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Angelina
Vanessa
I know its bad. Sometimes I post it as is otherwise I'll just delete. Trying to write clearly what I'm thinking can make my thoughts race worse. Hope this is clearer...

I felt trapped at the beginning because I worried about the agreement and consequences too much. And yeah I thought about would it be better to just do it and avoid the argument - but then also worried about if they wouldn't let me out. At the time getting help from others also seemed to have too many consequences.

But completely ignoring the consequences made them go away - because they were only imagined things in my head.

So when Vanessa said if I want it off I could wait till a cleaning break or go to a locksmith and then Angelina mentioned consequences - my thoughts went back to the worry at the beginning. That isn't how it would be.

If I let someone have the keys they would know. If I properly demanded it comes off, then they would have to unlock it - because if they didn't I'd get help straight away and that could get difficult legally for them. And that is their consequence to deal with - not mine.

        Jen If I properly demanded it comes off, then they would have to unlock it - because if they didn't I'd get help straight away and that could get difficult legally for them.

        I aim to achieve kinda the opposite for myself. If I demand the belt comes off, I'm looking for, and need, a firm NO. Likewise, legal consequences for me if I broke the belt would be great!! I guess this is the a difference between a vow of chastity and a chastity belt. I don't just want not to have sex or to masturbate, I want to have no other option. In this way I get to make firm personal choices right now and to direct my own future as I want it to be.

            Jen If I let someone have the keys they would know. If I properly demanded it comes off, then they would have to unlock it - because if they didn't I'd get help straight away and that could get difficult legally for them. And that is their consequence to deal with - not mine.

            yes of course you come from a slightly different situation. sorry that i sometimes see a girl behind every belt who is not happy with it, but i think i can't help it. yes i understand you. but generally speaking i would still not wear the belt as long as your parents have the keys or prove to be a trustworthy key holder.

                Jen So when Vanessa said if I want it off I could wait till a cleaning break or go to a locksmith and then Angelina mentioned consequences - my thoughts went back to the worry at the beginning. That isn't how it would be.

                Sorry if our talk made you worry again.

                But I still think it could work.

                Jen If I properly demanded it comes off, then they would have to unlock it

                It's what I mean.It should be very clear for them you've this right,and they must accept and respect it.

                Jonas

                Yes but @Jen has not the same feelings and reason to wear it.

                Angelina but generally speaking i would still not wear the belt as long as your parents have the keys or prove to be a trustworthy key holder.

                Why,as there is many ways to be free of it,quickly,even in they don't respect the agreement(and the belt can be sent to the trash after it,as she would never accept it again if they betray their agreement)?

                          Vanessa Why,as there is many ways to be free of it,quickly,even in they don't respect the agreement(and the belt can be sent to the trash after it,as she would never accept it again if they betray their agreement)?

                          If this would happen they have to face the consequence that with their behaviour they destroyed the last bit of the relationship.

                              Joh

                              And if they understand it,they would respect the agreement.She should be very clear about it,too,yes.

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                                  Vanessa And if they understand it,they would respect the agreement.She should be very clear about it,too,yes.

                                  Is that the case with your parents? Would they behave like that?

                                      Jen If I let someone have the keys they would know. If I properly demanded it comes off, then they would have to unlock it - because if they didn't I'd get help straight away and that could get difficult legally for them. And that is their consequence to deal with - not mine.

                                      Which is why I think it would be safe to ask your parents @Jen, if you like. But you can probably get some further concessions from your mom at this point, if there are things you want.

                                        Joh

                                        I've not an agreement as I suggest @Jen to have one.

                                        But if I ask for the keys,they give these to me.But with more consequences that she had when she decided to not wear it.

                                        Jen

                                        Good!🙂

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                                              Vanessa But with more consequences that she had when she decided to not wear it.

                                              And you will not face the consequences if I understand you right.

                                                  Vanessa Why,as there is many ways to be free of it,quickly,even in they don't respect the agreement(and the belt can be sent to the trash after it,as she would never accept it again if they betray their agreement)?

                                                  because it would damage the family, if it does not work it can destroy a lot of things within the family because the trust that was not there in this situation is no longer there in other situations.

                                                  Joh If this would happen they have to face the consequence that with their behaviour they destroyed the last bit of the relationship.

                                                  I would never have thought it possible but I agree with you at this point and not with @Vanessa.

                                                        Angelina because it would damage the family, if it does not work it can destroy a lot of things within the family because the trust that was not there in this situation is no longer there in other situations.

                                                        I would let the family be destroyed by it. And I would think it was their doing not mine. But yes it would be difficult but also I don't say it to be stubborn - more like a self defence, I have to be clear about it for myself or the whole thing is overwhelming. also long term I think it would be better anyway - the short term destroy family and move on is better than long term me being destroyed. But anyway i don't think this is something i need to worry about.

                                                            Jen But anyway i don't think this is something i need to worry about.

                                                            I hope so for you, maybe you will manage to meet an arangemant with your parents for a long time or maybe with a future partner 😉

                                                              Joh

                                                              Mine are bad enough to be a deterrent.

                                                              Angelina because it would damage the family, if it does not work it can destroy a lot of things within the family because the trust that was not there in this situation is no longer there in other situations.

                                                              Right,it could damage a bit more the family.But,about trust,it seems it is already not here anymore.

                                                              Angelina I would never have thought it possible but I agree with you at this point and not with @Vanessa.

                                                              But it would not be @Jen's fault,but the fault of her parents.

                                                              Jen And I would think it was their doing not mine.

                                                              Right.

                                                                        Vanessa But,about trust,it seems it is already not here anymore.

                                                                        that may be, i just want to say that a family where there is no trust is not a happy family. i hate that i have to wear the belt but i would stop immediately if i could not trust my father.

                                                                        Vanessa But it would not be @Jen's fault,but the fault of her parents.

                                                                        Of course not, but the trust would be gone, no matter who is fault

                                                                              Angelina

                                                                              Don't you think it could help to restore the trust,however,if they follow the agreement(no matter what would be @Jen's decision,after the trying)?

                                                                                  Vanessa trust isn't gone, that's why i said i don't need to worry.

                                                                                      Jen

                                                                                      Oh,ok,good trust isn't gone!🙂

                                                                                      Why do you think this,now?It was not the case not so long ago,it seems...

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