Purity ring
Angelina i think if you are 100% behind the meaning of the ring, it would make him very proud.
To be quite serious about it, I would worry that he would worry that my having been assaulted had had a negative effect on my attitude toward sex, men, my body, that kind of thing and that maybe he needed to do something about that.
Avery To be quite serious about it, I would worry that he would worry that my having been assaulted had had a negative effect on my attitude toward sex, men, my body, that kind of thing and that maybe he needed to do something about that.
From you posting you have a broad rang of sexual experience.
Did you do it before or after been assaulted?
Does he knows about it or of some?
Joh From you posting you have a broad rang of sexual experience.
Did you do it before or after been assaulted?
Does he knows about it or of some?
I said my ATTITUDE toward sex, men, my body etc. He wants me to think positively about myself, my body, being a girl, etc. One's attitude about these things can be negatively affected by an assault. If I suddenly went to him and said I want to swear off sex he might fear I had been negatively affected and worry.
When this topic was trending before, many months ago, I proposed the idea of a locking “chastity bracelet”.
This could be a simple band of solid metal, of the type manufactured by Axsmar and SM Factory:
https://www.axsmar.eu/Stainless-Steel/Hephaistos/Hephaistos-bracelet-15x4::22.html
https://sm-factory.com/products/heavens-hell-2er-set-armbander
The bracelet would be engraved with the words “CHASTITY”, or “TRUE LOVE WAITS”.
The son or daughter would wear the bracelet, and the parents would hold the key.
These could be marketed to the “Purity Balls” people, to kinksters, and to members of our community, the “serious use” chastity belt community.
The bracelet could also take the form of a miniature chastity belt worn upside down on the wearer’s wrist (If you prefer to wear yours right side up, that’s fine with me.) There could be one piece of metal shaped like a letter “O”, and another piece shaped like a letter “U”. The two pieces would be held together with screws, or with a hinge and an Axsmar “click” lock.
I suppose it would be problematic to put a non-adjustable bracelet of this type on a wrist that’s not yet fully grown.
Joh Perhaps it would be better to start slowly with this issue and introduce the ring after a few discussions.
Another aspect that troubles me about talking to Dad is that if I were to introduce the topic to him when I was 15 it would play as "this is how I'm going to start out in life". If I introduce it at 20, which I am now, it might emphasize that I have not been conducting myself in this fashion. and I don't think I want to draw any attention to that.
audioguy58 The son or daughter would wear the bracelet, and the parents would hold the key.
Must admit I can't see the need for another locking device. Still can't understand why parents can't talk to their kids about what is an appropriate lifestyle and try to show them the advantages of living that way.
Avery Another aspect that troubles me about talking to Dad is that if I were to introduce the topic to him when I was 15 it would play as "this is how I'm going to start out in life". If I introduce it at 20, which I am now, it might emphasize that I have not been conducting myself in this fashion. and I don't think I want to draw any attention to that.
From what I have read about you, you are actually an open person and have no problem showing your assets. Your father knows that and has it in mind that you do not dress too revealing. I think he will also have noticed that you have had sexual experience with men. In addition, your rape, which you have processed so far well and now wear for your own protection from time to time the CB.
The CB is directly linked to chastity and so it is not unusual or strange when you deal with it. Why don't you talk to your father about this issue, how it was and was seen in the past and how it is today. Thereby you can exchange yourself freely with him without first going into whether you want to do that or not. You have also had some discussions about this topic before you came to the decision and so you can also do it with him. In the conversation or a later you can deepen this whether it would be what for you. I think if you want to know his opinion he will be happy to help you without getting suspicious that you actually want something else.
By the way. As far as I remember you write about your siblings and father. Is there also a mother with whom you can talk?
Joh From what I have read about you, you are actually an open person and have no problem showing your assets. Your father knows that and has it in mind that you do not dress too revealing.
He has very specific things in mind, going out in shirts cut too low in front and bikinis that show too much (like more than 1/2) of your bum, though my youngest sister gets away with thong undies in the house.
Joh I think he will also have noticed that you have had sexual experience with men.
Hmmm. Well, he knows I've had boyfriends. He's probably realistic about the possibility of sexual contact. When we do talk about it it is referred to as "fooling around", no specifics are mentioned.
Joh You have also had some discussions about this topic before you came to the decision and so you can also do it with him.
Here, I think, is where it gets complicated. We did talk about the belt and they bought me one of my own. But this was to protect me from sex. The discussion about chastity and the ring implies whether I will actually be having sex and that kind of discussion (with him, not my mother) has never got beyond vague "fooling around" type discussions.
Joh I think if you want to know his opinion he will be happy to help you
It's hard to directly confront the subject of sex. Let me give an example. Except for when I got the belt the last time I had a discussion with Dad that came anywhere close to confronting whether I would have sex was 2 1/2 years ago. I wanted to stay out all night after senior prom in high school. You just go to a house party, get a little sleep there, have breakfast and come home. Mum said "Ask Dad!". He said if I promised to keep all my clothes on all night long I could do it. I promised and never was another word said. So sex was never explicitly mentioned it was just kind of an elephant in the room. So I don't know.
Avery I said my ATTITUDE toward sex, men, my body etc. He wants me to think positively about myself, my body, being a girl, etc. One's attitude about these things can be negatively affected by an assault. If I suddenly went to him and said I want to swear off sex he might fear I had been negatively affected and worry.
he can think that, but i am sure you have enough other arguments. put them in the foreground
Avery and wear it when I'm having trouble with self restraint.
i always thought that the belt was sufficient for this purpose 
Avery The discussion about chastity and the ring implies whether I will actually be having sex
Sorry if I've missed something, but I don't see it that way, or rather I don't see any reason why it should be that way.
Angelina then you should explain this to him in detail. i think he will understand you
I agree.
audioguy58 The bracelet would be engraved with the words “CHASTITY”, or “TRUE LOVE WAITS”.
But we may not want everyone to know our choice about it...
Avery it might emphasize that I have not been conducting myself in this fashion. and I don't think I want to draw any attention to that.
Would it put you into troubles?
Or only embarrass you a bit?
Avery Maybe if I had an inexpensive Amazon ring
Good idea.
It does not need to be an expensive one to help you remember your choice of staying chaste until in a serious relationship.
Angelina i always thought that the belt was sufficient for this purpose
But she doesn't plan to wear it permanently.