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  • Behaviour change through long term chastity?

Jonas I'm putting my house in order and have rejected porn too.
But yes, text can also lead to problems!

i rarely watch porn either, but not so much because of my belt but because i find a lot of it very unrealistic. but amateur porn is sometimes good and gives inspiration.

      I've nothing against porn, but personally am getting real kick out of trying to keep my eyes exclusively on my partner. 👀

      Jonas Who knows better, you or her?

      Difficult to judge myself.

      Angelina and what do you think in the meantime?

      I think it makes me mad.

            Jonas It's only horny-me who says I shouldn't. He was therefore out-voted.

            There is that saying that excited men tend to think not with their head, but with their penis, a metaphor that makes that vote sound more interesting.

            • Jen replied to this.

                youdontknowme hi, about choosing to let yourself out vs just having access all the time... I think it was intro thread... so why do you choose to be out - like is it a need or just when you decide that's enough and want out? I hear guys need it eventually but for me I don't think it's ever a need just want.

                    Jen
                    I assume it is different for male and female wearers. There is some evidence that it is healthy for people with male genitalia to ejaculate regularly (which does not make it strictly necessary per se, but a good chastity routine should be healthy, so it kinda sets a lower limit on permissible ejaculations). Note that those ejaculations do not necessarily have to come through masturbation or sexual intercourse, many young males have spontaneous emissions in their sleep, particularly at the onset of puberty or after long-term orgasm denial, and ejaculation can also be induced through prostate stimulation. In case of the latter, it is possible to also induce orgasm, but from what I have heard (no personal experience putting anything but suppositories up my butt), it is a lot easier to separate from pleasurable orgasmic relief than ejaculations from penis stimulation. Male chastity enthusiasts usually use the term "milking" to refer to that procedure. And even if orgasm were necessary for those healthy ejaculations, most guys tend to want one a lot more often than they need them.

                    For me personally, I still have not set any rules in stone, I am still seeing what works for me. Currently, my plan is to only be unchaste one day a week at most, on a weekend if possible, preferably on sundays. That does not mean relieving myself every sunday though, I prefer to plan things through the week ahead and for this sunday my mind is set on "rather not". Since I want to avoid health risks and/or the chance of dirtying up my bed though, I do want to have a deliberate emission at least once a month.

                    Fortunately, despite having masturbated out of habit for years, it has not reached a level of addiction where I do not have the clarity of mind to make decisions with my head on whether I want to orgasm or not. The device is mostly an upgrade over pure willpower to handle momentary lapses in judgment, and having to reach for the key (or something to open the lock with at least) buys me time for my will to take over again. For the same reason, I trust myself to take off the device even when I am not planning to have a release right now, as long as I am not exposed to any stimuli that would cloud my mind.

                      Ines Why?

                      the orgasms often seem fake, the happiness seems inauthentic and everything seems too artificial to me. unfortunately, with most porns you quickly see that they are films and not reality.

                      Christine I think it makes me mad.

                      so would you say that your behaviour has become more worse because of the belt?

                      Max9

                      Cool did you paint that yourself? 😃

                              Ines I do not like porn, but sometimes I had "problems " with books...

                              Me too,some books,even if not erotic ones,can have "hot" scenes which make it hard for me!

                              Jonas Sorry to hear it.

                              Thank you.

                              Jonas So there is behaviour change, but you think not permanent.

                              Yes.

                              Jen

                              To get aroused?😉

                              Angelina

                              I thought you watch it a bit to give ideas for you and your girlfriend(and got punished for it,too)?

                              Amateur porn is better,yes.But hard to find true amateur one,many studios try to make pro movie be considered as amateur...

                              Jen for me I don't think it's ever a need just want.

                              We have a thread about it : Is sex a "want" or a "need"?.😉

                                            Vanessa Me too,some books,even if not erotic ones,can have "hot" scenes which make it hard for me!

                                            Yes. Even some romantic parts can have a powerful effect.

                                                Vanessa I thought you watch it a bit to give ideas for you and your girlfriend(and got punished for it,too)?

                                                Amateur porn is better,yes.But hard to find true amateur one,many studios try to make pro movie be considered as amateur...

                                                it depends on how realistic it is, some porn is very realistic and gives good inspiration but in general i don't like most porn, not because i dislike it in general but i think something as intimate as sex should not be acted out

                                                    Jonas Both me and my wife think I should wear the belt

                                                    Me and my mother think differently.

                                                    Angelina so would you say that your behaviour has become more worse because of the belt?

                                                    I wouldn't say so.

                                                          Christine I wouldn't say so.

                                                          and how would you describe it? that is, if you only have the choice between your behaviour has improved or your behaviour has worsened.

                                                              Ines

                                                              I agree!

                                                              Angelina

                                                              I would not put in on the net,personally,but I've no problem some do it,and,except since I've the belt on(obviously),I liked to watch it,sometimes.

                                                              It can be a part of foreplay with a boyfriend/girlfriend,too.

                                                              Angelina

                                                              It can stay the same,too.

                                                                      Vanessa I would not put in on the net,personally,but I've no problem some do it,and,except since I've the belt on(obviously),I liked to watch it,sometimes.

                                                                      Oh, I may have been a little unclear when I said "acted" I meant artificially produced orgasms, that is, something so intimate does not happen naturally. I hope you understand

                                                                          Frankly, I have not seen porn many times in my life, and I think I have not seen a orgasm in it, but I could not identify if is true or not 😅.
                                                                          In novels yes, I have read about them, but literary language is, sometimes,nice, but not very accurate.

                                                                            Jonas

                                                                            No it makes me think about it even more.

                                                                            I think if I could get out I would make the most of it and make up for lost time LOL.

                                                                            My school results are a lot better as they really went bad just before I was locked up, my parents are happier with my behaviour (except when we argue about the cage). I definitely don't think it is worth it though.