I’ve been absent from this forum for a few months now no big reason for this just haven’t been able to post really.

So some updates are due I guess, I’ve talked with my mom about my bf and officially came out to her. She was surprised and upset but it went better than expected as I’m still in the apartment and I asked what it would take for the belt to come off and I wanted a clear answer since I won’t be marrying a woman. She said she could accept that I marry my bf and then she’d give me the keys to my belt.

So that’s the plan now I guess marry my bf and then see what I do about the belt.

    Vanessa

    Yeah I’m happy that she wasn’t as bad as I had thought 😄 Although moving out and getting married will still take a long time so I expect a few more years.

        Funguy

        if i remember correctly, i told you 100 times to talk to your mother openly, good that you did. and as you can see, it wasn't as bad as you thought. 😉

        That you are still locked up until you get married is annoying, but that was already the condition beforehand.

            Funguy I guess marry my bf and then see what I do about the belt.

            When?

                Funguy Oh wow! I'm so happy to read you've told your mother how things are. I think it's much better to live life as the person you really are. That's great news. As to the belt... well, at least you know what the arrangement actually is now.

                    Angelina

                    Thanks for the advice 🙂 I'm so happy she didn't freak out and hopefully I'll be able to move out soon and then maybe I'll break the belt or just wait I'm not sure.

                        Funguy Maybe a year or 2.

                        So long. Why did you ever talk to your mom about it?

                            Renita

                            Because I wanted her to know and I wanted to be sure what I’d have to do to get out of the belt.

                                Funguy

                                good that it's working better now. does your mother meet your boyfriend in the meantime?

                                as for the belt, you should think about what will happen if you break the belt and what the consequences will be. think about it, maybe you will get married sooner than you think, then it wouldn't be worth the risk.

                                    Angelina

                                    My mom hasn’t met him yet and I’m not sure when that will happen.

                                    If I break it I’m sure my relationship with my mom will be very angry with me and might cut contact for a while or maybe stop supporting me so I don’t think it’s worth it I’ll just wait.

                                        Funguy I wanted to be sure what I’d have to do to get out of the belt

                                        What would you do if she didn't agree?

                                            Renita

                                            I’m
                                            Noy sure I’d probably just try to get out ASAP and then see if she’s be willing to give me the key

                                                Funguy

                                                she should meet him, I think that is important so that she realises how much you are in love 🙂

                                                as for the belt, hmmm.... i think it would be the right decision to wait, you wrote in another thread that your boyfriend is willing to wait too. i think it's similar to me and my girlfriend

                                                    Angelina

                                                    I also want my mom to meet him, I think it would help her understand that we do love eachother and that it’s real.

                                                    And if he’s willing to wait then I am too I think it’s the best thing to do so I can have a good relationship with my mom and bf

                                                        Funguy

                                                        Yes,but at least,you know it could work well!🙂

                                                        Funguy My mom hasn’t met him yet and I’m not sure when that will happen.

                                                        Is she open about meeting him?

                                                        Or accept it,but don't want to meet him?

                                                        Funguy If I break it I’m sure my relationship with my mom will be very angry with me and might cut contact for a while or maybe stop supporting me so I don’t think it’s worth it I’ll just wait.

                                                        It's the consequences for many of us,and we generally make the same decision too.

                                                                Vanessa

                                                                Vanessa Is she open about meeting him?

                                                                Or accept it,but don't want to meet him?

                                                                I’m not sure I’ll have to talk to her about it