Parents and pocket money
I don't think especially positively about it,but I can understand the idea;even if I think it is a very uncommon rule.
Sara2001 I am happy that Daniel may get some access. Better then nothing.
Sure.And it seems he would be less strict than your father.
Sara2001 Exactly. Turning 18 is not different if you want your family stays intact.
Same for several of us.
Angelina Did your father ever explain to you why he didn't want you to have access to your money?
Yes, because his experience is that there is more harmony in the family/relationship if the man makes the descisions and the woman follow. That's the basic premise behind everything.
No, Christians but no strong.
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Sara2001 Yeah thats cause if the girls think its unfair and speak up, they get an extra hour of cornertime and a spanking with a hairbrush on Sundays
i don't think any muslima has the name sara
there is in my opinion nothing to understand it is simply wrong, very wrong
yes i have to ask before i want to buy bigger things, but it's not my money, it's my father's money. you have your own money, that's something completely different
this is an absolutely wrong and stupid reason, i will ask my father what he thinks of such a reason . sorry but your father could have at least come up with a reasonable reason
Sara2001 Yes, because his experience is that there is more harmony in the family/relationship if the man makes the descisions and the woman follow. That's the basic premise behind everything.
Is it your boyfriend's opinion too,or would you be more free on some aspects when married(not about chastity,nor,totally,money,but maybe on other parts)?
Sara2001 I thought many of us have to ask before they buy bigger things, it's just more strict in my family.
Yes,for things expensive,I've to ask before.
BikelockFugitive Yeah thats cause if the girls think its unfair and speak up, they get an extra hour of cornertime and a spanking with a hairbrush on Sundays
Generally,as long as it is done calmly and with respect,I dont' think it would be the case.Except if they insist too much after a clear "No.",maybe...
Angelina there is in my opinion nothing to understand it is simply wrong, very wrong
We can disagree,but try to undertsand his idea!
Angelina this is an absolutely wrong and stupid reason, i will ask my father what he thinks of such a reason . sorry but your father could have at least come up with a reasonable reason
It could be interesting;but let's hope it doesn't give him ideas!
Vanessa Is it your boyfriend's opinion too,or would you be more free on some aspects when married(not about chastity,nor,totally,money,but maybe on other parts)?
This is the main concept behind a male led relationship and for Daniel it is not a question that he will become the male leader and that it is the job of the mail leader to make any decisions and that it is his job to always give my interest the top priority.
I think this is a very difficult job. Much more difficult then obeying.
I think I will be as restricted as I am now, just some parts will be less strict while others will be more strict. But I think a common misunderstanding in the concept for outsiders is that I am regularly not allowed to do many things. An example is that I need permission to go out. My father would never deny my request without a good reason nor would Daniel. If I want to go out and I have done my tasks for the day, I can of course go out. I just have to ask permission before.
Renita It may not be her real name
It is I'm not a muslima and I know Sarah is a common name in Iran but my name is Sara
Angelina it's something completely different whether you want to go out or want your money, I think that's not a good comparison
The rule is as simple as I say. My father has the final saying about absolutely everything. End of the story. In some aspects I can decide on my own until my father has other ideas (like clothes in a defined range), for most things I have to ask in advance.
Sara2001 This is the main concept behind a male led relationship and for Daniel it is not a question that he will become the male leader and that it is the job of the mail leader to make any decisions and that it is his job to always give my interest the top priority.
I think this is a very difficult job. Much more difficult then obeying.
I think I can understand it can be a harder job.Less limited,but more to think.
Sara2001 I think I will be as restricted as I am now, just some parts will be less strict while others will be more strict. But I think a common misunderstanding in the concept for outsiders is that I am regularly not allowed to do many things. An example is that I need permission to go out. My father would never deny my request without a good reason nor would Daniel. If I want to go out and I have done my tasks for the day, I can of course go out. I just have to ask permission before.
I wouldn't like to have to ask permission for going out when married,even if almost always allowed.I would find it pretty humiliating...Telling before I go out,however,would be ok.
I think too.
In the game "Mass Effect",we always play the Commander Shepard,but,we can choose to play a man or a woman,and choose his/her name.For men,the most common was John,and,for women,the most common was Sarah(or Sara,I don't remember).
Angelina my father would never deny me access to my money
Getting his opinion would still be interesting.
Sara2001 I think my father draws the red line at another position then you
I think too it depends on each family,and on the opinion on different subjects.Maybe @Sara2001's father would think your father is too strict because you have to wear a chastity bra permanently.