Vanessa Why,as there is many ways to be free of it,quickly,even in they don't respect the agreement(and the belt can be sent to the trash after it,as she would never accept it again if they betray their agreement)?
If this would happen they have to face the consequence that with their behaviour they destroyed the last bit of the relationship.
Jen If I let someone have the keys they would know. If I properly demanded it comes off, then they would have to unlock it - because if they didn't I'd get help straight away and that could get difficult legally for them. And that is their consequence to deal with - not mine.
Which is why I think it would be safe to ask your parents @Jen, if you like. But you can probably get some further concessions from your mom at this point, if there are things you want.
Vanessa Why,as there is many ways to be free of it,quickly,even in they don't respect the agreement(and the belt can be sent to the trash after it,as she would never accept it again if they betray their agreement)?
because it would damage the family, if it does not work it can destroy a lot of things within the family because the trust that was not there in this situation is no longer there in other situations.
Joh If this would happen they have to face the consequence that with their behaviour they destroyed the last bit of the relationship.
I would never have thought it possible but I agree with you at this point and not with @Vanessa.
Angelina because it would damage the family, if it does not work it can destroy a lot of things within the family because the trust that was not there in this situation is no longer there in other situations.
I would let the family be destroyed by it. And I would think it was their doing not mine. But yes it would be difficult but also I don't say it to be stubborn - more like a self defence, I have to be clear about it for myself or the whole thing is overwhelming. also long term I think it would be better anyway - the short term destroy family and move on is better than long term me being destroyed. But anyway i don't think this is something i need to worry about.
Mine are bad enough to be a deterrent.
Angelina because it would damage the family, if it does not work it can destroy a lot of things within the family because the trust that was not there in this situation is no longer there in other situations.
Right,it could damage a bit more the family.But,about trust,it seems it is already not here anymore.
But it would not be @Jen's fault,but the fault of her parents.
Jen And I would think it was their doing not mine.
Right.
Vanessa But,about trust,it seems it is already not here anymore.
that may be, i just want to say that a family where there is no trust is not a happy family. i hate that i have to wear the belt but i would stop immediately if i could not trust my father.
Of course not, but the trust would be gone, no matter who is fault
