vyktoryah
Hello.
Even if we have plenty of information here, please make a little introduction in introduction topic.
Well, firstly your parents can not force you to wear a belt, it is an abuse or a crime, so, @James is right, and law is on your side.
The wearing of a belt that starts with fear can not be successful.
And further, I can not understand that your sisters do not wear it, I have sisters, and rules are the same.
Frankly I see your parents decision as a intended way to avoid worries... and belt implies a lot of worries about the girl...
Talk with your parents, and if you do not want wear it, do not do it.

      Ines
      well i feel my parents giving belts to my sisters isnt entirely out of the equation. i just dont have any confirmation on it at all the only thing i know 100% is that they ordered one for me. its definitely not soemthing i want though of course but my mom says it is something i would grow to like and respect and that she used to use hers for a long time but stopped because of personal health issues. i dont think i would like one though so im of course gonna talk with them and mention all these things everyone here has helped me come up with like the fact that its apparently illegal to even do! but okay! sure ill make a introduction in there. thx for the info

          vyktoryah Give me a few minutes to answer your questions….

          vyktoryah yeah my parents kind of have resorted to really dumb and extreme punishments in the past.

          This is my point and concern - they clearly don't know how to parent. What is effective is consistency. Normally I'd say whatever, but there are 4 kids in that house plus you, so, they actually need to learn to parent.

          Legally speaking, it's more 'legal' to belt your sisters than you - they are adults and can 'agree' to it by virtue of a condition of living at home. So, it's more grey with you needless to say.

          But what @Ines says about fear and mistrust is right. I do believe in strict and consistent discipline. But clearly that is not happening at your house.

              vyktoryah I will say resorting the 'illegal' line isn't going to help solve a problem, and a lot of this depends on what relationship with your parents you want - you have choices and leverage here. Refuse outright or dictate terms.

              But it would be unsafe for you to accept being in a belt unless it came with an ironclad commitment that it would apply to everyone AND they agreed to actually learn how to parent. Having consistent parents would of course, be useful for you to help you do what you want to do.

              Plus, many mothers here wear belts too. I'm real curious what 'medical issue' happened - that's rare, and sounds more like a case of neglect.

                  James
                  i definitely value my relationship with them and i want it to remain good so i guess im conflicted with bringing the law into it but one things for sure im definitely bringing up everyone using one if i have to bc that just would make more sense honestly as they are the ones known to be going around and doing sexual stuff. my mom though idk the specifics of it i just know she has IC and some problem with peeing so she has to maintain her special parts more often and with more freedom than a chastity belt would allow. but like i said i definitely made this post a little early i still dont know the full length of the situation yet and it could be their plan for everyone to have one and i just misinterpreted them. im going to update everyone tomorrow when ig et a chance to speak with them. its 1:15 AM here so nobody is up

                      vyktoryah Fair enough.

                      I will repeat though that 'wear a belt' is not the solution to this. If you're going to actually agree to something like this, they also have to agree that they will have fair rules etc and consistency, and learn how to do stuff well. Anyone can learn, IF they want to.

                      ...but if they say no to learning, then you should say no to everything else.

                          vyktoryah don't worry about what's fair
                          Don't worry about what's happening with the sisters
                          Don't worry about how to convince them
                          Don't worry about what you need to do
                          Don't worry about reasons

                          Tell them you refuse
                          Tell them your not trying it
                          Tell them it's illegal for them to make you
                          If they punish you for refusing that's probably illegal too.

                          Don't read the other threads here it's confusing and doesn't apply to you.

                              Jen Agree with the sentiments and maybe the approach…but she’s not an only child, and every girl’s situation and preferences are different. I trust that vyktoryah will make the best choice for her.

                                  Jen Don't read the other threads here it's confusing and doesn't apply to you.

                                  Basically we are saying the same!

                                    Jen i thank you and everyone else here for your answers! i definitely appreciate all the support im getting for this so TY
                                    im going to be talking to my mom about it in the next few hours and im going to be trying a more leaned back approach with just mentioning that my other sisters firstly to my knowledge dont have one and havent ever. then ill go to how i never generally leave the house anyway. then ill go to how ive always been pretty well behaved too and i do my chores and stuff. and lastly the big one is that a lot of people do say its illegal here butt hats more of a like, last resort type thing because i dont wana ruin my relationship with them and stuff. if theres a work around for this i definitely want that or to just convince her nicely that its not what id prefer. ill of course post updates when i have more info but thanks again for everyone replying wish me luck! i cleaned the house too before i went to sleep so theres a little butter to sweeten things up LOL

                                        vyktoryah its because they are above 18 im pretty sure

                                        Why is this a problem? As we can see here girls can be belted by parents at any age.
                                        In my opinion,your parents should started with your older sisters, because they are already guilty

                                            vyktoryah Good, just tell your parents that you are aware of the risks and that you saw the mistakes of your sisters and you will not repeat them. Also, you can tell them that it's very unfair to punish you for you sister's sins 🙂
                                            I think you need to show them that you need reassure them a lot

                                              im gonna just get right to it pretty much i asked her a bunch of times today and we ended up having like a 2 and a half hour talk straight about this and she evn called my dad during it. my situation is a bit more than i imagined BUT as of rn idk 100% if im wearing one or not but i know now that they are going to make an acccomadation with my sisters that if they want to live here rent free off my parents they need to wear a belt too. and my sister isnt allowed to have these dudes over anymore. regarding me though my mom says she wants me to use one and that it would keep me safe and stop me from even having any chance of making those mistakes even if she believes that i wont. i still really dont know why they ar epushing it for me to use it abunch but she said wed talk more tonight after work. she seems kinda okay with working something out i feel so ill just see what i can do ty everyone for ur support and ill post again soon as ik whats going on <3

                                                Laura
                                                yeah i only said that because like in my entire life my parents have always kind of held the "do what u want when ur 18" thing over our heads so i just assumed that was the case because my sisters get away with alot more than me BUTT it isnt the case ofc! as i posted about like 2 seconds ago they are gonna be using belts too

                                                    vyktoryah I had a feeling it might play out like this, which is why I said what I said. How have your sisters reacted to the news?

                                                    Also, do your mom or dad always stay at home?

                                                        MaximeJourennes ill definitely try my best to remember that because i know if they didnt care they wouldnt even be bothering with this and theyd just kick my sisters out. but they are really trying to make our lives different and they may not be the best but them trying is enough for me to respect them cuz IK being a parent definitely isnt easy lol theres no book or whatever to it andevery kid is different

                                                            James both my parents work all day unfortunately. my mom left late this morning but she usually leaves at about 8am and getsd back at like 6 pm and my dad leaves at 5am and gets back same time as my mom usually

                                                                vyktoryah Being working class parents is never easy, for sure. I am very curious how your sisters will take this news. Did your conversation discuss their 'extreme' issues and their trouble with discipline and consistency?