Renita

there doesn't necessarily have to be reasons some parents just want it 🙁

@Vanessa
like it would be a little too well expressed, I hope that I can accept it 😉

      Renita You are not only girl suffered by secondary shield. Other parents might be more reasonable.

      Sure.But I think it is mainly used to prevent masturbation or some kind of sex.

      Renita I understand, but why?

      I've answered it before:

      Vanessa Firstly,they probably thought I knew enough how my body react and how other men/women body react to be able to be a good wife,even sexually.Masturbating and having sex was forbidden,and severely punished,but they probably knew,without proof,I sometimes do it,but tolerate it.I guess they accepted I cheated a bit,while using these rules to be sure it is not too often,and accepted I learnt how my,and my partner's,body reacted when having sex/orgasming.

      Secondly,I was going to start my Master's degree soon after(the belt was locked permanently a bit before the last partiels for my Licence),and,as these studies are harder,they probably thought it would be better for me to concentrate mainly on studies,not on sexual pleasure.

      Thirdly,a bit shaming,but I tended to be more "sexual" since I started university...Masturbating more often,having new boyfriends/girlfriends more often...And,more disobedience,breaking my "sexual rules" more often,and often punished for it,including wearing my chastity belt for some time...My parents may have thought I should be "calmed" sexually a bit,then preventing it would be better than punishing me for it.

      I guess there can be other reasons,but these are probably the main ones;not totally sure,however,I don't discuss it much with my parents,as I don't feel at ease to talk about it with them...

      Angelina there doesn't necessarily have to be reasons some parents just want it 🙁

      Right,they don't have to explain us exactly their reasons,it don't change things much...

      Angelina like it would be a little too well expressed, I hope that I can accept it 😉

      Better said this way,sure.😉

                  Renita

                  and now she needs to focus on finding a job 😉 , it definitely doesn't make any difference.

                      Angelina and now she needs to focus on finding a job

                      It doesn't require such concentration as study. Or a secondary shield should be worn for interview only 😃

                          Renita

                          but to write the applications requires concentration, not as much as for a study but much 😉

                              Renita

                              Yes,but I must now focus on my search for work,and related activities,then on my work,etc...And it is only one of the probable reasons.

                              Angelina

                              Especially as I want to do it well for every potential employer.

                                    Vanessa

                                    exactly, even if you don't like the cb (like me), you won't get distracted by mastubation from important things 😉

                                        Vanessa And it is only one of the probable reasons.

                                        Why not talk to them again since the situation has changed?

                                            Angelina

                                            I agree.I think that being prevented to masturbate and have sex,and trying to concentrate in other things(inclduing studies)to manage the urges,have impacted my study habits,and,so,my grades.

                                            Renita

                                            As it is not the only reason,and as they seems to like the idea of making me wait until marriage.

                                                  Vanessa As it is not the only reason,and as they seems to like the idea of making me wait until marriage.

                                                  I think that's very typical. My father thinks the same and Angelina's father, too. No matter how the circumstances are. Anything that prevents masturbation stays in place all the time until marriage or the key to the equipment will be given to our partners during wedding and then they decided how long, when and why anything stays in place.

                                                      Vanessa

                                                      have your grades improved during your studies since you wear your belt permanently ?

                                                      I haven't noticed any changes in my school performance yet, but I was a good student before 🙂

                                                      @Sara2001

                                                      I agree with you 100% except for the last sentence 😉

                                                          Sara2001

                                                          Yes;I think when we start to wear it permanently,even if the situation change a bit,it is very likely we should wear it until our wedding night(except in specific cases,like moving to another city).

                                                          What do you mean by

                                                          Sara2001 then they decided how long, when and why anything stays in place

                                                          ?Do you talk about the husband decision?

                                                          Angelina have your grades improved during your studies since you wear your belt permanently ?

                                                          Yes.not that much,but a bit better.

                                                                  Vanessa Do you talk about the husband decision?

                                                                  Yes, after marriage, if you continue to wear chastity equipment, the new keyholder, in my case Daniel, decodes these things.

                                                                      Sara2001

                                                                      luckily for you he wants you to wear "only" the cb and not the tighbands 😉

                                                                          Vanessa and as they seems to like the idea of making me wait until marriage.

                                                                          So, they care more about your relationship with another girl than masturbation?

                                                                              Sara2001 Yes, after marriage, if you continue to wear chastity equipment, the new keyholder, in my case Daniel, decodes these things.

                                                                              Logical,in a male led relationship using chastity.

                                                                              Angelina

                                                                              Yes,it would be better for her!🙂

                                                                              Renita

                                                                              They accept well I date another woman,(and they like Emilie),not much difference than if I dated a man.

                                                                              Masturbation was always forbidden(but,I guess,but not sure,a bit tolerated before),and,now,prevented.

                                                                                      Vanessa They accept well I date another woman,(and they like Emilie),not much difference than if I dated a man.

                                                                                      There is difference. I wrote here Renita
                                                                                      I think if you dated a boy they wouldn't insist in secondary shield all the time.

                                                                                            Renita

                                                                                            No change about it in such case,probably.A man could too use his fingers or tongue,without it on!😉 And I could masturbate without it on,too.

                                                                                            And when it was used as punishment while I dated a man,I had the secondary shield on too.

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