Vanessa My parents had some talk with me about unwanted pregnancy when I started to have sex,but they weren't much worried about it,they trust me to use birth control when needed.
So, they were not against sex initially and talked about birth control rather than a chastity belt. Why did they change their mind? As for me, I was not allowed to have sex from the beginning.
I don't talk much with them about it,I don't like it and not sure they appreciate it too(even if I often try to convince them to let me free)...
But I guess they may think(not sure,only a guess)I should explore my feminity,know how my body works,how it feels to have sex,especially when in love(and even more as masturbation was forbidden for me),but decided I've enough experience and know my body well enough to not need more "training" and should concentrate on finding an husband(or wife).They probably thought it won't be a bad idea too to make me concentrate more on studies and work,and they didn't like some men I dated.So I think there is several reasons,but the main is probably thinking I should concentrate more on finding my future husband/wife instead of having sex when not married.
Not sure it was a good idea to do like this;of course,I know my body and got several pleasant times with men and women(and my wedding night could be better:no pain(losing virginity is often painful),knowing several positions,knowing how to move when making love,how to caress my partner,what I like or not like,etc...),but having to wear a chastity belt preventing any sexual pleasure when knowing how good it can be is,in my opinion,worse than having to wear one when guessing sex is pleasant,but not knowing how good it is.
Yes,I think they want to be sure I know at least a bit how to be a "good wife" in bed too,and to know how to enjoy making love.Maybe allowing me to not be virgin on my wedding night,to enjoy it fully,was intended,too.
I understand you;if it is too painful,you wouldn't be able to appreciate it totally.Let's hope,in your case,there will be no pain nor blood(unusual,but it happens).Maybe try to negotiate to be allowed to make love once when engaged,by using this argument?
Well I don't think I am a "good wife". At a later age I started getting some practice very rarely.
I was given a dilator every so often almost as a medical procedure.
Laura thank you so much for this website.
I could read the posts though before even registering.
If I help could there be something in the registration that would keep internet trolls away?
Could you use serious advertisements here and product reviews to bring Money in for your expenses and investments??
I think everyone but me is a computer expert in real life!! It is all I can do to control like financial charts and graphs!!
Megan I could read the posts though before even registering.
For posts for members only there is "adult" tag. We might add more.
Megan If I help could there be something in the registration that would keep internet trolls away?
Unfortunately the proper moderation seems only way to keep them away. E.g. you can't differentiate them until they say something.
Megan Could you use serious advertisements here and product reviews to bring Money in for your expenses and investments??
I want to discuss it with you. Basically we are allowed to do whatever we wish, this forum belongs to us, not to a third-party platform.
Umm, I don't really understand the reasoning behind cutting the hymen and why trying to have sex before marriage would be a good idea in that context.
Dilly Umm, I don't really understand the reasoning behind cutting the hymen and why trying to have sex before marriage would be a good idea in that context.
I have created the separate topic about it.
Hi all,
now to my promised update:
Recently, I thought a lot about my general situation. The hard fact of being locked-in is currently coming into my mind quite often. It is not only the well-known problems like prevented sexuality and fussiness of cb wearing. Things for example like sitting in the lecture hall and knowing that I am not free like all the others there or thoughts about not having the possibility to simply be naked afflict me a lot.
I spend more and more time with the guy I wrote about months ago, but I am still indecisive. I feel attracted to him, but I keep a distance because of the well-known circumstances!
Some weeks ago, he has been at my house for studying. After he left, my mom asked me about him and told me that she is delighted. I just answered tauntingly that getting into a relationship is not an option for me anyway since I am permanently locked-in and not authorized to my own body! That triggered a broad debate on principle about chastity, my mother's experiences, relationships and marriage with lots of controversy, tears and frustration.
Long story short, we came to the point where I said in a rage, that I want to quit chastity with all its consequences. My mom reacted angrily and said that it is not just a matter of money! She said, that after all that time, she is not willing to quit at all. She said very clear that she wants me to be "protected" until marriage and with my statements, I even strengthened her decision. She even said, that it is up to me to quit all that, but then I had to resign from any support, move out and better don't come back soon. Or, I could "come to sanity" and trust on her own experiences. I gave in and complained in tears that I am sick of all that, sick of all the fussiness, the discomfort, being inhibited for relationships and being sexually unsatisfied! We talked very open about all that (uuuh very embarrassing for me!). I brought up to quit with thigh bands at least, since I am not able to orgasm anyway – with or without thigh bands! She answered, that she recognized my cb is secure to prevent orgasms but still allow slight stimulation, because she saw me several times getting up in the morning grouchy and tired with a red face and she smelled that I tried "things"! Omg, I just wished the ground to swallow me up when she said that! So, with thigh bands, her intention is to help me to get better sleep just by preventing any approach down there from the beginning. Super embarrassing and weird! But I got her point. And I have to admit that thigh bands do exactly what she intends. She is possibly not completely wrong, it reminded me to Ivana's statements. Though I stated that I hate thigh bands at all and said that she cannot imagine how it is to be aroused while any attempt of getting at least whiff of stimulation is futile in its approach! She told me that she still regrets to have agreed to a free day in our agreement and that on long-term things would be much easier for me if I would stop to insist on that free day (again a reminder to Ivana). A point where I stayed relentless. She was also very open with her experiences of chastity before marriage and even with her vivid sex life after marriage (again awkward debate for me)! In the end, she has obviously a satisfying sex life while I am restricted to a minimum of satisfaction without any perspective to a soon change. And she made clear that she exactly understands my problems by her personal experience, but anyhow she does not regret her time in chastity at all and she is sure that I will see that all in the end.
