Funguy
Nothing that you conquer with ease can really satisfy you.
When things go dire, remember a Latin motto which I really loved throughout my high school ages which helped my resilience.

Quod acerbum fuit ferre, tulisse iucundum est.
Whatever was hard to sustain, it is blissful to have sustained it.

Which is good also for every victim of a forced belt here.

    Funguy I’m gay so finding a woman I want to marry is impossible

    You only need a woman who agrees to marry you. Basically it doesn't matter if you are gay or not.

        Renita

        So just get married and then get a divorce after? I hope I can find a woman that my mom approves of and would do that.

            Renita

            The big scam!
            Holy moly, did not tought about that! Brilliant.
            Brilliant but... Still it means lieing to a mother. I dunno. On paper is brilliant but actually doing it..

                Funguy So just get married and then get a divorce after?

                Not necessary to divorce, you can keep maintaining you marital status.

                LoonyMel The big scam!

                Like any other marriage. As it's mostly a deal.

                LoonyMel Still it means lieing to a mother

                Lie in what?

                        Renita
                        Well, he should even go and marry a woman in order to appeace his mother instead of telling her just the truth? Should he keep a charade out of fear?
                        He just need to marry whomever he loves. And tell his mother straight out that if she does cut him out, it was bound to ahppen sooner or later.
                        ...but at that point, lost for lost, either the belt comes out with both part smiling or the lawyer will see that it will come off.
                        Still, there is no need to go this eep for something that is owned.

                            Funguy Edit: For those who don’t know I’m gay so finding a woman I want to marry is impossible.

                            then you should tell your mother, i think wedding is wedding no matter with whom 😉

                            Renita You only need a woman who agrees to marry you.

                            no, he doesn't need that, if his mother knew that he was gay, she wouldn't put it that way. i think if he marries a man the conditions should be the same

                                  LoonyMel Well, he should even go and marry a woman in order to appeace his mother instead of telling her just the truth?

                                  I assume she knows the truth.

                                  Angelina if his mother knew that he was gay, she wouldn't put it that way

                                  She cares about a status. He can be a gay, but should be married to a woman.

                                  Angelina i think if he marries a man the conditions should be the same

                                  I doubt. She wants his straight marriage explicitly.

                                          Renita He can be a gay, but should be married to a woman.

                                          I'll try to say it politely. I consider this suggestion to be an absolute no-go

                                          we should only marry whom we really love

                                              Renita She cares about a status. He can be a gay, but should be married to a woman.

                                              Well she should care for a child instead of a status.
                                              I was under the impression she did not know that fact because if she insist for the marriage with a woman and she knows she is simply not qualified.

                                              Oh and I do not mean not qualified as a mother, I mean not qualified as a person. Nobody can decide who other people should marry.

                                              That said, I am not giving marriage a great value, it is only a formal act and nothing more, but maybe he does. I do not know.
                                              The only thing I am sure is that the role of a mother, in a marriage, is only to sit in an appointed space and take note of the choice of her offspring or gtfo forever.

                                                  Funguy

                                                  Yes,it can take longer than you hoped,but in some time,you probably be free of it,and with your boyfriend!🙂

                                                  Renita

                                                  Right,it could help him for a while.

                                                  Angelina then you should tell your mother, i think wedding is wedding no matter with whom 😉

                                                  In some families,it can be hard(it is the case for Emilie's family).

                                                          Angelina we should only marry whom we really love

                                                          In an ideal world.

                                                          LoonyMel Nobody can decide who other people should marry.

                                                          This forum has many opposite examples.

                                                          Vanessa Right,it could help him for a while.

                                                          Yes, let' s be realistic.

                                                                  Renita This forum has many opposite examples.

                                                                  In this point I do not agree... or at least I can not remember...

                                                                      Ines or at least I can not remember

                                                                      Isn't your fiancee supposed to be approved by your parents?

                                                                          I’ve been reading here and I’m unsure what to do. I like the idea of marrying a woman I don’t love just so my mom will let me out but I think I will try to live with my bf asap and then just cut it off. The only problem with this idea is that my mom will most likely never talk to me again and won’t let me see my sister.

                                                                          Either way I’ll be in the belt for another few years so I have a lot of time to think and decide 😅

                                                                            Then fuck her! figuratively of course:-) because if you agree to it, it's a fucking Stockholm Syndrome (no pun intended, because your profile shows that you are Swedish :-)) Your mom does it for religious reasons you are some terribly fanatical Christians or Muslims ? If you play it properly, she will lose parental rights and will end up in a closeted psychiatric ward with nice and comfy padded room 😂

                                                                              hornyaspie2
                                                                              There is a broad spectrum of eventuality which can lead to having a belt removed AND not having to confine people in jaols or wards.
                                                                              Why starting a war while you can just safely take distance?

                                                                                  LoonyMel

                                                                                  LoonyMel Why starting a war while you can just safely take distance?

                                                                                  Take distance how?
                                                                                  It's not happening to me, but i think that if someone abuse position of authority we can and should act!

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