastity-belts-in-colleges-and-unversities

PigtailSam not being able to pleasure herself, and missing sex with her bf

What is more important for her?

          Milord she won’t hate me. We are very close. I don’t plane to force this on her. Is plan to talk her into it and incentivize her to accept it.

              pestulens she can remove an iud if she wants to. (At least I think they can be removed). Also I’d rather not force her to take medicine she doesn’t need. But I get that an iud might not be as bad as a belt. But it does seem worse to me forcing her to take birth control.

                  pestulens Other concerns: dose your daughter live at home? If not, how would you handle hygiene?
                  Also, how involved is the boyfriend? If he cairs about her than maby he would be willing to encourage her to study.

                  Just figured out how to quote lol

                  She does live at home. Her bf really brings out the worst in her. He doesn’t encourage her to study and work hard.

                      Laura Did you know about this before she started college?

                      I’ve always known about her poor study habits but she managed to get by in highschool without much studying. As I mentioned she is really smart. She just doesn’t apply herself. In highschool the material was easy enough she didn’t have to try hard. She met the boy friend in college. He has been a poor influence on her.

                          Laura You should have done it long time ago. College is always risky place for a girl.

                          So your for her being belted? So far I’ve gotten mostly negative responses.

                              PigtailSam she can remove an iud if she wants to. (At least I think they can be removed).

                              She could get it removed if she wants, but my understanding is that you would need to go to the doctor for that, so it isn't something that she could do on the spur of the moment. It might depend on the specific model though, so that would be something to consider when evaluating the option.

                              PigtailSam But it does seem worse to me forcing her to take birth control.

                              Is she opposed to the idea of taking berth control? I was assuming she just couldn't take it reliably but if she actually doesn't want to then that is a different question.

                              PigtailSam Her bf really brings out the worst in her. He doesn’t encourage her to study and work hard.

                              That is unfortunate.

                              PigtailSam who is Jenna?

                              @Jenna is someone who posted a fictional story here and tried to pass it off as a true account, using several fake accounts in the process. There are a few similarities between the way her story started and what you have written, so I can see why @Philip is reminded of her but I think his accusation is a little pre-mature.

                              As someone who dealt with some of the same issues (I am ADD), I might suggest that you involve her more in the process of deciding how to deal with this. There should be something in place to provide accountability but if she has a voice in what that looks like it is more likely she will respond well. You can suggest chastity as one of several options and ask her to come up with her own ideas.
                              This assumes that she actually wants to do well in college and is just having issues putting in the work. If she doesn't value her grades then leaving school and finding something else to do is probably for the best.

                                        PigtailSam She met the boy friend in college. He has been a poor influence on her.

                                        And you couldn't predict this?

                                        PigtailSam So your for her being belted?

                                        Yes, but it might be too late.

                                              PigtailSam Damien no, but I am faithful, married, and have a decent career, so there isn’t really a need to fix my sexual behavior.

                                              How can you expect her to accept something that you yourself reject, and for which she has no role model to follow? If you don't lead the way, who will help her to navigate the practical and emotional challenges that she will face? Who will be able to tell her "I understand" when she needs sympathy in adjusting to the feeling of constant restraint or the occasional urge to just not have something locked on her body?

                                              And since you have your life together already and don't have the additional challenges that she faces, won't it be much easier for you to adjust to wearing a belt without a role model than it would be for her?

                                              Also, have you really NEVER had a little fun by yourself?

                                              Have you discussed this with your husband? Is he unwilling to hold your keys?

                                              Here is an excerpt from a post by a mother who wears a belt and also has belted daughters. She's not a native English speaker so the grammar is imperfect but I think she gets her point across.

                                              Tere Actually, we all need it, at least the women who believe in the values of chastity.
                                              Along with the most obvious consequence of avoid sexual activity of women while carrying it, the belt also has other implications for our lives.
                                              On the one hand, it makes us have to endure, at times, our needs, and to have to focus on other tasks, despite the imperative appetite of our body to surrender to pleasure.
                                              And secondly, the combination of belt and beloved man, makes me a much more loving wife, and (Ines do not read this), I think my husband will have few complaints in more than 23 years of marriage.