Since yesterday, my parents went away on vacation, which means for me to be temporarily rid of thigh bands, but also to be securely enclosed in my metal protector for 3 weeks in a row! It's since 2 days, now, and I am already counting seconds…
Catherine
catherine98 Things for example like sitting in the lecture hall and knowing that I am not free like all the others there or thoughts about not having the possibility to simply be naked afflict me a lot.
I feel the same. I have to not only wear a chastity belt, but hide it properly. I wish it's less unusual.
catherine98 After he left, my mom asked me about him and told me that she is delighted. I just answered tauntingly that getting into a relationship is not an option for me anyway since I am permanently locked-in and not authorized to my own body!
Maybe you can ask your mom to talk to him about your underwear and why she does it, if you are too shy to tell him.
catherine98 Long story short, we came to the point where I said in a rage, that I want to quit chastity with all its consequences. My mom reacted angrily and said that it is not just a matter of money! She said, that after all that time, she is not willing to quit at all. She said very clear that she wants me to be "protected" until marriage and with my statements, I even strengthened her decision.
That's exactly what has happened to me. When I've raised this question few years ago, that I was a big girl making enough and time to release me, I have heard the same things like money is not everything, this discussion proves that I still need a belt, and I will remain belted as long as needed, and, sure, that's for my protection.
Are you sure your parents don't read misterpoll and this forum now?
catherine98 Since yesterday, my parents went away on vacation, which means for me to be temporarily rid of thigh bands, but also to be securely enclosed in my metal protector for 3 weeks in a row! It's since 2 days, now, and I am already counting seconds…
Mine left a week earlier. That's why I had some time to build this forum.
Raziel Do you feel everyone should wear a chastity belt and wait until marriage? It sounds like you are very religious and want to stay pure until marriage, or if you meant for others to stay pure until marriage.
I'm not religious, just strict parents and education. Definitly not everyone should wait until marriage, but more than now. And wearing a chastity device helps a lot in it. Also it's just unfair, I have to wear one, while others don't.
Raziel Would you keep the belt after marriage and use it or get rid of it after your wedding?
No, I don't plan to wear in after marriage, unless my husband insists.
Raziel I really can't compare chastity with men vs women, but I hope all of you ladies can cope and make it till you're free. I believe it takes 2 years to rewire your brain, so if you could wear it non stop for 2 years, then you would lose the urges and not seek pleasure anymore. I heard the 2 years idea can break habits, but it's a very long time to train your brain. Oh well, please do your best, all of you.
I bet, you are astonished, that chastity belts have real usage here. Furthermore they work as intended at least for girls. Not sure about men, I'm still skeptical. I didn't notice a change of my urges during years, but maybe because I'm virgin.
Raziel Yes, sounds like all of you have extremely religious families who believes chastity is an answer
Let's call it religion, if you wish. But unlike the tradition religions, our "religion" is practical and has many advantages. Or you think remaining chaste is a bad thing? If so, I can try to convince you. Well I don't agree with my parent completely, for example, I can't have sex with my fiancé before marriage, but it's a big deal really.
Raziel I am curious to see how widespread this belief is,
We too, thinking there are more girls over the world under this belief
AlanZerogenuine Hello! I AlanZero with misterpoll I went here by the link to this forum. Since my Internet is still under control, I have to use foreign e-mail.
Welcome here. Who is your Internet controlled by?
AlanZerogenuine I described his device on misterpoll I am glad to see people here with a similar problem and the opportunity to discuss it.
Would you mind to create a separate topic here and copy your posts from the misterpoll?
catherine98 (and Laura for a part of this anwser)
There was a hard argument between you and your mother!But I'm not surprised,I guess it would be very similar with my parents,if I said I won't accept to wear the chastity belt anymore...Good you managed to keep your free day,at least.The problem with such talk,is we cant't give a "good" reason to quit chastity,if we've worn the belt without too much troubles,without showing we want to have sex or masturbate...Anyway,your mother seems to have thought a lot about it!I'm not so sure most of us here will like to have experienced it later,however...
Good news about this guy;I think you should have a talk with him.If he has waited for you so long,even if you're not dating,he's probably truely interested by you.Try to be sure he will keep your secret and if yes,tell him about the chastity belt,and that it is not your choice aand have to agreed for keeping financial support,a place to live and a good relationship with your family.
Great you're free of thigh bands for a few weeks,but not good you've to wait so long until you can orgasm again.No free day is hard.
I agree it is hard to not think about our chatsity belt and what it means...Less free,not possible to be naked,yes,but too to take care it doesn't show under your clcothes or when bending,sitting...I guees you know the picture of Marylin Monroe with her skirt lifted up?It's something we must take care it doesn't happen to us,for example!
My parents say the same;if someone break up with me due to my belt,it si clear that he/she only wanted sex.even if they've not said it recently,since I'm in a long-term relationship with my girlfriend.
I personally wear mine permanently since a bit more than 2 years now,without any orgasm,and I still get urges,want pleasure and am frsutrated...Getting orgasm is a natural function,it is not a habit we can lose like smoking cigarettes,I think.
Like Laura,it is more education and discipline than religion,in my case.
AlanZerogenuine Your topic has been deleted as not appropriate the the forum, because it's your fantasy.
