Laura changed the title to Parental approval and arranged marriage .
Parental approval and arranged marriage
Since I wear the belt I am at least allowed to go out without an adult accompanying me all the time. I am allowed to go on dates, but I have to introduce him to my parents before the first date which makes it pretty complicated to just say yes to someone who asks me out. They said if I bring someone I should get boys who are around my age and they should know how to dress and to behave.
Dilly
Wow, this is even stricter than in my home. As long as I take care of my curfew, I can meet whoever I want in my free time. My parents said that they believe in my capabilities of deciding who is a good influence for me and who is not. I got the hidden message under this message that said: "and it would be better for you to only brig someone home who is appropriate for you".
What are the other criterias your parents have when it comes to a boyfriend? Do they want to talk with him before the date or things like that?
Sara2001
I think I understand. Yes, they want to talk to him first, and it isn't that unusual that parents want that. I think it is a bit a matter of trust, and I wish they'd be able to trust me more.
Hm, they wouldn't accept one who isn't a christian and even though it is sad, they wouldn't accept someone who isnt caucasian.
Dilly
I think in my family they look mostly on interlectual background. It would be very important for them that he has good manners, is smart and has a good education. As long as something fit's this criteria, they wouldn't have a problem with any ethical or religious background. Maybe except very strict Muslims.
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I think there are two different topics here. Approval for dating and approval for marriage.
While date is usually up to a girl as long as she wears a belt, marriage is more serious step.
12 days later
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My parents are a bit similar about it,if I want to date someone,they should meet him/her and have a talk together.They’re pretty open minded about it,the ethnicity and religion is not a criteria,and I.m allowed to date men and women.But they take extra care that he/she respect me,treat me well,not do any dangerous activity(using drugs,being alcoholic,spending time in bad company...);being smart and well educated is important too.Of course,they should wear normal clothing(no ripped jeans or similar),not using vulgar language,etc...
I guess it is similar to Sara2001’s parents requirements.
P.S.:In my case,if my parents approve a boyfriend/girlfriend,it means he/she will probably be approved to marry me later,if he/she propose me,too.
7 months later
I'm pretty sure a parental approval is mandatory.
Laura how much money would your family want the person to make? And for those who have dateing restrictions has anyone ever had a crush on you so hard that they tryed to change themselves for you to meet your parents approval?
Laura I see. Hypergamy in action. 
reactionary69 Hypergamy in action
No. Segregation
Laura lol Laura.. mabey someone will get there one day lol. The pool of People in the USA with that kind of money is shrinking however, if I recall correctly what I've read. You might have to wait a while. Would you mom negatiate about this if you couldn't find a husband?
Laura true NYC is mad expensive although me and some classmates have considered moving there after school. Actually Laura I have a classmate from NYC who is rich and his friend is even richer (family has there own jet aircraft). Mabey I can out him in touch with you? Lol.
HHelen are you in new York?
It is not very pleasant,but I think it is understandable.And manageable.
To be honest,I never liked to get a "No.",but,most of the times,they were right.
Natescage And for those who have dateing restrictions has anyone ever had a crush on you so hard that they tryed to change themselves for you to meet your parents approval?
In my case,of course.But not about money!
They took care to wear normal clothes(ripped jeans,gothic look and so are not a good start to get such approval),stay calm(even if they don't like the meeting or my parents' questions),sometimes tend to make my parents think he/she is a better or more serious student than he/she is,etc...No big changes,but acting a bit differently to increase the chances to get the approval.