Angelina that sounds understandable, i thought he wanted you to give the changes a bit more time, but good that you can talk openly
Talking about something and changing something immediately because of it are two different things. Often he just explain to me why something is like it is and the idea behind. Then we talk about our position to this idea and almost always I then understand that anything makes sense.
Vanessa Interesting,I thought it was all the rules or not at all,not adapted.
I don't understand what you mean.
Vanessa You don't think you would have such knowledge without the spanking and cornertime parts?Even with a longer talking instead?
Honestly, I think it would be very different. I don't know, it's very unlikely that we will try it. The current system is definitely working and not to bad.
Vanessa Did it happen that you make a change which seemed a good idea,but was not good when used,and cancel it one week after?
If he sees that something was a bad idea, he may change it the same day. He is very responsible. I have accepted that sometimes he thinks it's still a good idea but I don't so, then I talk to him again until I understand his idea or until he changed something. I don't miss the power to demand a change immediately. It gives me the security that he knows he has to be careful, because I will never "fight" against it. I just talk about it in a calm, constructive and respectful way during our weekly maintenance, but I accept that he has the final saying in everything.
