How I can convince my daughter(s) to wear a chastity belt

Christine

Vanessa Good you avoided it!

But I have it all now.

Vanessa

Sara2001

As long as she accepts/asks at first,I think it is a good system.It works as a chastity belt is intended to,but it is not forced,and can't be used as a game,it keeps the seriousness of it.

Christine But I have it all now.

Sure,but,at least,you could date more easily and enjoyed your sexuality before.

Angelina

If she would change her mind after some time,and you would never accept it,even if it means staying belted against her will for years,it is very close to be forced wearing(and I think she would feel like this and maybe have anger and resentment)...

Why not,if you want a more strict system,not put in a minimum time for wearing it,and maybe some time to be unlocked after she asks for it,to make her think more about it(like if she keeps wanting it taken off for one or two weeks before you do it)?It would be stricter than mine,but not forced wearing.

Angelina

Vanessa I don't especially would want her to be belted.But,if she would want a chastity belt(and still after a talk),she would have to accept it is not a game,the belt would have to be worn seriously.So,it would mean,not allowed to take it off herself,but,if she would use the safeword,it would be taken off,but it would mean her decision was wrong for now,and the belt should not be worn anymore for some time(6 months,1 year...),until she could accept and manage to wear it as she asked,even when unpleasant.

this is a good system, but would be too inconsistent for me

i think this is also the reason why my daughter would never ask me to be permanently locked up, because there would be no safeword with me. my daughter would have to be 100% aware of the consequences of her decision

i know this sounds hard, it probably never will happen, but i think that decisions and consequences should always be enforced 100%

Sara2001

Vanessa If she would change her mind after some time,and you would never accept it,even if it means staying belted against her will for years,it is very close to be forced wearing(and I think she would feel like this and maybe have anger and resentment)...

For me, that would count as forced wearing. She must be possible to change her mind and get out of the belt, at least after some thinking time.

Vanessa Why not,if you want a more strict system,not put in a minimum time for wearing it,and maybe some time to be unlocked after she asks for it,to make her think more about it(like if she keeps wanting it taken off for one or two weeks before you do it)?It would be stricter than mine,but not forced wearing.

I think maybe you could do a systems where changes will only take place two times a year and have to be requested 3 month earlier. Let's say it's first of January and July, she had to ask in April to get in our out of the belt on July. So it's more strict in both directions and she can't change her situation to quickly.

Vanessa

Sara2001 For me, that would count as forced wearing. She must be possible to change her mind and get out of the belt, at least after some thinking time.

I agree.

Sara2001 think maybe you could do a systems where changes will only take place two times a year and have to be requested 3 month earlier. Let's say it's first of January and July, she had to ask in April to get in our out of the belt on July. So it's more strict in both directions and she can't change her situation to quickly.

Not very often,but she should understand it is not a decision she could make without thinking well about it,so not bad.

Angelina

Better this way.But she could know in advance she would be able to change it on her birthday,to let her think about it enough.

Sara2001 I think it is also important that a mind change doesn't have an immediate effect but you should wait a few weeks until it takes effect.

Right,it is better this way too,I think.

Angelina

Sure,but if she would ask for it very soon before her birthday,she should have to wait a few more days after,to be very sure of it.

A year without orgasms is hard,you know it...

Angelina

@Vanessa @Sara2001

you are right in a way, it would become a forced wearing, which I don't want 🙁 , difficult situation. I could imagine that I could ask my daughter on every birthday if she wants to continue wearing the cb, that would be once a year. it would give her the opportunity to reconsider the decision, but tie her to the agreement for at least a year

What do you say?

Sara2001

Angelina Once or two times a year is a good schedule I think but I think it is also important that a mind change doesn't have an immediate effect but you should wait a few weeks until it takes effect.

Angelina

Sara2001

this is a method that can also work, I won't disagree with you 🙂

but I personally would rather use my method, because there is a fixed date

an example: my daughter voluntarily signs a permanent contract (for whatever reason), if she says after 6 months that she wants to leave i can tell her that she has to fulfill the agreement (if there are no medical reasons against it), so she learns that decisions always have consequences. and she would be free again after one year 🙂

besides, a year goes by fast and she learns from it, i have spent a year without orgasm myself now and you even spent 3 years ???

it is not pleasant but you can survive it, besides my daughter would know when she would be free again 🙂

Sara2001

Vanessa Maybe she can announce what she wants for her birthday 2 or 3 month earlier and on her birthday you ask if she had changed her mind about it. If not, you do what she wants. If she doesn't say anything 2 or 3 month before, anything stays at it is.

Angelina

Vanessa

my daughter would know that she can always change it on her birthday, she would always know when she has the next chance for release 😉

if she asks for release shortly after her birthday, i would first ask why she didn't decide to be released shortly before and then I would decide

Vanessa

Sara2001

I think too there should be some time to think about it,before it is unlocked.If she doesn't ask it a bit before,she would have to wait for the next possibility.It should not be forced,but it should too be clear it is serious.

Angelina my daughter would know that she can always change it on her birthday, she would always know when she has the next chance for release 😉

But she should ask a bit before,not right on her birthday or even after.

Angelina in this particular case i don't care how long my daughter wears the cb, because it is voluntary. but she is making a very mature decision. i just want to show her that decisions have consequences and she has to stick to agreements and/or contracts

I agree.Good way to act.

Sara2001

Angelina i would first ask why she didn't decide to be released shortly before and then I would decide

Don't you think there should be a minimum time to think about it?

Angelina

Sara2001

she has a whole year to think about her decision 😉

seriously, i don't think this situation would happen, i see no reason why my daughter should ask me for it.

in this particular case i don't care how long my daughter wears the cb, because it is voluntary. but she is making a very mature decision. i just want to show her that decisions have consequences and she has to stick to agreements and/or contracts

Angelina

Vanessa But she should ask a bit before,not right on her birthday or even after.

after her birthday it is too late, I would ask her the question on her birthday.

She can ask for a release before, I would tell her to wait until her next birthday and then tell me the final decision 😉

Vanessa

Angelina She can ask for a release before, I would tell her to wait until her next birthday and then tell me the final decision 😉

I think it is a good way,yes.Harder if she would ask it only one or two days before her birthday or on her birthday,she would not have much time to think about it and,maybe,change her mind.

Angelina

Vanessa

of course she could do that, but she would make the decision on her birthday 😉

Vanessa

Angelina

I think there should be at least a few weeks before unlocking,after she asked.So,if she would ask it on her birthday,or close to it,maybe make an "exception" and tell her it is noticed,and,if it is still her choice,in,let's say,1 month,it would be unlocked.

But the rule stay the same.If she would ask for it a week after her birthday,for example,she would have to wait until her next birthday.

Sara2001

Vanessa I agree to this. Every birthday but with a minimum waiting time of 4 weeks (I think 3 month is even better).

Vanessa

Sara2001

I agree;not sure on the duration,however,I mainly tell 4 weeks to keep it close to her birthday.

Angelina i would say it's like a job interview, when the boss asks if we want the job we have to make a decision and we have to make it at that exact moment

We may have some time to think about it and read carefully the contract,too!😉

The good part,to make it serious,is,when she would choose to be free of it or to wear it,she would have to stay in the situation she choose during one year,until her next birthday.

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