Purity ring

Angelina

the idea is not bad especially for voluntary belt wearers in case they get the "bad" idea to give it up. it is like a ring that reminds you of your partner, only that this ring reminds you of your goal of chastity. 🙂

Max9 how about a band like I wear it?

how can i imagine that? interesting idea

Avery Amazon has some that look nice. The prices are unbelievable, like €12 and such. Not goin' near a real jewellery store 'til after the holidays.

Then you will have to add a 0 to the price. (120) 😂

Avery

Angelina the idea is not bad especially for voluntary belt wearers in case they get the "bad" idea to give it up. it is like a ring that reminds you of your partner, only that this ring reminds you of your goal of chastity.

Exactly my thought.

Angelina Then you will have to add a 0 to the price.

True enough. But if I was going to wear it for a lengthy time I would want something nice (maybe dad would pay for it if he knew the reason). I once had a cheap bracelet which began to make my skin turn greenish.

Max9

Avery skin turn greenish.

maybe you are allergic to the material?

Angelina how can i imagine that? interesting idea

the black one with the white lock in my profile picture

Vanessa

Avery I thought maybe wearing a ring would help me, kind of like a reminder which is always right there.

I think it could be a good idea,yes.

Angelina it is like a ring that reminds you of your partner, only that this ring reminds you of your goal of chastity. 🙂

Right.

Avery But if I was going to wear it for a lengthy time I would want something nice

I agree.

Avery if he knew the reason

Would you ask him?

Angelina

Avery True enough. But if I was going to wear it for a lengthy time I would want something nice (maybe dad would pay for it if he knew the reason). I once had a cheap bracelet which began to make my skin turn greenish.

yes, i admit that i also only buy cheap jewellery extremely rarely, it's not worth it. and yes, daddy's credit card is the best way to shop at the jeweller's. 😂

Angelina

Max9 the black one with the white lock in my profile picture

ah ok, looks very nice 🙂

Avery

Angelina and yes, daddy's credit card is the best way to shop at the jeweller's.

Do they have Purity Balls in your country? Where ball in this case means a formal dance. If one looks up Purity Ball on Wikipedia it implies they are only in the US. Anyway there is indeed considerable precedent for the Dad to pay for his daughter's purity ring or bracelet with dinner and dancing in the bargain.

youdontknowme

Avery Where ball in this case means a formal dance.

Glad you explained that, my mind went in a direction where I could not find the link to purity anywhere.

Angelina

Avery

no, at least not that i know of. but i have heard about it from the USA and my father would certainly like it.

Avery

youdontknowme Glad you explained that, my mind went in a direction where I could not find the link to purity anywhere.

Yes, I could see that coming.

Avery

Vanessa Would you ask him?

You know at first I said nah, I could get something decent for €100, I'm not going to bother him for that. But. If he did pay for it I would feel some obligation to him to keep my knickers on so it might be better if he paid. A nice compromise might be to buy it myself but tell him what it represented.

Vanessa

Avery

So,not decided for now?

Avery

Vanessa So,not decided for now?

Pretty sure I won't ask him for the money. Not sure how to bring up to him the whole idea of the ring.

Angelina

Avery Not sure how to bring up to him the whole idea of the ring.

i think if you are 100% behind the meaning of the ring, it would make him very proud. 🙂

Avery

Angelina i think if you are 100% behind the meaning of the ring, it would make him very proud.

To be quite serious about it, I would worry that he would worry that my having been assaulted had had a negative effect on my attitude toward sex, men, my body, that kind of thing and that maybe he needed to do something about that.

Angelina

Avery

then you should explain this to him in detail. i think he will understand you, but yes, there is a certain risk because of your history.

Joh

Avery To be quite serious about it, I would worry that he would worry that my having been assaulted had had a negative effect on my attitude toward sex, men, my body, that kind of thing and that maybe he needed to do something about that.

From you posting you have a broad rang of sexual experience.
Did you do it before or after been assaulted?
Does he knows about it or of some?

Vanessa

Angelina then you should explain this to him in detail. i think he will understand you

I agree.

audioguy58 The bracelet would be engraved with the words “CHASTITY”, or “TRUE LOVE WAITS”.

But we may not want everyone to know our choice about it...

Avery it might emphasize that I have not been conducting myself in this fashion. and I don't think I want to draw any attention to that.

Would it put you into troubles?

Or only embarrass you a bit?

Avery Maybe if I had an inexpensive Amazon ring

Good idea.

It does not need to be an expensive one to help you remember your choice of staying chaste until in a serious relationship.

Angelina i always thought that the belt was sufficient for this purpose 😉

But she doesn't plan to wear it permanently.

Avery

Joh From you posting you have a broad rang of sexual experience.
Did you do it before or after been assaulted?
Does he knows about it or of some?

I said my ATTITUDE toward sex, men, my body etc. He wants me to think positively about myself, my body, being a girl, etc. One's attitude about these things can be negatively affected by an assault. If I suddenly went to him and said I want to swear off sex he might fear I had been negatively affected and worry.

Joh

Avery
Sorry. I did not understand it correctly.
Lost in translation 😅

Perhaps it would be better to start slowly with this issue and introduce the ring after a few discussions.

Angelina

Avery I said my ATTITUDE toward sex, men, my body etc. He wants me to think positively about myself, my body, being a girl, etc. One's attitude about these things can be negatively affected by an assault. If I suddenly went to him and said I want to swear off sex he might fear I had been negatively affected and worry.

he can think that, but i am sure you have enough other arguments. put them in the foreground

Avery and wear it when I'm having trouble with self restraint.

i always thought that the belt was sufficient for this purpose 😉

Avery The discussion about chastity and the ring implies whether I will actually be having sex

Sorry if I've missed something, but I don't see it that way, or rather I don't see any reason why it should be that way.

Avery

Joh Perhaps it would be better to start slowly with this issue and introduce the ring after a few discussions.

Another aspect that troubles me about talking to Dad is that if I were to introduce the topic to him when I was 15 it would play as "this is how I'm going to start out in life". If I introduce it at 20, which I am now, it might emphasize that I have not been conducting myself in this fashion. and I don't think I want to draw any attention to that.

audioguy58

When this topic was trending before, many months ago, I proposed the idea of a locking “chastity bracelet”.

This could be a simple band of solid metal, of the type manufactured by Axsmar and SM Factory:

https://www.axsmar.eu/Stainless-Steel/Hephaistos/Hephaistos-bracelet-15x4::22.html

https://sm-factory.com/products/heavens-hell-2er-set-armbander

The bracelet would be engraved with the words “CHASTITY”, or “TRUE LOVE WAITS”.

The son or daughter would wear the bracelet, and the parents would hold the key.

These could be marketed to the “Purity Balls” people, to kinksters, and to members of our community, the “serious use” chastity belt community.

The bracelet could also take the form of a miniature chastity belt worn upside down on the wearer’s wrist (If you prefer to wear yours right side up, that’s fine with me.) There could be one piece of metal shaped like a letter “O”, and another piece shaped like a letter “U”. The two pieces would be held together with screws, or with a hinge and an Axsmar “click” lock.

I suppose it would be problematic to put a non-adjustable bracelet of this type on a wrist that’s not yet fully grown.

Avery

audioguy58 The son or daughter would wear the bracelet, and the parents would hold the key.

Must admit I can't see the need for another locking device. Still can't understand why parents can't talk to their kids about what is an appropriate lifestyle and try to show them the advantages of living that way.

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