Vanessa Your choice?

I know it will be like that now and I stay with him, so I see it as kind of my choice but I think he would not allow me to work until the kids are old enough, so it's his descision, too

Vanessa If you get more horny,if your boyfriend(husband,I guess)don't allow you to feel pleasure more often than usual,it is going to be hard!

I think I will get the same amount of permissions.

Vanessa Does your boyfriend think the same way?

Yes, otherwise I would not stay with him. This is a red line for me.

          Laura Suggest it explicitly. Don't let your single cosine have an advantage

          No. I don't want her to be in my shoes.

          Natescage know there was another girl on here from Germany @amber

          I'm not from Germany.

          Vanessa It would not be very nice to your cousin to suggest to your mother to talk to your aunt about it!

          If she reads the forum, there is not much I can do.

                  Raziel Congrats on the chastity buddy! That is even better it is family, so you could share secrets and keep close.

                  thanks! I avoid bringing up the belt with her because it's a bit awkward, but knowing that i'm not alone is very good!

                  Laura How old is she?:

                  She's 18

                  Renita Do you have other siblings or cousins?

                  No, i just have 1 this cousin,

                  Vanessa At least,you have someone with who to discuss it a bit.It could help!

                  it did help 🙂 but some reason i just feel very embarassed when talking about the belt and that stuff in person. She was bringing it up to talk about it though, so we ended up talking about it.

                            Laura Agree, but perhapse a fantasy, not real? Who knows? The more I read here, the less I believe.

                                a_father The more I read here, the less I believe.

                                Sometimes is the best.

                                    Christine I know but I was just saying you could have a real.life friend to talk to. And @Vanessa I think her aunt was going to get one anyways for her cousin.
                                    amber still I'm glad you have someone. You two will probably need each other in the future. You are both very young and will need each other's support for Thai when you get older and want to date boy's.

                                          Ines I hope I'm right. I don't want to imagine the other case.
                                          The logic says that it is probably not real. The risk for parents that the belt is discovered by outsiders is very high. A child can't hide something like that. The consequences of a discovery would be serious. I think that would be child abuse across the civilized world. With a twelve-year-old, I don’t have to doubt that. The consequence would be that Amber is also a fantasy.

                                              a_father it's not that hard to hide people in the fetish world do it all the time.

                                                It's not hard to always wear a belt and not be found out

                                                Now for the topic, I think I'm very much guilty of touching myself too much, and those thoughts of sex cloud who I am. And a belt will set me straight at last and be saved from those horrible urges

                                                  Sara2001 I know it will be like that now and I stay with him, so I see it as kind of my choice but I think he would not allow me to work until the kids are old enough, so it's his descision, too

                                                  I agree,if you know it and accept it before it is the case,it,more or less,become the choice of both of you.

                                                  Sara2001 I think I will get the same amount of permissions.

                                                  It would be harder,so.

                                                  Sara2001 Yes, otherwise I would not stay with him. This is a red line for me.

                                                  Wise decision.

                                                  Christine No. I don't want her to be in my shoes.

                                                  Better for your cousin,and your relationship with her.

                                                  Christine

                                                  Very unlikely,I think.

                                                  amber it did help 🙂 but some reason i just feel very embarassed when talking about the belt and that stuff in person. She was bringing it up to talk about it though, so we ended up talking about it.

                                                  Never easy to talk about it,but it is helpful.I've always been able to talk about it with my twin,with my best friend since she knows,with Emilie(of course),and with some my ex(when we were in a relationship).

                                                  Ines

                                                  I agree.I've doubts about it,too.

                                                  Natescage And @Vanessa I think her aunt was going to get one anyways for her cousin.

                                                  If @Christine's mother and her aunt discuss together often,and about it,it could be the case,yes...But no need to increase the risks!

                                                  Daphne

                                                  At 22 years old,it is not uncommon.And as long as it is not excessive,masturbating can be good for health,too.

                                                                      Vanessa At 22 years old,it is not uncommon

                                                                      It was exsessive and i began acting unlike myself which I hated

                                                                          Daphne

                                                                          Can I ask you at what frequency you touch yourself?

                                                                          Every other day seems very common for us,and I think once a day is ok too.If more,it depends...

                                                                              Vanessa

                                                                              2/3 times a day, it was a coping mechanism but i dont want to rely on it anymore i want my belt to become my ally through life

                                                                                  Daphne

                                                                                  It is a bit much,yes,but does it affect your studies/work/social life/other leisures?

                                                                                  It you used it to cope,it may be hard to stop totally it immediately...

                                                                                      Vanessa

                                                                                      sometimes it does yes

                                                                                      i know, but i have talked about it with my keyholder and they will support and help me as long as i work towards permanent chastity

                                                                                          Daphne

                                                                                          Ok,don't hesitate to do it progressively if it becomes too hard.

                                                                                              Vanessa

                                                                                              yeah, before my cb arrives i will probably do it, and if it becomes too hard i will have my keyholder to keep me on the right path