Reasons a chastity belt sucks?

Jen If I let someone have the keys they would know. If I properly demanded it comes off, then they would have to unlock it - because if they didn't I'd get help straight away and that could get difficult legally for them. And that is their consequence to deal with - not mine.

yes of course you come from a slightly different situation. sorry that i sometimes see a girl behind every belt who is not happy with it, but i think i can't help it. yes i understand you. but generally speaking i would still not wear the belt as long as your parents have the keys or prove to be a trustworthy key holder.

Jen So when Vanessa said if I want it off I could wait till a cleaning break or go to a locksmith and then Angelina mentioned consequences - my thoughts went back to the worry at the beginning. That isn't how it would be.

Sorry if our talk made you worry again.

But I still think it could work.

Jen If I properly demanded it comes off, then they would have to unlock it

It's what I mean.It should be very clear for them you've this right,and they must accept and respect it.

Jonas

Yes but @Jen has not the same feelings and reason to wear it.

Angelina but generally speaking i would still not wear the belt as long as your parents have the keys or prove to be a trustworthy key holder.

Why,as there is many ways to be free of it,quickly,even in they don't respect the agreement(and the belt can be sent to the trash after it,as she would never accept it again if they betray their agreement)?

Vanessa Why,as there is many ways to be free of it,quickly,even in they don't respect the agreement(and the belt can be sent to the trash after it,as she would never accept it again if they betray their agreement)?

If this would happen they have to face the consequence that with their behaviour they destroyed the last bit of the relationship.

Joh

And if they understand it,they would respect the agreement.She should be very clear about it,too,yes.

Vanessa And if they understand it,they would respect the agreement.She should be very clear about it,too,yes.

Is that the case with your parents? Would they behave like that?

Jen If I let someone have the keys they would know. If I properly demanded it comes off, then they would have to unlock it - because if they didn't I'd get help straight away and that could get difficult legally for them. And that is their consequence to deal with - not mine.

Which is why I think it would be safe to ask your parents @Jen, if you like. But you can probably get some further concessions from your mom at this point, if there are things you want.

Joh

I've not an agreement as I suggest @Jen to have one.

But if I ask for the keys,they give these to me.But with more consequences that she had when she decided to not wear it.

Jen

Good!

Vanessa But with more consequences that she had when she decided to not wear it.

And you will not face the consequences if I understand you right.

Vanessa Why,as there is many ways to be free of it,quickly,even in they don't respect the agreement(and the belt can be sent to the trash after it,as she would never accept it again if they betray their agreement)?

because it would damage the family, if it does not work it can destroy a lot of things within the family because the trust that was not there in this situation is no longer there in other situations.

Joh If this would happen they have to face the consequence that with their behaviour they destroyed the last bit of the relationship.

I would never have thought it possible but I agree with you at this point and not with @Vanessa.

Jen But anyway i don't think this is something i need to worry about.

I hope so for you, maybe you will manage to meet an arangemant with your parents for a long time or maybe with a future partner

Joh

Mine are bad enough to be a deterrent.

Angelina because it would damage the family, if it does not work it can destroy a lot of things within the family because the trust that was not there in this situation is no longer there in other situations.

Right,it could damage a bit more the family.But,about trust,it seems it is already not here anymore.

Angelina I would never have thought it possible but I agree with you at this point and not with @Vanessa.

But it would not be @Jen's fault,but the fault of her parents.

Jen And I would think it was their doing not mine.

Right.

Vanessa But,about trust,it seems it is already not here anymore.

that may be, i just want to say that a family where there is no trust is not a happy family. i hate that i have to wear the belt but i would stop immediately if i could not trust my father.

Vanessa But it would not be @Jen's fault,but the fault of her parents.

Of course not, but the trust would be gone, no matter who is fault

Angelina

Don't you think it could help to restore the trust,however,if they follow the agreement(no matter what would be @Jen's decision,after the trying)?

Jen

Oh,ok,good trust isn't gone!

Why do you think this,now?It was not the case not so long ago,it seems...

Vanessa ,if they follow the agreement

that is the critical point IF they follow

Jen i think they realise what they did.

that sounds good, so your parents realized they went the wrong way?

Jen

Good,it may help if you want to try it,and have an agreement with them.

Angelina that is the critical point IF they follow

Only @Jen would be able to guess well if they would follow it or not,I think.