Fatherof3 True. but imagine how much more could be done if not wasting time with bad habits.
My wife was relatively relaxed about my problem... right up until I sat down and added up exactly how much time I'd wasted and showed it to her.
People don't get that orgasm is best kept as a rare reward for achieving something worthwhile. Masturbation is a sexual short-circuit. It cuts out all the living, achieving and failing and fighting back and rewards you for doing absolutely nothing!
Jonas and rewards you for doing absolutely nothing!
Maybe it sounds a bit off topic, but isn't that something we all wish for ?
Fatherof3 Not to mention selfish toward the partner.
that's right, that's an important reason why i don't want to masturbate after my wedding, but would like to concentrate my sexual pleasure entirely on my wife 
Hunger drives us to find the best food. Our muscles ache to find the best work. Our minds search to find the most interesting company. If we could satisfy all these needs ourselves we'd have no life...
Better to be a little bit frustrated, but also a dynamic, engaged and productive individual I think!
Angelina I think it's all about learning to channel sexual frustration into productive tasks, or as @Fatherof3 very correctly points out... our partners.
Jonas I think it's all about learning to channel sexual frustration into productive tasks,
I know what you mean, but I have to say that I have never found this to be the case with me, and it is not important to me how productive I am, but how successful I am.
Jonas or as @Fatherof3 very correctly points out... our partners.
I agree with this part
I think the impact on other activities is a good indicator about it being excessive or not.
I spend a lot of time here,too.Even if probably less than you.
But,if I remember well,you masturbated twice or third time a week,right?And,as you post here almost everyday,it may even mean you spend more time writing here than masturbating when it was possible!
Right.
I agree!
Depends if it impacts how we act with our partner.And how he/she feels about it.
Angelina I know what you mean, but I have to say that I have never found this to be the case with me, and it is not important to me how productive I am, but how successful I am.
Similar for me,even I've to say I tend to studied,and now work,harder due to my chastity belt,to distract me form the urges I can't relieve,it is different than channeling sexual frustration.
And the drawbacks are more important than the positive effects,in my opinion.
Vanessa I think the impact on other activities is a good indicator about it being excessive or not.
right, i see it exactly the same way
Vanessa I spend a lot of time here,too.Even if probably less than you.
But,if I remember well,you masturbated twice or third time a week,right?And,as you post here almost everyday,it may even mean you spend more time writing here than masturbating when it was possible!
i think we are relatively equal if i spend one hour here every day and you spend 3 hours every three days.
but yes sometimes i spend more time writing here than i would masturbating 
Vanessa And the drawbacks are more important than the positive effects,in my opinion.
right, but i have to say that this statement was meant more in general than in relation to the belt.
Vanessa Depends if it impacts how we act with our partner.And how he/she feels about it.
For sure. It has in fact changed the way I act. Before. I remember being more distant and self centered. I was pretty hard on the kids sometimes too even. Now. Simply put. We have a good time together. Im more focused. Im apt to getting things done around the house. Life is good.
Angelina i think we are relatively equal if i spend one hour here every day and you spend 3 hours every three days.
Right.
Angelina but yes sometimes i spend more time writing here than i would masturbating
An argument you can use to make your father decide to remove your chastity belt,maybe?
Fatherof3 It has in fact changed the way I act.
I've read it has often this effect,after wearing a chastity cage,many women finds their partner more loving and caring for them and wanting to make them happy.But I wonder if it a unplanned side effect,or if the man does it for making his partner more willing to take the cage off...
Vanessa many women finds their partner more loving and caring for them and wanting to make them happy.But I wonder if it a unplanned side effect,or if the man does it for making his partner more willing to take the cage off...
I think men should have to put in some effort if they want sex. Masturbation increasingly short-circuits the whole process and leaves men pleasuring themselves without putting in any effort into their relationship at all.
Fatherof3 I think it's the nature of the beast, cravings of all kinds cause your world to get smaller and smaller, it's why at this point in my life I've so strongly decided that masturbation itself is a problem.
Don't feel bad. Feel good! You've recognised, addressed and solved a problem you had! That puts you well into the highest percentile!! 
