Laura I like this approach from another topic. If a girl wears a chastity belt it's assumed she is desired, so her "assets" must be locked.

I don't like much my "assets" are locked,but it makes sense.As I said,being unlocked because they think l'm not pretty enough to attract men or women would have been very hard for me,emotionally.

Angelina the general approach lies with the parents. it always depends on the character of the daughter and the attitude of the parents. also parents have different reasons why they want to close their daughter, that can have to do with the exterior of the daughter or also with the behavior

But in these case,it is mainly the parents' decision,they decide it for her,not convince her she had to wear one.

In your case,if your father hasn't decided it for you when he caught you self-pleasuring(so,according to your post,he did this due to your behavior),do you think he could have convinced you to wear one?

        Vanessa

        we talked about it a long time before i got the belt, but i couldn't win the discussion because i had no arguments 🙁

        I think I would never have decided for it myself, but this decision was (unfortunately) taken from me

            Vanessa As I said,being unlocked because they think l'm not pretty enough to attract men or women would have been very hard for me,emotionally.

            That's why my parents refuse to unlock me 😃

                Angelina we talked about it a long time before i got the belt, but i couldn't win the discussion because i had no arguments 🙁

                It is a talk rarely win,anyway....

                Laura That's why my parents refuse to unlock me 😃

                I doubt they think it could hurt you emotionally or make you get bad self-esteem if they unlock you without saying anything about being pretty or not...

                      Vanessa

                      yes it true yes also so that it is a fact true that I have masturbated. he has caught me doing it and I can not claim it is not true 🙁

                          Vanessa I doubt they think it could hurt you emotionally or make you get bad self-esteem if they unlock you without saying anything about being pretty or not...

                          Sure it was a joke. But they keep telling me once I get released from the belt I will start having sex soon.

                              Laura once I get released from the belt I will start having sex soon

                              ehm.. maybe this is simply... life? They can't decide for you forever. what if a day you go to live by yourself (also alone) and you tell them "no more CB"? the concept <<Wedding =no cb! ; No wedding = no sex>> is totally wrong....... as if wedding is the solution for all problems of the world..... nothing more wrong!

                                  strictfather the concept <<Wedding =no cb! ; No wedding = no sex>> is totally wrong.

                                  What's wrong with it fundamentally?

                                    That an orgasm never killed anyone but a forced chastity can leave permanent marks in the mind...

                                    Angelina yes it true yes also so that it is a fact true that I have masturbated. he has caught me doing it and I can not claim it is not true 🙁

                                    Yes,as he's against it and caught you in the act,there is no good arguments about it...Especially as I guess he doesn't care it is common for women to do this and that is natural and not harmful to anyone.

                                    Laura once I get released from the belt I will start having sex soon.

                                    Is it true?

                                          Vanessa Is it true?

                                          Not sure, that's a problem. I'm pretty confident while I'm in the belt.

                                              Vanessa

                                              it is not harmful, but my father thinks that it can be harmful for the psyche. it was true even before my time in cb so that my father always told me to wait with sexual activities until i get married but unfortunately i couldn't do anything against his feelings and needs 🙁 i don't have this extreme willpower and that's why i'm closed now

                                                  Laura Not sure, that's a problem. I'm pretty confident while I'm in the belt.

                                                  So maybe it is not totally wrong to make you wear one...

                                                  I've no problem with having sex when not married,but as it seeems to not be allowed in your family...

                                                  Angelina it is not harmful, but my father thinks that it can be harmful for the psyche. it was true even before my time in cb so that my father always told me to wait with sexual activities until i get married

                                                  As far as I know,no recent studies imply that masturbating is harmful for the psyche.It has mainly good effects,as long as it is not excesssive.

                                                  In France,for a long time,people thought that masturbating make the one doing it deaf...

                                                  Angelina i couldn't do anything against his feelings and needs 🙁 i don't have this extreme willpower and that's why i'm closed now

                                                  It is very hard to resist such urges for long if not prevented to do it...

                                                          Vanessa

                                                          He also means that sex is only with my
                                                          partner should be made (in my case camryn) and also only if we are married

                                                              Vanessa So maybe it is not totally wrong to make you wear one...

                                                              Well, probably they have a point. But I agree with @strictfather, they can't do it forever, although they are satisfied with current situation.

                                                                  Vanessa So maybe it is not totally wrong to make you wear one...

