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This is a declaration of sexual submission to parents. I hope you're not serious Harry. If you are, tone it down two notches.
Chastity contract. Need answers fast
Some things definitely read as sexual in there like Damien said, but yeah, that seems to start off on a very strict note. I second Damien's suggestion to not jump into this with quite so much enthusiasm. We are talking about serious lifestyle changes here, do not let yourself get swept up in the excitement of what could be done and start with the basics of what you feel needs to be done. You are expecting both your parents and yourself to radically change how you approach each other at the drop of a hat. That is not how it works.
Firstly there needs to be some kind of end date, graduation, marriage, a time frame, something.
There also needs to be a standard for digital restrictions āparental controlsā. For example restricting you to what would be appropriate for a specific age. What you have allows complete restriction and isolation from the internet essentially.
Allowing the enforcement of social isolation in my opinion is very unhealthy. Iām assuming youāre in or starting college. Social interaction and networking is a huge part of that. Isolation would be very detrimental to your studies and development.
If youāre ok with corporal punishment thatās up to you, but Iād highly strongly suggest imposing a limit on that. Such as spankings being open hand only no belts, shoes, etc.
you should also add a clause that allows you to break this contract. Because if itās not helping you or worse causing you harm or distress you need a way out.
Harry With this contra t you hand over all rights and going to be a slave to your parents forever.
If you want a contract than include a test time e.g. 3 month and every year a date when you are free to leave or continue. Add also time e.g. ones per month to discuss the rules and make adjustments.
Harry There needs to be a way to end things if this is not working or having the effect you wanted. Also having the ability to adjust the rules as needed is important.
Because initially you said this was to help you stay focused and become more disciplined, but that contract is much closer to slavery then helping you
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Harry Sorry, you added OP Out but with No effect If your parents don't agree. You need the right to end it If you realy need or you have the Feeling it is not right anymore.
You will develop, your Life will Change, you may meet someone and fall in love. So you need an real exit option.
Cooling of time as Sasha has one is a good way to prevent spontan decision.
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Harry Add the Option that you can leafe. If you want it the contract will end in e g. 2 or 4 weeks and during the time you can change your mind and continue.
You may add that e.g. first week in January you will have a seriouse Talk and after you decide If you continue or end it.
And a Option for a Long existing relationship or marriag.
What I Miss IS the Goal for this contract.
The whole thing reads like a BDSM fantasy about enforced chastity.
Where is the actual reason (e. g. moral values about saving oneself for the right partner, religious conviction or whatever else)?
That whole contract thing is what you typically would find in D/s relationship involving chastity but lacking other options, parents are asked to be keyholders.
In the absence of other stated motives, I have to conclude that it is essentially an erotically driven desire to be strictly caged and if this is the case, this whole endeavour is wrong.
curious In the absence of other stated motives, I have to conclude that it is essentially an erotically driven desire to be strictly caged and if this is the case, this whole endeavour is wrong.
Especially with the clothing restrictions being explicitly stated as a form of punishment.
great training to become a good husband
Harry Now i donāt know really what I should do.
Unfortunately, the contract has already been signed, so my concerns may be too late, but I still want to say something about it. The first point relates directly to this, you actually need a lot more time to work out the contract. You have to think about what your goals are and what means and rules you will use to achieve these goals. This contract sounds like a slave contract and goes far beyond improving grades in your studies or better behavior. On the other hand, you wrote that your parents were never particularly strict and then they should enforce this "slave contract"? That seems illusory to me.
Harry My parents Iām not the kind of that talk much
Unfortunately, this is a very bad precondition. The situation can always change and it needs to be discussed
further suggestions
end date: when you finish your studies and/or move out and/or get married the contract should end
you should be allowed to terminate, albeit with a waiting period in which you can change your decision again
Harry I agree with @Angelina and the others. You need a realistic end date. You are starting on a rather drastic change in you lifestyle that may be hard to deal with all at once. Although the contract is signed and it is too late to change, I would suggest that others who find this thread to learn from it consider starting slower and with a few restrictions and increase them until their are at an effective level. I would also suggest starting with a defined duration or perhaps six month with the stated intent that you will make a decision at four months to renew for a longer period, perhaps a year, and repeat the process going forward. Decide at ten months whether or not to renew for another year.
