Vanessa Jonas However, my personal experience has led me to conclude that masturbation was bad for me.

I agree,it is mainly personal opinion.

It is a personal decision, but remember, looking back, I'd say I made the wrong decision at the time.

If we exclude all non-consensual use, forget about the actual chastity belts, and just look at the honest, kindly communication between the generations here, it's more often than not very simple: The old folk are telling the young folk to wait for marriage and to watch out for masturbation. That's the experience they want to pass on. The locks and keys and bribery and arguments and resentment all stem from just how strongly the older folk want to pass on their message.

And, if I could go back in time, I'd be telling myself the same thing.

      Vanessa On the other hand,if the partner is a bit more skilled,he/she should be able to relieve the scary feeling!😉

      well, unless your partner hasn't had the experience either, then it can get very complicated.

      Vanessa You would have accepted it more willingly?

      i don't know, rather not, unless camryn would have liked it

      Jonas It is a personal decision, but remember, looking back, I'd say I made the wrong decision at the time.

      but that is perfectly normal. every human being makes more mistakes when he/she is young than later, because we are always learning in life.

              Vanessa Do you think your sister would finally accept to wear one?

              I do not know, but minds change with time.
              But if your question is if I have seen some changes in last times, not about the belt, but it is true that her temperament is much better now.

                  Ines but it is true that her temperament is much better now.

                  does she have a calmer temperament now? if so this can have 2 advantages. firstly she would then probably accept the belt more or secondly it could also make the belt superfluous.

                      Angelina
                      Yes she is not angry all the time with every thing.
                      A chastity belt is never superfluous for a girl! 😅
                      But she does not want wear a belt at all, at least for the moment, and is a theme that we are not treating usually in home.
                      It is her decision and only her decision.

                          Ines A chastity belt is never superfluous for a girl! 😅

                          unless the girl can also protect herself from the "dangers" without a belt 😉

                          Ines But she does not want wear a belt at all, at least for the moment, and is a theme that we are not treating usually in home.
                          It is her decision and only her decision.

                          ok, i just wanted to know the current status and yes i think it is very good that she can make this decision freely and that there is no "peer pressure" within the family 🙂

                              Jonas It is a personal decision, but remember, looking back, I'd say I made the wrong decision at the time.

                              I strongly doubt I would think I was "lucky" to had to wear a chastity belt...

                              Jonas That's the experience they want to pass on.

                              They should only give it as an advice.

                              Jonas And, if I could go back in time, I'd be telling myself the same thing.

                              But do you think you could convince yourself to wear one willingly?

                              Angelina well, unless your partner hasn't had the experience either, then it can get very complicated.

                              Sure!

                              Angelina i don't know, rather not, unless camryn would have liked it

                              Which is unlikely,right?

                              Ines But if your question is if I have seen some changes in last times, not about the belt, but it is true that her temperament is much better now.

                              Yes,that was my question.

                              It can be considered as a more important improvement than accepting more the idea of a chastity belt,but with no change on her temperament,I think.

                              Angelina firstly she would then probably accept the belt more or secondly it could also make the belt superfluous.

                              I don't think it is so linked with the chastity belt...

                              Ines It is her decision and only her decision.

                              Right way to think and act.

                                                Vanessa But do you think you could convince yourself to wear one willingly?

                                                I think I could, as I'd have the benefit of experience. And, thinking about it, I'd feel like I had authority.

                                                  Vanessa Which is unlikely,right?

                                                  she knows i don't like the belt. it would only be a last resort to save my marriage in an emergency and only for a limited time.

                                                  Vanessa I don't think it is so linked with the chastity belt...

                                                  I don't think so either, but it increases the chances a bit.

                                                        4 days later

                                                        Angelina she knows i don't like the belt. it would only be a last resort to save my marriage in an emergency and only for a limited time.

                                                        Understandable.

                                                          5 months later

                                                          Kaja So you need have intercouse or masturbate or both.

                                                          If you are a man 😂

                                                              Kaja Nope. Nobody needs sex or intercourse.

                                                                Kaja

                                                                i know the saying "except die and poop i don't have to do anything" so it's definitely a want 😃

                                                                    Angelina You need eat, drink, sleep, you need love/feiends, ... It is call need.
                                                                    It is part od Maslows pyramid, Doyal and Gough.

                                                                        Kaja

                                                                        Right.I checked,and yes,it is in Maslow's pyramid,and at the bottom of it(the most important needs)!

                                                                          I get that you can survive without it, but I think there would be a big part of my life missing. Like I would be missing a lot of mental / emotional development and body awareness that comes with self care and intimacy.

                                                                            Kaja

                                                                            interesting, the maslow pyramid is no longer considered contemporary by many economists 😉

                                                                            and nowhere in the maslow pyramid is sex mentioned 😉

                                                                            Sin but I think there would be a big part of my life missing

                                                                            that's right, something very important is missing, but that's like all beautiful things in life, we want it, but I doubt whether we need it.

                                                                                  Angelina that's right, something very important is missing, but that's like all beautiful things in life, we want it, but I doubt whether we need it.

                                                                                  Speak for yourself! 😁
                                                                                  Different strokes for different folks.