So a few days ago I asked my mom what would make her take off the belt and...

Her answer was when I’m married to a woman she approves of...

So I guess I’ll be in the belt for life 😅

Edit: For those who don’t know I’m gay so finding a woman I want to marry is impossible.

    Funguy Her answer was when I’m married to a woman she approves of...

    You might like it 😂

      Funguy

      Not easy,sure!

      But if you decide to live with your boyfriend someday,you could still destroy it.

        No problem. When you will live with your boyfriend she will take it off. I doubt she would force you because she did not approve.
        Sometimes having power over another person makes you saying things which are a little bit over the top. Truth is that once you have your life there is no such thing as "approval" which can influence you. Expecially in this kind of situations.
        When someone is independent, there is nothing like "approval". It is mere "being noticed of a fact".
        Also, let's not forget that the dependence blackmail does not last for all the eternity against unwilling sons.

        So do not paint the worst scenario possible and be optimistic. As the Crow said, it cannot rain forever.

          Vanessa Not easy,sure!

          But if you decide to live with your boyfriend someday,you could still destroy it.

          Yeah I could destroy it but we both live at home and even small apartments are pretty expensive where I live and he’s the only one with a job so unless a miracle happens I doubt I’ll be out soon.

            LoonyMel So do not paint the worst scenario possible and be optimistic. As the Crow said, it cannot rain forever.

            Everything you said here is true but it seems it will rain for another few years atleast

              Funguy
              Nothing that you conquer with ease can really satisfy you.
              When things go dire, remember a Latin motto which I really loved throughout my high school ages which helped my resilience.

              Quod acerbum fuit ferre, tulisse iucundum est.
              Whatever was hard to sustain, it is blissful to have sustained it.

              Which is good also for every victim of a forced belt here.

              Funguy I’m gay so finding a woman I want to marry is impossible

              You only need a woman who agrees to marry you. Basically it doesn't matter if you are gay or not.

                Renita

                So just get married and then get a divorce after? I hope I can find a woman that my mom approves of and would do that.

                  Renita

                  The big scam!
                  Holy moly, did not tought about that! Brilliant.
                  Brilliant but... Still it means lieing to a mother. I dunno. On paper is brilliant but actually doing it..

                    Funguy So just get married and then get a divorce after?

                    Not necessary to divorce, you can keep maintaining you marital status.

                    LoonyMel The big scam!

                    Like any other marriage. As it's mostly a deal.

                    LoonyMel Still it means lieing to a mother

                    Lie in what?

                      Renita
                      Well, he should even go and marry a woman in order to appeace his mother instead of telling her just the truth? Should he keep a charade out of fear?
                      He just need to marry whomever he loves. And tell his mother straight out that if she does cut him out, it was bound to ahppen sooner or later.
                      ...but at that point, lost for lost, either the belt comes out with both part smiling or the lawyer will see that it will come off.
                      Still, there is no need to go this eep for something that is owned.

                        Funguy Edit: For those who don’t know I’m gay so finding a woman I want to marry is impossible.

                        then you should tell your mother, i think wedding is wedding no matter with whom 😉

                        Renita You only need a woman who agrees to marry you.

                        no, he doesn't need that, if his mother knew that he was gay, she wouldn't put it that way. i think if he marries a man the conditions should be the same

                          LoonyMel Well, he should even go and marry a woman in order to appeace his mother instead of telling her just the truth?

                          I assume she knows the truth.

                          Angelina if his mother knew that he was gay, she wouldn't put it that way

                          She cares about a status. He can be a gay, but should be married to a woman.

                          Angelina i think if he marries a man the conditions should be the same

                          I doubt. She wants his straight marriage explicitly.

                            Renita He can be a gay, but should be married to a woman.

                            I'll try to say it politely. I consider this suggestion to be an absolute no-go

                            we should only marry whom we really love

                              Renita She cares about a status. He can be a gay, but should be married to a woman.

                              Well she should care for a child instead of a status.
                              I was under the impression she did not know that fact because if she insist for the marriage with a woman and she knows she is simply not qualified.

                              Oh and I do not mean not qualified as a mother, I mean not qualified as a person. Nobody can decide who other people should marry.

                              That said, I am not giving marriage a great value, it is only a formal act and nothing more, but maybe he does. I do not know.
                              The only thing I am sure is that the role of a mother, in a marriage, is only to sit in an appointed space and take note of the choice of her offspring or gtfo forever.

                                Funguy

                                Yes,it can take longer than you hoped,but in some time,you probably be free of it,and with your boyfriend!🙂

                                Renita

                                Right,it could help him for a while.

                                Angelina then you should tell your mother, i think wedding is wedding no matter with whom 😉

                                In some families,it can be hard(it is the case for Emilie's family).

                                  Angelina we should only marry whom we really love

                                  In an ideal world.

                                  LoonyMel Nobody can decide who other people should marry.

                                  This forum has many opposite examples.

                                  Vanessa Right,it could help him for a while.

                                  Yes, let' s be realistic.