PigtailSam I haven’t see your posts and answered elsewhere.

What will happen if she refuses? You will not pay for the college?

    PigtailSam
    Of course it is up to the therapist. It may be necessary to severely confront her with her future and consequences if she continues her behavior. It may be harsh but sometimes it is needed to get trough. And maybe the therapist can give advice about using a belt or not. May be part of a confrontation therapy. Of course the therapist will know best what to do. There can only be one captain.

      Philip I know nothing about buzz words. Long time leaker but I just joined today. I’ve read a decent amount though.

      Padre several have given up on her. She knows the consequences for f her actions but she just doesn’t care

        PigtailSam and what if she accept because of your pressure. What if she grow hating you?

        Another problem, the idea that being in chastity will help her concentrate is silly. You are basically removing the release, so craving will increase a lot. She will think only to sex and nothing else.

          PigtailSam When my sister was that age, she got an IUD that was good for several years (5 I think but not positive) from what I understand, those are supposed to be one of the most reliable methods and once in you need a doctor to take it out if/when you want to get pregnant. Sounds like a good option for someone with impulse control issues.

          Other concerns: dose your daughter live at home? If not, how would you handle hygiene?
          Also, how involved is the boyfriend? If he cairs about her than maby he would be willing to encourage her to study.

            PigtailSam
            I don't think you will find the right help on this forum. I guess you hope it will since several therapists have given up on her and you are desperate. Maybe there is a therapist who can do more and be more determined. Maybe they can let her experience the consequences using hypnosis so it may be a very real experience for her that will make her think again. I think a psychiatrist can do a lot and that is what you need.

            PigtailSam She is failing her collage courses. She spends to much time at her boyfriend’s dorm and isn’t studying

            Did you know about this before she started college?

            PigtailSam My proposal was to make her wear a chastity belt if she wants me to keep paying for college

            You should have done it long time ago. College is always risky place for a girl.
            https://unwedchastity.org/d/5-chastity-belts-in-colleges-and-unversities

            PigtailSam not being able to pleasure herself, and missing sex with her bf

            What is more important for her?

              Milord she won’t hate me. We are very close. I don’t plane to force this on her. Is plan to talk her into it and incentivize her to accept it.

                pestulens she can remove an iud if she wants to. (At least I think they can be removed). Also I’d rather not force her to take medicine she doesn’t need. But I get that an iud might not be as bad as a belt. But it does seem worse to me forcing her to take birth control.

                  pestulens Other concerns: dose your daughter live at home? If not, how would you handle hygiene?
                  Also, how involved is the boyfriend? If he cairs about her than maby he would be willing to encourage her to study.

                  Just figured out how to quote lol

                  She does live at home. Her bf really brings out the worst in her. He doesn’t encourage her to study and work hard.

                    Laura Did you know about this before she started college?

                    I’ve always known about her poor study habits but she managed to get by in highschool without much studying. As I mentioned she is really smart. She just doesn’t apply herself. In highschool the material was easy enough she didn’t have to try hard. She met the boy friend in college. He has been a poor influence on her.

                      Laura You should have done it long time ago. College is always risky place for a girl.

                      So your for her being belted? So far I’ve gotten mostly negative responses.

                        PigtailSam she can remove an iud if she wants to. (At least I think they can be removed).

                        She could get it removed if she wants, but my understanding is that you would need to go to the doctor for that, so it isn't something that she could do on the spur of the moment. It might depend on the specific model though, so that would be something to consider when evaluating the option.

                        PigtailSam But it does seem worse to me forcing her to take birth control.

                        Is she opposed to the idea of taking berth control? I was assuming she just couldn't take it reliably but if she actually doesn't want to then that is a different question.

                        PigtailSam Her bf really brings out the worst in her. He doesn’t encourage her to study and work hard.

                        That is unfortunate.

                        PigtailSam who is Jenna?

                        @Jenna is someone who posted a fictional story here and tried to pass it off as a true account, using several fake accounts in the process. There are a few similarities between the way her story started and what you have written, so I can see why @Philip is reminded of her but I think his accusation is a little pre-mature.

                        As someone who dealt with some of the same issues (I am ADD), I might suggest that you involve her more in the process of deciding how to deal with this. There should be something in place to provide accountability but if she has a voice in what that looks like it is more likely she will respond well. You can suggest chastity as one of several options and ask her to come up with her own ideas.
                        This assumes that she actually wants to do well in college and is just having issues putting in the work. If she doesn't value her grades then leaving school and finding something else to do is probably for the best.

                          PigtailSam She met the boy friend in college. He has been a poor influence on her.

                          And you couldn't predict this?

                          PigtailSam So your for her being belted?

                          Yes, but it might be too late.

                            PigtailSam Damien no, but I am faithful, married, and have a decent career, so there isn’t really a need to fix my sexual behavior.

                            How can you expect her to accept something that you yourself reject, and for which she has no role model to follow? If you don't lead the way, who will help her to navigate the practical and emotional challenges that she will face? Who will be able to tell her "I understand" when she needs sympathy in adjusting to the feeling of constant restraint or the occasional urge to just not have something locked on her body?

                            And since you have your life together already and don't have the additional challenges that she faces, won't it be much easier for you to adjust to wearing a belt without a role model than it would be for her?

                            Also, have you really NEVER had a little fun by yourself?

                            Have you discussed this with your husband? Is he unwilling to hold your keys?

                            Here is an excerpt from a post by a mother who wears a belt and also has belted daughters. She's not a native English speaker so the grammar is imperfect but I think she gets her point across.

                            Tere Actually, we all need it, at least the women who believe in the values of chastity.
                            Along with the most obvious consequence of avoid sexual activity of women while carrying it, the belt also has other implications for our lives.
                            On the one hand, it makes us have to endure, at times, our needs, and to have to focus on other tasks, despite the imperative appetite of our body to surrender to pleasure.
                            And secondly, the combination of belt and beloved man, makes me a much more loving wife, and (Ines do not read this), I think my husband will have few complaints in more than 23 years of marriage.

                            Later in the same post, she also writes about why it is so important for a daughter to value what she will receive from a chastity belt, and the negative consequences if she doesn't.

                            Tere If chastity, mettle, or surrender are not values of the girl (who will have equally respectable ones), wearing a belt can only be a source of anger and grudge.

                            If you need to bribe/blackmail her into wearing a belt, it will be a disaster. The only way it will work (and I'm not at all convinced this is a good idea, but...) is if you can persuade her that it is truly in her best interest, that it supports her values and goals, and that you are there to help her feel understood and companioned on the journey by leading by example.