                                              Later in the same post, she also writes about why it is so important for a daughter to value what she will receive from a chastity belt, and the negative consequences if she doesn't.

                                              Tere If chastity, mettle, or surrender are not values of the girl (who will have equally respectable ones), wearing a belt can only be a source of anger and grudge.

                                              If you need to bribe/blackmail her into wearing a belt, it will be a disaster. The only way it will work (and I'm not at all convinced this is a good idea, but...) is if you can persuade her that it is truly in her best interest, that it supports her values and goals, and that you are there to help her feel understood and companioned on the journey by leading by example.

                                                      MissBlossom Here is an excerpt from a post by a mother who wears a belt and also has belted daughters

                                                      And one of the daughters is @Ines

                                                        MissBlossom interesting idea. I’m not totally against it, but I’m sure my husband would be. I wouldn’t be a good role model if he inlocks me all the time for sex but she can’t have sex with her boy friend.

                                                          MissBlossom
                                                          Oh and I did have fun when I was 16. That why she was born. I’d like her not to make the same mistakes. I love her and don’t regret my choices, but life would have been much easier for DJI had her at 22 or 23.

                                                            Laura And you couldn't predict this?

                                                            I didn’t think she would find a guys so quickly and beckon so distracted by him. In highschool it was mostly self pleasure.

                                                                pestulens There should be something in place to provide accountability but if she has a voice in what that looks like it is more likely she will respond well. You can suggest chastity as one of several options and ask her to come up with her own ideas.

                                                                It is a discussion at this point. It’s hard because she doesn’t care that she is doing badly. She really doesn’t think about consequences for her actions which makes it so dangerous

                                                                  @PigtailSam I have advocated for the use of a belt to help with academic success but I do not think a belt will help your daughter. If is issue is that she spends too much time with the boyfriend, wearing a chastity belt will not change that unless he chooses to stop seeing her because she cannot have vaginal sex with him. He may choose to visit greener pastures as one of @jenna's nieces's boyfriend did. :-)
                                                                  The poor impulse control is best dealt with by counseling or therapy.
                                                                  If you do go the route of using a belt to help, I think it should be because she sees it as an advantage and useful to her and chooses to wear on her own and enlists you as a keyholder. The arrangement should have a clear and complete agreement on what the mutual responsibilities will be, what the conditions for terminating the belt wear (including a possible mandatory, specific cooling off period), and how success will be measured.
                                                                  I agree with @MissBlossom that you should set the example by wearing a belt yourself, primarily to have good answers to complaints about comfort.
                                                                  As mentioned by others, a chastity belt is not the best form of contraception for women. Although IUDs can be removed, it is a medical procedure that would not go unnoticed if she is living at home and covered by family health insurance, assuming you are in the US. This may be less noticeable elsewhere. Implantable contraceptives are available and less likely to cause physical issues. If she is as smart as you say she is, she should recognize to value of preventing unwanted pregnancy until she is ready for that responsibility.

                                                                    Tjc If is issue is that she spends too much time with the boyfriend, wearing a chastity belt will not change that unless he chooses to stop seeing her because she cannot have vaginal sex with him. He may choose to visit greener pastures as one of @jenna's nieces's boyfriend did. :-)

                                                                    I was hoping she would get board with him since she can’t help her meet her desires and needs.

                                                                      Tjc The poor impulse control is best dealt with by counseling or therapy.

                                                                      She has been in counseling and theropy most of her life. Even if she thinks about consequences she doesn’t care about them. She very much lives in the moment, so even though she is smart, she doesn’t care about how actions today may affect tomorrow.

                                                                        PigtailSam I didn’t think she would find a guys so quickly and beckon so distracted by him

                                                                        Did you know about chastity belts by that time?

                                                                        Tjc a chastity belt is not the best form of contraception for women

                                                                        But virginity is