Story of me and my wife
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sun
Have you told her how proud are you of her? Do you look your wife as if her was the only girl over Earth? Do you ask her because she to sigh?
I am a bit so much romantic, but I think that you can talk with her about your wishes of she wear thigh bands in order to make her safer, I think that (at least in my case), we do not need touch ourselves, but we need a man that appreciate our self giving.
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Ines Have you told her how proud are you of her?
I have told her I appreciated her sacrifice very much.Then she sobbed for a while.
Ines Do you look your wife as if her was the only girl over Earth?
Of course,I have only one wife.
Ines Do you ask her because she suspires?
I don't get your point.Why does she suspire?
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Laura Do copy it anyway if you can - it is really cool! That horrible gent @sun may reconsider his view on fish xd
sun I have told her I appreciated her sacrifice very much.Then she sobbed for a while
Why did she cry? Happiness or sadness etc? As for getting her a better belt, I would do that. 
Ines I am a bit so much romantic, but I think that you can talk with her about your wishes of she wear thigh bands in order to make her safer, I think that (at least in my case), we do not need touch ourselves, but we need a man that appreciate our self giving.
This is how I'd say it.
Ines - Whatever you mean to say, suspire is not it.
Fixed expression, to sigh, sorry.
Sara2001 Maybe I have overseeing it, but I would love to read more about your story. Since when are you belted, why are you belted, is it consensual, is it 24/7, how do you feel, what do you like, what do you dislike about your situation. Do you have other rules and how much influence do you have on decisions? Are you the only one in your family in this situation? It would be very nice if you could explain it a bit, so I can compare it with my situation and may get a better idea what to expect.
Of course. Iām happy to repeat a little from my intro!
Iām a trans woman in her 40s, married to a woman for fifteen years, and I have been locked for about three years. I anticipate that my belting will last the rest of my life, or at least my marriage.
My belting is sort of consensual; I am the only person Iāve ever known to wear a belt; and I have a say in decisions but my wife has the final word.
You and I actually have a lot in common, even as we are different in other ways.
I was raised in an extremely religious family. My parents heavily used guilt as a tool of control. Honestly, it was emotionally abusive. I was frequently told I would go to hell for my sins. And self-pleasure was a BIG one. I was guilted beyond all reason for every act of self-pleasure.
I left the church 20 years ago, but when they catch you early enough, they can damage you forever. I canāt self-pleasure anymore without massive guilt.
My wife and I for many years have maintained a taken-in-hand marriage. We strongly believe that in any hierarchy, one serves by being in charge and others serve by obeying. I suppose the idea of being an obedient wife stuck with me after I left the church. She handles much more of what others might call the traditional husband role.
My wife is the head of the household and I obey her. She has the right to use corporal punishment, and sometimes uses the cane to make her point. Honestly, I appreciate that. She can easily hit me with guilt harder than she intends, because I am so vulnerable to it. Even a small mistake crippled me with guilt for days. But when she responds to my mistakes with a caning, the punishment is over quickly and I feel nothing. I prefer it to guilt.
My wife has also more recently adopted corner time as a disciplinary method, and it works well to soothe my temper and rage. I could never do what you do, though. Five minutes is a long time in the corner for me, and I get ten if Iāve been really bad.
This does not mean I am a slave or a submissive. Only that she has the final word. I trust her to make decisions that are best for us both.
Many years ago, I remarked to her that I would have been better off wearing a chastity belt than being guilted for self-pleasure when I was younger. At least the belt would go away eventually. Guilt is with me forever. Of course, that wasnāt remotely an option; I had never heard of chastity growing up. But my wife remembered.
About a decade into our marriage, I was consumed with guilt over masturbation. I couldnāt stop myself but I couldnāt stop the guilt, either. I was crying myself to sleep at night. I asked my wife for help. Honestly, I expected she would just cane me for it or something! She asked me if I really meant it and would commit to her decision, and I said I would. She took a few days to think about it and told me I would have to wear a chastity belt. Even then she gave me a chance to back out, but I chose to go through with it. After a training period, I was locked permanently.
Iāve been belted ever since. I donāt always like it, but I accept it, and Iām more at peace. Sometimes I want it so badly I claw at my belt, but itās quite secure. Iām restricted 24/7 - I donāt always wear the belt, but she never lets me out of her sight when Iām unbelted unless itās to go to the gym. (Iām too shy to ever possibly even be a little bad in a public shower!)
Thankfully, my wife attends to my sexual needs enough to sate me. I have a stronger sex drive than her, so sometimes Iām frustrated, but I donāt feel ill-used. Still, sometimes the belt feels like purgatory and I resent that Iām denied what others freely get. But I donāt blame my wife.
I call myself reluctantly or unwillingly belted because it feels better to put the responsibility elsewhere. I choose to wear the belt. But I didnāt get to choose the guilt that drives me into it. I donāt have kids but I would never, ever impose this on anyone else. I believe to accept a belt is a fate chosen by women, to yield authority to someone who will care for them. And although I donāt always agree with her discipline, my wife cares for me very deeply.
Saintprudence And self-pleasure was a BIG one. I was guilted beyond all reason for every act of self-pleasure.
Luckily my family is not very religious. In my family they don't teach that a woman has to feel guilty after masturbation but that female masturbation must not happen. My brother can masturbate whenever he wants as well as he can have sex when he wants.
Saintprudence My wife and I for many years have maintained a taken-in-hand marriage
That's how we call our relationship, too.
Saintprudence My wife has also more recently adopted corner time as a disciplinary method, and it works well to soothe my temper and rage.
Corner time is very common in my family as long as I can think. My mom still has to do 30 minutes of corner time every morning.
Saintprudence This does not mean I am a slave or a submissive. Only that she has the final word. I trust her to make decisions that are best for us both
Like for us and mostly difficult to understand for outsiders.
Saintprudence I donāt feel ill-used
That's most important for me.
Sara2001 Corner time is very common in my family as long as I can think. My mom still has to do 30 minutes of corner time every morning.
Times like this, Iām glad my wife doesnāt read this forum, haha. She only threatens 30 minutes when sheās really annoyed and has never actually done it. Daily cornering would drive me insane!
Truth is, she mostly enjoys the fact itās a low-effort means of discipline. It was actually my idea because I noticed she didnāt always like having to drop what she was doing and deal with me. Now, if Iām
upsetting her, all she has to say is ācorner, three minutesā and she automatically wins the argument and can get back to whatever she was doing. (And my bottom is less sore!)
For me is a way of deny my feminity, and, even I have doubts about daily manage.
I dislike deeply that item.
sun I think we call them āhandcuffsā and thatās a very different matter than chastityā
sun
I do not understand you.
Why would I need something like that?
Saintprudence I think we call them āhandcuffsā
If he is talking about this, it is absolutely out of matter.
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Ines Why would I need something like that?
It's just a joke. 
Ines If he is talking about this, it is absolutely out of matter.
Saintprudence I think we call them āhandcuffsā and thatās a very different matter than chastityā
I don't mean handcuff,for it's not invisible as thighband.It may not exist.