Vanessa

of course she was surprised and found it a little strange at first

but I told her that this system works very well in our family and that I would be very happy if she accepts this system 😉

      Angelina

      I think it is pretty unusual,but good it works for you.

      And I guess it wasn't very hard to accept;some of the rules were probably harder to get used to(like no intimacy during several weeks).

          Vanessa like no intimacy during several weeks).

          of course it was hard, but it was just at the beginning 😉

          it is unusual, but this system has many advantages for me and unconscious misbehaviour is very rare 😉

              Angelina

              Yes,as you knew it would not last long,if your relationship was strong,it was easier to manage;even if it would have been very hard for me to accept...

              It seems you liked this system,yes,and,even if I think it is a bit too formal,as long as it works you,it is good!🙂

                  Vanessa

                  it works very well and if camryn agrees, I would like to use it later with our children 😉

                      Angelina

                      Not surprising you would use this system with contracts in your family,as it has worked for you well.

                      Don't you forget some parts of these,as it seems there is a lot of these?

                          Vanessa

                          of course i sometimes forget certain things, but i have a copy of the contracts and can read everything 😉

                              Angelina

                              Do you read these again often,or are you used to the main rules,and know the main parts well?

                              And,when you read it,do you notice some rules not very useful or fair now,and so,want to discuss these again with your father?

                                  17 days later

                                  Vanessa

                                  I know most of it by heart, sometimes I reread certain things

                                  i always have to talk with my father about the contracts shortly after my birthday, because the contracts are valid for one year 😉

                                      Angelina

                                      Have you got several ones at the same time or one by one?If it is the second case,I guess it is easier to remember these.

                                      Is there many changes after these reviews?

                                          Vanessa Have you got several ones at the same time or one by one?

                                          sorry i do not understand this question

                                          Vanessa Is there many changes after these reviews?

                                          there are rather few changes, most of them have to do with i getting older 😉

                                                Angelina sorry i do not understand this question

                                                Had you to read and learn several contracts the same day?Or had you enough time to read and learn a contract well enough before doing it with another one a few days later,etc;..?

                                                Angelina there are rather few changes, most of them have to do with i getting older 😉

                                                Logical.

                                                      Vanessa

                                                      it always depends on the situation, when we discuss our contracts after my birthday, there can be many contracts at the same time, but i get a few days to read everything in peace before i sign

                                                          Angelina

                                                          Good you have time to think about it,it would not be good to accept(or not)rules in a hurry....

                                                              Vanessa

                                                              however, if i do not accept a rule, i must make an appropriate counterproposal and for this i need the time

                                                                  Angelina

                                                                  Does it happen often?And is your father fair about it,accepting it easily if it is a good one?

                                                                      Vanessa

                                                                      of course it often happens, i try to negotiate very often to make the rules more pleasant for me. if i make a good counterproposal, my father accepts it. if it is not so good, we negotiate again