Avery I said my ATTITUDE toward sex, men, my body etc. He wants me to think positively about myself, my body, being a girl, etc. One's attitude about these things can be negatively affected by an assault. If I suddenly went to him and said I want to swear off sex he might fear I had been negatively affected and worry.

he can think that, but i am sure you have enough other arguments. put them in the foreground

Avery and wear it when I'm having trouble with self restraint.

i always thought that the belt was sufficient for this purpose 😉

Avery The discussion about chastity and the ring implies whether I will actually be having sex

Sorry if I've missed something, but I don't see it that way, or rather I don't see any reason why it should be that way.

          Angelina then you should explain this to him in detail. i think he will understand you

          I agree.

          audioguy58 The bracelet would be engraved with the words “CHASTITY”, or “TRUE LOVE WAITS”.

          But we may not want everyone to know our choice about it...

          Avery it might emphasize that I have not been conducting myself in this fashion. and I don't think I want to draw any attention to that.

          Would it put you into troubles?

          Or only embarrass you a bit?

          Avery Maybe if I had an inexpensive Amazon ring

          Good idea.

          It does not need to be an expensive one to help you remember your choice of staying chaste until in a serious relationship.

          Angelina i always thought that the belt was sufficient for this purpose 😉

          But she doesn't plan to wear it permanently.

                      Vanessa Would it put you into troubles?

                      Or only embarrass you a bit?

                      I fear that he would be unhappy about it and I do not want to make him unhappy.

                          Angelina Sorry if I've missed something, but I don't see it that way, or rather I don't see any reason why it should be that way.

                          I'm talking only about my own situation. Definitely not saying this would be true of any girl who approached her father about such a ring.

                              Avery Hmmm. Well, he knows I've had boyfriends. He's probably realistic about the possibility of sexual contact. When we do talk about it it is referred to as "fooling around", no specifics are mentioned.

                              OK. He knows, but will not say it directly. Go from there and ask him his opinion on the subject. It is best to go from general to specific in small steps, depending on how he reacts.

                              Avery has never got beyond vague "fooling around" type discussions.

                              If you show him that you are serious about the issue through good arguments and consideration from different points of view, he will see that you are responsible and not reckless. I think that's what he wants to see from his children.
                              Why should that become critical?
                              I think it's not going to be easy for the two of you to talk about this openly and honestly because it's a very intimate subject. Sexuality and how you want to deal with.

                              Avery So sex was never explicitly mentioned it was just kind of an elephant in the room. So I don't know.

                              I had the same experience as you and I suppose many after as will have it as well.
                              I'm sure talking about it is embarrassing for both of you. It takes some courage but I think it's worth it.
                              He probably won't say it on his own, but if you do, it's out there and he can deal with it.

                                      Joh depending on how he reacts.

                                      It will make him very nervous.

                                      Joh he will see that you are responsible and not reckless. I think that's what he wants to see from his children.

                                      True.

                                      Joh I think it's not going to be easy for the two of you to talk about this openly and honestly because it's a very intimate subject.

                                      Also true.

                                      Joh It takes some courage but I think it's worth it.
                                      He probably won't say it on his own, but if you do, it's out there and he can deal with it.

                                      I guess I am more encouraged now.

                                                Avery I guess I am more encouraged now.

                                                I have had a few such situations that were embarrassing or difficult. Before that, I thought a lot about how it could go or what the reaction could be. I was so nervous but in the end it went much better than I feared.

                                                I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

                                                    Joh I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

                                                    Thank you!

                                                      Vanessa But she doesn't plan to wear it permanently.

                                                      yes, but whenever she would be tempted, she could put on the belt as protection. 😉

                                                      Avery I'm talking only about my own situation. Definitely not saying this would be true of any girl who approached her father about such a ring.

                                                      yes, your situation is difficult, but how does your father feel about it in general. would he support you if you wanted to remain chaste? do you perhaps have good reasons that could distract from your past history?

                                                      Avery I guess I am more encouraged now.

                                                      if you explain the reasons to your father well, he will certainly support you. there is nothing better for parents than when their children turn to them even with difficult problems. 🙂

                                                              Angelina yes, your situation is difficult, but how does your father feel about it in general. would he support you if you wanted to remain chaste? do you perhaps have good reasons that could distract from your past history?

                                                              Yes I think he would, I'm sure, in fact, tho the discussion would probably make him feel ill at ease. I think he would see it as a sign of maturity, getting away from a kind of high school exploration phase into a more serious look to the future phase. He's never said it that I know of but I think he went through this himself, sowing some wild oats when he was young (fooling around with girls I mean), and later getting married, fathering six kids and worrying about building a good life for the family.

                                                              Angelina if you explain the reasons to your father well, he will certainly support you. there is nothing better for parents than when their children turn to them even with difficult problems.

                                                              OK.

                                                                    Avery

                                                                    then i would talk to him about it in the same way, tell him how important your future is, how important it is for you to find a partner with whom you can be as happy as he is, i think then there will be no reason for him to worry. 🙂