Is sex a "want" or a "need"?

Jonas

Vanessa Jonas However, my personal experience has led me to conclude that masturbation was bad for me.

I agree,it is mainly personal opinion.

It is a personal decision, but remember, looking back, I'd say I made the wrong decision at the time.

If we exclude all non-consensual use, forget about the actual chastity belts, and just look at the honest, kindly communication between the generations here, it's more often than not very simple: The old folk are telling the young folk to wait for marriage and to watch out for masturbation. That's the experience they want to pass on. The locks and keys and bribery and arguments and resentment all stem from just how strongly the older folk want to pass on their message.

And, if I could go back in time, I'd be telling myself the same thing.

Angelina

Vanessa On the other hand,if the partner is a bit more skilled,he/she should be able to relieve the scary feeling!😉

well, unless your partner hasn't had the experience either, then it can get very complicated.

Vanessa You would have accepted it more willingly?

i don't know, rather not, unless camryn would have liked it

Jonas It is a personal decision, but remember, looking back, I'd say I made the wrong decision at the time.

but that is perfectly normal. every human being makes more mistakes when he/she is young than later, because we are always learning in life.

Vanessa

Jonas It is a personal decision, but remember, looking back, I'd say I made the wrong decision at the time.

I strongly doubt I would think I was "lucky" to had to wear a chastity belt...

Jonas That's the experience they want to pass on.

They should only give it as an advice.

Jonas And, if I could go back in time, I'd be telling myself the same thing.

But do you think you could convince yourself to wear one willingly?

Angelina well, unless your partner hasn't had the experience either, then it can get very complicated.

Sure!

Angelina i don't know, rather not, unless camryn would have liked it

Which is unlikely,right?

Ines But if your question is if I have seen some changes in last times, not about the belt, but it is true that her temperament is much better now.

Yes,that was my question.

It can be considered as a more important improvement than accepting more the idea of a chastity belt,but with no change on her temperament,I think.

Angelina firstly she would then probably accept the belt more or secondly it could also make the belt superfluous.

I don't think it is so linked with the chastity belt...

Ines It is her decision and only her decision.

Right way to think and act.

Ines

Vanessa Do you think your sister would finally accept to wear one?

I do not know, but minds change with time.
But if your question is if I have seen some changes in last times, not about the belt, but it is true that her temperament is much better now.

Angelina

Ines but it is true that her temperament is much better now.

does she have a calmer temperament now? if so this can have 2 advantages. firstly she would then probably accept the belt more or secondly it could also make the belt superfluous.

Ines

Angelina
Yes she is not angry all the time with every thing.
A chastity belt is never superfluous for a girl! 😅
But she does not want wear a belt at all, at least for the moment, and is a theme that we are not treating usually in home.
It is her decision and only her decision.

Angelina

Ines A chastity belt is never superfluous for a girl! 😅

unless the girl can also protect herself from the "dangers" without a belt 😉

Ines But she does not want wear a belt at all, at least for the moment, and is a theme that we are not treating usually in home.
It is her decision and only her decision.

ok, i just wanted to know the current status and yes i think it is very good that she can make this decision freely and that there is no "peer pressure" within the family 🙂

Jonas

Vanessa But do you think you could convince yourself to wear one willingly?

I think I could, as I'd have the benefit of experience. And, thinking about it, I'd feel like I had authority.

Angelina

Vanessa Which is unlikely,right?

she knows i don't like the belt. it would only be a last resort to save my marriage in an emergency and only for a limited time.

Vanessa I don't think it is so linked with the chastity belt...

I don't think so either, but it increases the chances a bit.

Vanessa

Angelina she knows i don't like the belt. it would only be a last resort to save my marriage in an emergency and only for a limited time.

Understandable.

Kaja

Jonas Sex is need. So you need have intercouse or masturbate or both.

Laura

Kaja So you need have intercouse or masturbate or both.

If you are a man 😂

Max9

Kaja Nope. Nobody needs sex or intercourse.

Angelina

Kaja

i know the saying "except die and poop i don't have to do anything" so it's definitely a want 😃

Kaja

Laura ...or girl. This is same for both

Kaja

Angelina You need eat, drink, sleep, you need love/feiends, ... It is call need.
It is part od Maslows pyramid, Doyal and Gough.

Vanessa

Kaja

Right.I checked,and yes,it is in Maslow's pyramid,and at the bottom of it(the most important needs)!

Angelina

Kaja

interesting, the maslow pyramid is no longer considered contemporary by many economists 😉

and nowhere in the maslow pyramid is sex mentioned 😉

Sin but I think there would be a big part of my life missing

that's right, something very important is missing, but that's like all beautiful things in life, we want it, but I doubt whether we need it.

Max9

Kaja You need love, but love doesn't equal sex.

Sin

I get that you can survive without it, but I think there would be a big part of my life missing. Like I would be missing a lot of mental / emotional development and body awareness that comes with self care and intimacy.

Sin

Angelina that's right, something very important is missing, but that's like all beautiful things in life, we want it, but I doubt whether we need it.

Speak for yourself! 😁
Different strokes for different folks.

Vanessa

Angelina interesting, the maslow pyramid is no longer considered contemporary by many economists 😉

It is not especially related to economy.But yes,it seems many scientists don't agree with it anymore.

Angelina and nowhere in the maslow pyramid is sex mentioned 😉

Funny enough,"sex" is rarely mentioned in english pictures of it,while it is almost always written in the french pictures! 🤣

Look at the bottom of the pyramid in the first picture of the french version( https://fr.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pyramide_des_besoins )and notice one the physiological need is "sexualité"(sexuality).

Kaja

Logical!🙂

Angelina I would still rather give up sex than love.... I do, but I would be of the same opinion if I had to give it up voluntarily.

Me too.But have both is better.

Angelina Thank you, I hate sushi 😂

Same for me!😉

Milord

Angelina

I randomly find this topic.

Sex is at the base of Maslow pyramid. While this as been criticised, in the author intention is definitively there. It’s a basic need. Sometime you will not see in the diagram, but it’s basically there

Also interesting to see that while sex is among physiological needs (with food and sleep), love, intimacy, are on the third level, so higher, where needs there are needs for belong.

Here is a good description
https://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html

Angelina

Sin Speak for yourself! 😁
Different strokes for different folks.

well, in that case, of course, you're right. 🤣

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