BD1791

Good to have you back. Due to time constraints, shorter than usual. ;-) Ines already wrote an answer concerning the partner commitment aspect.

ATM, just one question regarding the work / metal detector aspect:

BD1791 I have to walk through metal detectors at work and while I set them off all of the time and I'm not searched I have an irrational fear that maybe on that day I will be searched and the belt will be found. It's highly unlikely but for now I'm afraid of that. I have started wearing in public though and that's gone really well. I just can't bring myself to wear to work yet.

EDIT: I opened a separate thread and branch daily security check / metal detector stuff accordingly: https://unwedchastity.org/d/772-chastity-devices-and-daily-security-checks-w-metal-detectors
Could be of general interest.

You'll find my question there.

        BD1791 My partner doesn't have the key yet, though we have been talking about it

        apart from your emotions, i agree with @Ines, i would be interested to know how your partner feels about his role as keyholder. is he aware of the responsibility? can he handle this power sensibly? you should talk about this.

        once these points have been clarified, it is up to you to say at what point you have the confidence to give him the keys, you have to be sure, you are giving up control over your sexuality. Your partner should then also be able to appreciate this

            Ines yes, he is very reasonable and not rushing me. He wants to make sure that I'm not only physically ok but also emotionally.

            The idea of giving him the key actually makes me feel a little panicky. Is that normal? I wasn't expecting that.

            Work is the most complicated and it does eat up a lot of time with me not in the belt. I think I'm going to try and start sleeping in it too make sure my body is getting enough time to get use to it. I don't know if that's a good plan or not. I'll keep everyone updated 😂.

            Owl thanks for setting up that other thread. I'll go check it out.

            Angelina I'll sit down and talk to him. In general he just tells me that he likes the idea and is ready for the key. What kinds of things should I be asking. I think I'm a little overwhelmed by my emotions and getting use to the belt. I'm not really sure what questions I should be asking him or what we should be discussing.

                    BD1791 I just can't bring myself to wear to work yet

                    You should find a way to wear it to work, otherwise it would be useless

                        Laura I don't think it's about finding a way, it's about being ready for it. The conversation is split between a few threads but the general update is that we had dinner last night and came up with a plan that we are both happy with to easy me into wearing it at work.

                            BD1791 The conversation is split between a few threads

                            Yes I know, but I thought this one was more appropriate

                            BD1791 came up with a plan that we are both happy with to easy me into wearing it at work.

                            What's that?

                                  Laura I didn't want to be redundant. I think it's on the other thread. I'll wear on days that I'm strictly in the office and on days that I'm only at court houses without metal detectors. The courthouses with metal detectors will only be added after I'm more comfortable wearing in the work setting.

                                      BD1791

                                      i think you have already asked the right questions, you should just try to play through all the situations that could arise emotionally for you and him and see how you would react to certain situations. 🙂

                                      BD1791

                                      that sounds like a good plan, also to give you the necessary self-confidence in case someone does "cought" you.

                                            @Laura Ines Regarding the metal detector, it has never happened to me, but, if it happened to me, I have always said that before the search I would discreetly tell the female security guard about the situation, calmly.

                                            My husbands friend has patients who walk around with metal replacement arms and legs with wires and lots of different types of metal and covers that make them look real...
                                            They cannot be asked to give these to police when going to court.
                                            They even have patients who are brought from a prison to receive care and the only rule is they choose one that doesn't have a bunch of secret compartments but even criminals have a right to be cared for. As we always say they make mistakes but are still people and need to be forced to work hard to do better and not be punished.
                                            Be calm and kind to the policewoman but they do not have authority to ask you to remove your devices.

                                              BD1791 For example, I have to walk through metal detectors at work and while I set them off all of the time and I'm not searched I have an irrational fear that maybe on that day I will be searched and the belt will be found.

                                              How about you wear a belt with a large metal buckle or a lot of metal decoration on the belt. When the detector is set off they will see your belt. After some day you can wear your CB and it would be no difference for them.

                                                  Joh that's not a bad idea... I guess I should go belt shopping 😂🤣

                                                  • Joh replied to this.

                                                      Joh How about you wear a belt with a large metal buckle or a lot of metal decoration on the belt. When the detector is set off they will see your belt. After some day you can wear your CB and it would be no difference for them.

                                                      at first i thought "brilliant idea", so my compliments for this simple but very effective solution. but i see a problem. if she goes through the detector with the normal belt and it then activates, she can say that the belt has triggered it. but then she will probably be asked to take the belt off and go through it again. if it then makes a beep, this could be even more unpleasant for her than usual.

                                                          Angelina I would tend to agree with you on that point. It might look like you are deliberately trying to hide something and I am guessing a security gard is not going to guess a chastity belt 1st.

                                                              Philip

                                                              true and if it comes out it would be more embarrassing than if she said. this is my chastity belt, i wear it confidently and proudly and that's why the detector turned on the alarm

                                                                  Angelina She works there regularly. In the first time she will just wear the belt but not the CB. When the alarm goes off and she has to take the belt off, nothing is found. After a while, they will just accept that the belt triggers the alarm. From then on she can wear the CB.

                                                                      Joh my computer and heels sometimes set it off too. They already don't search me because of that.

                                                                        Joh After a while, they will just accept that the belt triggers the alarm. From then on she can wear the CB.

                                                                        that is probably true, but it could also be different. i am not sure how extremely strict the controls are, even for known persons.