                                                                  They are just right, otherwise it would be strange for a girl at her age.

                                                                    well... many things happened in my family in the last weeks:
                                                                    the friction between the two sisters has increased. my wife is more and more angry with daughter(16). Daughter(16) is in "prison" except for school (and her sister keep and eye when they go together to school: daughter(16) told to the younger sister <<your are their spy>>) an now (the only positive effect) daughter(16) studies more because has nothing to do except study. Her "Friend" is disappeared due to "prison" effect. Darkness lives in the house, bad bad bad situation: Argument is always the focus point at every breakfast and dinner time (also silence speak loud!).
                                                                    For some time daughter(16) and daughter(15) did not speak each other and only the mother spoke (was very angry). I tried to make them understand where the problem was. No apparent effect.
                                                                    Then some day later everything came out like a volcano erupting lava all around.
                                                                    The young sister is afraid that the "bitch" sister punishment will create future limitation also to her and so is angry with the sister (incredible her words <<if you kept your legs closed now i could be more free to go out with my friends>>). This because my wife limited a bit also her freedom, because she in only 15 and for the fear she can follow the sister steps. The daughter(16) hates to be seen as a "bitch" and lives in the nightmare of the chastity belt idea and told us we are mad (!!!) to think to a "torture middle-age thing".
                                                                    But then my wife explained it was only a "provocation", an "idea" but nothing concrete. But daughter(16) told her she was lying because (oh my god!) she found in computer history some searches for CB. <<ehm... it was me...>> i had to confess, i was just looking about it, just to understand my wife idea (i really didn't know anything CB). it would be better if i had not told that. uuuuu.. the pain..... my daughter(16) attacked me telling that i am working on her back. and she told to me and the mother "if you want me to wear a CB. well... wear you first and give me the key!". my wife became more angry ("daughter, you must respect your mother!") and they started to discuss and argue very hard. And the daughter(15) started to cry <<i will never wear a CB! convince yourself! i know if my sister wear it i will have to wear too, i am clever, i know it will happen>>....
                                                                    At the end i had to tell all of them "no more with this idiotic CB idea! STOP! deleted. erase the idea!!!! i forbid to think, talk, buying, wearing a CB in this house. NO MORE.".
                                                                    And i asked them all to go altogether to a family psycologist to tank about situation.
                                                                    Finally they all agree.
                                                                    We will see.....

                                                                      strictfather and she told to me and the mother "if you want me to wear a CB. well... wear you first and give me the key!"

                                                                      It makes sense, give you the key, not her.

                                                                        strictfather

                                                                        it really seems to be a rather broken situation in your family, I'm very sorry for you. you all made mistakes why i think it's a good idea to do family therapy.

                                                                        it would be too bad if a family breaks on itself. hope that soon better news will come from you good luck 🙂

                                                                            Angelina He also means that sex is only with my
                                                                            partner should be made (in my case camryn) and also only if we are married

                                                                            Same for me presently.

                                                                            Laura Well, probably they have a point. But I agree with @strictfather, they can't do it forever, although they are satisfied with current situation.

                                                                            Right,it can become hard to follow it for too long.However,except if you leave the city or get married,I'm not sure why they would decide to change it.

                                                                            strictfather

                                                                            A lot of talks,and not easy ones,since it started.I hope it'll become better soon.

                                                                            However,even if if you don't want to suggest chastity again,I noticed it:

                                                                            strictfather she told to me and the mother "if you want me to wear a CB. well... wear you first and give me the key!".

                                                                            It was exactly what Ivana did when she decided it would be good for her daughters to wear a chastity belt.She bought one for her,give the keys to her husband and started wearing it.When she convinced her older daughter to wear her,she gave one of her keys and the other one to her husband;in exchange,her daughter gave Ivana one of her keys,and the other one to her father.So,no one have the key to her own belt,and only the husband of Ivan(a and father of the daughters)have all the keys.Even if I don't know if Ivana made copy to give to her second and third daughter.

                                                                            If your oldest daughter change her mind about chastity ,or hestiated,you could suggest it.

                                                                            At least,as,since she is in "prison",her friend has lose interest in her,she should know he wasn't interested in her,but only wanting to have sex with her.

                                                                            Angelina it would be too bad if a family breaks on itself. hope that soon better news will come from you good luck 🙂

                                                                            Yes,it is a very complex situation.Almost everyone is angry to everyone,I imagine it is hard!