Story of me and my wife
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Sara2001 Maybe I have overseeing it, but I would love to read more about your story. Since when are you belted, why are you belted, is it consensual, is it 24/7, how do you feel, what do you like, what do you dislike about your situation. Do you have other rules and how much influence do you have on decisions? Are you the only one in your family in this situation? It would be very nice if you could explain it a bit, so I can compare it with my situation and may get a better idea what to expect.
Of course. I’m happy to repeat a little from my intro!
I’m a trans woman in her 40s, married to a woman for fifteen years, and I have been locked for about three years. I anticipate that my belting will last the rest of my life, or at least my marriage.
My belting is sort of consensual; I am the only person I’ve ever known to wear a belt; and I have a say in decisions but my wife has the final word.
You and I actually have a lot in common, even as we are different in other ways.
I was raised in an extremely religious family. My parents heavily used guilt as a tool of control. Honestly, it was emotionally abusive. I was frequently told I would go to hell for my sins. And self-pleasure was a BIG one. I was guilted beyond all reason for every act of self-pleasure.
I left the church 20 years ago, but when they catch you early enough, they can damage you forever. I can’t self-pleasure anymore without massive guilt.
My wife and I for many years have maintained a taken-in-hand marriage. We strongly believe that in any hierarchy, one serves by being in charge and others serve by obeying. I suppose the idea of being an obedient wife stuck with me after I left the church. She handles much more of what others might call the traditional husband role.
My wife is the head of the household and I obey her. She has the right to use corporal punishment, and sometimes uses the cane to make her point. Honestly, I appreciate that. She can easily hit me with guilt harder than she intends, because I am so vulnerable to it. Even a small mistake crippled me with guilt for days. But when she responds to my mistakes with a caning, the punishment is over quickly and I feel nothing. I prefer it to guilt.
My wife has also more recently adopted corner time as a disciplinary method, and it works well to soothe my temper and rage. I could never do what you do, though. Five minutes is a long time in the corner for me, and I get ten if I’ve been really bad.
This does not mean I am a slave or a submissive. Only that she has the final word. I trust her to make decisions that are best for us both.
Many years ago, I remarked to her that I would have been better off wearing a chastity belt than being guilted for self-pleasure when I was younger. At least the belt would go away eventually. Guilt is with me forever. Of course, that wasn’t remotely an option; I had never heard of chastity growing up. But my wife remembered.
About a decade into our marriage, I was consumed with guilt over masturbation. I couldn’t stop myself but I couldn’t stop the guilt, either. I was crying myself to sleep at night. I asked my wife for help. Honestly, I expected she would just cane me for it or something! She asked me if I really meant it and would commit to her decision, and I said I would. She took a few days to think about it and told me I would have to wear a chastity belt. Even then she gave me a chance to back out, but I chose to go through with it. After a training period, I was locked permanently.
I’ve been belted ever since. I don’t always like it, but I accept it, and I’m more at peace. Sometimes I want it so badly I claw at my belt, but it’s quite secure. I’m restricted 24/7 - I don’t always wear the belt, but she never lets me out of her sight when I’m unbelted unless it’s to go to the gym. (I’m too shy to ever possibly even be a little bad in a public shower!)
Thankfully, my wife attends to my sexual needs enough to sate me. I have a stronger sex drive than her, so sometimes I’m frustrated, but I don’t feel ill-used. Still, sometimes the belt feels like purgatory and I resent that I’m denied what others freely get. But I don’t blame my wife.
I call myself reluctantly or unwillingly belted because it feels better to put the responsibility elsewhere. I choose to wear the belt. But I didn’t get to choose the guilt that drives me into it. I don’t have kids but I would never, ever impose this on anyone else. I believe to accept a belt is a fate chosen by women, to yield authority to someone who will care for them. And although I don’t always agree with her discipline, my wife cares for me very deeply.
Saintprudence And self-pleasure was a BIG one. I was guilted beyond all reason for every act of self-pleasure.
Luckily my family is not very religious. In my family they don't teach that a woman has to feel guilty after masturbation but that female masturbation must not happen. My brother can masturbate whenever he wants as well as he can have sex when he wants.
Saintprudence My wife and I for many years have maintained a taken-in-hand marriage
That's how we call our relationship, too.
Saintprudence My wife has also more recently adopted corner time as a disciplinary method, and it works well to soothe my temper and rage.
Corner time is very common in my family as long as I can think. My mom still has to do 30 minutes of corner time every morning.
Saintprudence This does not mean I am a slave or a submissive. Only that she has the final word. I trust her to make decisions that are best for us both
Like for us and mostly difficult to understand for outsiders.
Saintprudence I don’t feel ill-used
That's most important for me.
Sara2001 Corner time is very common in my family as long as I can think. My mom still has to do 30 minutes of corner time every morning.
Times like this, I’m glad my wife doesn’t read this forum, haha. She only threatens 30 minutes when she’s really annoyed and has never actually done it. Daily cornering would drive me insane!
Truth is, she mostly enjoys the fact it’s a low-effort means of discipline. It was actually my idea because I noticed she didn’t always like having to drop what she was doing and deal with me. Now, if I’m
upsetting her, all she has to say is “corner, three minutes” and she automatically wins the argument and can get back to whatever she was doing. (And my bottom is less sore!)
For me is a way of deny my feminity, and, even I have doubts about daily manage.
I dislike deeply that item.
sun I think we call them “handcuffs” and that’s a very different matter than chastity’
sun
I do not understand you.
Why would I need something like that?
Saintprudence I think we call them “handcuffs”
If he is talking about this, it is absolutely out of matter.
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Ines Why would I need something like that?
It's just a joke. 
Ines If he is talking about this, it is absolutely out of matter.
Saintprudence I think we call them “handcuffs” and that’s a very different matter than chastity’
I don't mean handcuff,for it's not invisible as thighband.It may not exist.
Ines The weakness, of your case, in my opinion, is the lack of communication.
I agree.It seems it is something they have to improve a lot(and in general,not only about chastity belt).
I think you do pretty well with her,in the current situation,she doesn't told you much about her feelings,and I think it is hard for both of you to know what to do.
It would be better this way,yes.
Sara2001 My brother can masturbate whenever he wants as well as he can have sex when he wants.
Do you feel it as unfair as I feel it?It is the same about me and my twin's rules...
A chastity bra is very hard emotionally.Don't do it before you're able to discuss freely with her,and that she wants to wear it.
sun she hates chastity belt the worst
Do you meant chastity bra?
Vanessa Do you feel it as unfair as I feel it?It is the same about me and my twin's rules...
Of course it is unfair, but it is also a normal thing for me. Man have more freedom in my family. I like that at least he has the freedom. It wouldn't help me if not.
Of course I often want to have his possibilities, no curfew, my own money, less tasks in the household and the possibility to delegate them, no physical punishment, but I also have learned that this will not happen.
Now with Daniel almost all of the rules will stay in place after wedding, but it feels completely different for me because now it was my decision to accept them.
A bit similar for me.I would like to have the same freedom,but would not like he lose it and have the same rules than me.
However,it is ever more different in your house than in mine...Way harder for you(and your sister,I guess)than for him.
Logical it will be different feelings with your husband