Ines
I note that Ines has been more vocal of late, both here and in the "South West Corner" thread. 🤣 While we are very different: she is young and I am sadly very old, she is religious and I most certainly not; it seems that we have many similar ideas. Her professional interests seem to lie with medicine which were my own; we are both willing wearers of chastity devices, and are both strongly opposed to involuntarily wearing of the same, especially in minors.
What is also striking to me is that Ines reason for enjoying wearing chastity devices is the same as my own: namely to save ourselves for our partner, because of love. And in a very real sense, the terms submission and dominance have nothing to do with our choice.
In the South West Corner thread (which is sadly hard to follow since it really is a conversation between Ines and Maximus and where anywhere from five to ten points from an earlier response, are answered at a time making it tedious to go back and try to follow); there is quite a bit of discussion regarding dominance and submission. In a way this is not surprising. Both terms come up a lot in discussion of chastity devices, both for willing wearers like Ines and me, but more especially, for the unwilling or involuntary wearers.
Submission has likely evolved several times independently in the animal kingdom as a way to protect the children. One member of a partnership or group relies on the other(s) without foraging for food and in turn, rears their young. While this is usually the female (not always – Antarctic king penguins are a notable exception) and the male takes a dominant role. Actually, I am not sure whether dominance plays a role in king penguins’ lifestyle. I have an amusing image in my mind of the female penguin telling her hubby to stand in the corner and hold the egg until she returns from shopping for food! 🤣
What has been mostly left out of discussions on this forum is that a person can actually change their natural tendencies, going from submission to dominance or vice-versa, depending on circumstances and partners. I offer myself as an example. For the first part of my life, I was very dominant. Probably to the point of being an obnoxious brat 😂 A lot of it was out of necessity. I had very little parental support and almost from being seven years old I was left to fend for myself, making decisions no child should have to make. I was extremely lucky not to be abused.
Even when I first met the woman who much later became my partner, I took the dominant role. Back then we were just friends who occasionally hung out together. Later we met again professionally and my dominance ruined the friendship entirely. While the details are not important, the thing is I later became very ill and ultimately had to suck it up when she took me in and basically saved my life and career. Occasionally I tried to reassert my dominance but knowing how ill I was, she took and kept control. And as I recovered, I began to perceive the sheer magic of letting someone else take over the reins. When you have never experienced it before, the freedom from the responsibility of having to make even the inconsequential decisions of every day life is quite addictive. It not only can make you happy, it can give you more energy to focus on what is important to you.
Thus, if you can find that special person who you can love unreservedly and trust absolutely; where their own priorities are your happiness and the happiness of your relationship, then believe me, submission is easy. And yes, it is possible to go from dominance to submission.
To be honest, I suspect I am a poor submissive. I enjoy teasing my partner and making her life hectic and full. In return I have given her the most precious thing I own and I do my best to keep her smiling and happy. My wearing of a chastity belt is my gift to her in part to show how much I love her. It also happens to keep us tied together. But one thing is for certain: neither submission nor dominance has anything at all to do with the reason I willingly wear a chastity belt (and thigh bands).
Of course, I read with sadness how others are forced reluctantly into wearing of such a device, where they do it under sufferance for some perceived gain. I feel sad for such, yet I must remain polite. I have not walked in their shoes and I am reminded that my own shoes were once very uncomfortable, particularly when I was young. I will never condemn other for the choices they make, provided they do not hurt anyone else.
