Vanessa It is pretty admitted that an ex-alcoholic can resume this addiction very quickly,even after years without drinking...

I stand by my statement, also based on experience from my circle of friends (whose parents).

Vanessa But no need to solve it,as long as it is not excessive,in my opinion.

As I said, it would not be my first "therapy method", rather the last resort.

        Vanessa It is pretty admitted that an ex-alcoholic can resume this addiction very quickly,even after years without drinking

        Only one drink is sufficient to be addicted and start again. An ex-alcoholic can never drink alcohol again or it starts again on the spot. I heard some alcohol in cake like Black Forest cake (Schwarzwälder Kischtorte) already trigger it.

            Angelina As I said, it would not be my first "therapy method", rather the last resort.

            Yet, when you find yourself at the last resort, you wonder to yourself, "why didn't I do this at the start?!" 😀

                Jonas

                well, i think there are much more pleasant forms and ways to control this search a little better. the belt is very restrictive and should therefore only be the last solution. 😉

                    Angelina As always I respect your opinion, even though I have a different view. 😃

                        Jonas As always I respect your opinion, even though I have a different view. 😃

                        it was clear to me that you have a different opinion and that is perfectly ok 😃

                          Jonas

                          Logical.

                          Angelina I stand by my statement, also based on experience from my circle of friends (whose parents).

                          They were alcoholic and have resumed drinking,after their addiction were solved,without being addicted again?

                          Joh

                          It is what I've read/heard,too.

                                  Vanessa They were alcoholic and have resumed drinking,after their addiction were solved,without being addicted again?

                                  yes, the father of a friend of mine used to be an alcoholic. he went to therapy and didn't drink for 5 years afterwards. now he sometimes drinks one or two glasses, but in a controlled way 😉

                                      Angelina Really interesting to read this. It would be nice to think that in the future I might have greater control and perhaps not have to wear a full belt, but I'm sure I won't ever masturbate again.

                                          Jonas but I'm sure I won't ever masturbate again.

                                          never say never, as you can read, it can take a long time but with a lot of self control it is possible 😉

                                              Angelina It all depends on whether I make a promise to my wife on the subject. If I make such a promise to her, then that's it, no going back! 🙂

                                              Also, of course, my experience has changed me. I am against masturbation now. I don't think it's been good for me at all.

                                                  Jonas

                                                  well, if you have made a promise to your wife, you should of course keep it, regardless of your attitude towards masturbation. 😉

                                                      Angelina Yes, exactly. It's all a little unclear right now, but I think probably this year I will make this as a solemn promise to her and then that'll be the end of the matter. This is both exciting (as it's definite progress and a proper commitment on my part), but its also a little bit scary. I like masturbating. I like it a lot (obviously! 🤣 ). Unlike the gentleman who recently left the forum however, I fully accept my belt. It is a part of me. I am a better man wearing it. I'm a better husband.

                                                          Jonas I fully accept my belt. It is a part of me. I am a better man wearing it. I'm a better husband.

                                                          then the belt is definitely not a wrong decision, i just always worry when things to do with the belt are supposed to be valid for eternity.

                                                              Angelina then the belt is definitely not a wrong decision, i just always worry when things to do with the belt are supposed to be valid for eternity.

                                                              I appreciate and respect your concerns and have really thought about all the things that you and @Vanessa have said. I understand that you have different experiences and I can totally understand why your view of chastity belts is often quite different to my own.
                                                              For me, chastity is a part of complete rebuild of myself. It's a hugely positive thing. I hope, expect and require that I will become the man my wife deserves, for eternity. 😁

                                                                  Jonas really thought about all the things that you and @Vanessa have said. I understand that you have different experiences

                                                                  on most points i am just worried, i don't want anyone here on the forum to be unhappy with the decision

                                                                  Jonas I hope, expect and require that I will become the man my wife deserves, for eternity. 😁

                                                                  with or without belt i support this goal 😉

                                                                      Angelina

                                                                      Very surprising!

                                                                      Jonas

                                                                      I think it could easily be the case.

                                                                      Jonas

                                                                      Why didn't you promised it to your wife and avoid of the belt,so?

                                                                      Jonas It's a hugely positive thing.

                                                                      Something we feel very different😉

                                                                                Vanessa Why didn't you promised it to your wife and avoid of the belt,so?

                                                                                I wouldn't make a promise to my wife that I couldn't trust myself to keep.

                                                                                Now, a high security belt, I feel able to be able to make such a promise, but even so I will continue to look to increase security as much as I can to make absolutely certain.

                                                                                  Vanessa Jonas It's a hugely positive thing.

                                                                                  Something we feel very different

                                                                                  I know.

                                                                                  It frustrates me a great deal to know that your experience is so different to my own.