Just chatting
Angelina it would be nice, most people don't even know which politicians are from which party.
Which again is telling by itself.
Parties in Germany are no longer the defining factor around politics. It seems rather pretty much all the same and only the degree of self-dealing and dishonesty varies.
If politicians believe and act like there is one set of rules for them and a different one for ordinary people, the system is on it's way to failure. And I am afraid, I see exactly this development in Germany and even more so in the US.
Hi all ya all having fun yeah. Hope you're good.
Ok so I'm sorry I don't really know what I'm saying here I'm just like feeling depressed about chastity - like it's not normal and everyone's having fun and I'm missing out. And I've tried just avoiding anything sexy and the horniness goes away but still - like I feel sad about it. It just worries me so much like I feel like I should give up on it but thinking that worries me.
Hi, Jen.
First of all, I am glad to have you around, even if I do not like what you tell us, get a ton of hugs from Europe.
I must tell you that to me what you tell happened to me in two moments, one after one or two years of starting to use the belt and the other last year, which was even one of the causes of my leaving the forum for a few months.
And what you relate and related to what you say is quite similar to what happened to me last year. I am very used to live with frustration, and I do not see it as a bad thing, that is precisely why we use the belt, and this frustration dissipated after more or less time, and nothing happened.
But last year it began to generate some heaviness, it happened to me as it did to you. The urgency would go away, but then I would feel bad for several days, thinking about everything.
It helped me to turn to my boyfriend, to open my mind and start doing certain things.
I see myself now and I was very taliban, obviously I do not see it well for a newly formed couple, but for one, of years, it is not bad that we take care of our boyfriend.
The belt is there to taint us with the pleasure of the flesh, but it ca not rob us of our mental well-being.
Watching him enjoy himself restored my self-esteem and made me enjoy myself immensely, even, ironically though the cravings grew exponentially.
I felt much better, more relaxed and the step we climbed in involvement as a couple, incredible.
I, of course, do not suggest anything, because that is absolutely dependent on your ethics and your state of mind.
If my experience does not help you, you should think, perhaps, to make a pause and see if after a time without a belt to be without it is better or worse.
A kiss. Cheer up, and let's see if we see you more here, @Jen
Jen Really sorry to hear you've been feeling down. I think you definitely are missing out on some things, but that other people will miss out on what chastity can bring. Chastity's not normal. It's up to you to determine whether this means it's stupid or special. Don't be sad though! If you are, talk to @Sin about how kinky it all is!!!
thanks Ines
Jen It just worries me so much like I feel like I should give up on it but thinking that worries me.
Hi @Jen! Stick your belt in the cupboard and just do your thing for a little while. Don't stress. There are so many unrealistic expectations regarding what chastity "should" be, particularly on this site. It's just not the reality for the vast majority of users, despite what you read on here. I've had a crisis of confidence so many times I've lost count!
If it's not working for you then don't force it. Take a break. Or change it up and go play on Emlalock or something. It might be a fun way to challenge yourself! (Just be careful of all the creepy predators).