confusion and pride at the same time

Sin

Joh How did you manage to get your baby at that day?

31 hours of labour, natural birth, drug free. The first 18 hours we did at home and it was pretty much as expected. The next 12 hours was like OMG WTF and the last hour and a half was thoroughly traumatic for everyone! Not gonna lie it was way, way worse than we ever imagined. All I can say is wear your chastity belts girls!

She's soooo cute 💕 but honestly I don't know why people would choose to go through that whole process multiple times. It's crazy!! Once is enough for us. I am DONE with giving birth!
🤣

Megan

Sin The next 12 hours was like OMG WTF and the last hour and a half was thoroughly traumatic for everyone! Not gonna lie it was way, way worse than we ever imagined. All I can say is wear your chastity belts girls!

I'm guessing there is some truth in your joke...
Not that I was planning to have kids but now I'm even more scared 😅

Joh

Sin She's soooo cute 💕 but honestly I don't know why people would choose to go through that whole process multiple times. It's crazy!! Once is enough for us. I am DONE with giving birth!

I heard it several time but later their hormone kicked in and changed it. Some got more than one child.

Angelina

Sin but honestly I don't know why people would choose to go through that whole process multiple times. It's crazy!! Once is enough for us. I am DONE with giving birth!
🤣

we will talk about it again when your daughter wants a sibling 😂
no, seriously. i have heard from many that every birth is different, your pregnancy was perfect, but the birth was probably of the heavier variety. a friend's mother had 4 children and the labour was between 2 and 50 hours, so it can be more pleasant next time. 😉

anyway, all the best futhermore 🙂

Sin

Megan I don't want to put you off, everyone is different. My pregancy has been perfect, not one day of morning sickness, I've been hitting the gym three times a week, I've been doing yoga up until I went into labour... So I totally thought "I've got this!"

How wrong I was! 😅 My advice: Don't try to be a hero. Get an epidural!

Megan

Sin So I totally thought "I've got this!"

How wrong I was! 😅 My advice: Don't try to be a hero. Get an epidural!

Okay! 😄

Joh

Sin
How did the father manage the birth? I assume he was there.

Jen

Megan yeah still scary

Sin

Joh He was fantastic, but it was pretty traumatic for him too. I was very thankful he was there! I was passing out and unconscious between contractions. He basically descibed it as watching my life slowly ebb away each time. Pretty scary to think if it wasn't for modern medicine it would have dragged on for a few more days and I would have died of some horrible condition like sepsis or gangrene. Childbirth was the biggest killer of women until very recently, and still is in a lot of places.

Sin

Angelina No more next time! I would cut my own womb out with a rusty butter knife before I go through that again! 😬

Joh

Sin Oh yes. That is scary if you see your love is slowly dying and you can not do anything beside to stay on her side.
The bright side is you have your baby girl 😀 and you are still alive.

Megan

Sin No more next time! I would cut my own womb out with a rusty butter knife before I go through that again! 😬

Got it don't be a hero!
You are the healthiest and most knowledgeable! So if you say it's bad I believe you !

Sin retty scary to think if it wasn't for modern medicine it would have dragged on for a few more days and I would have died of some horrible condition like sepsis or gangrene. Childbirth was the biggest killer of women until very recently, and still is in a lot of places.

There's a lot to be grateful for! If all doctors were still guys with crow masks and leaches that would be awful...

Angelina

Sin

my greatest respect for you and your husband, i understand that you are rather averse to future pregnancies, but i would not relate this one to the future. something can always happen, but according this logic women shouldn't have children anymore. anyway, i'm glad you got through it and hopefully will be with your daughter (and us) for a long time to come 🙂

Sin No more next time! I would cut my own womb out with a rusty butter knife before I go through that again! 😬

you should never tell your daughter that 😂

Sin

Joh yeah totally worth it!

Megan

Angelina you should never tell your daughter that 😂

Don't tell any of us girls that... Lie to us 🤣

Sin

Angelina Thankyou that's very kind. But it's still a firm NO! There's a lot to consider when it comes to having kids and it's not really in anyone's interest to bring more people into our world.

Joh

Sin If you like you can get a second one. I don't have kids and I will not.
I also think it is an enrichment for the community when children grow up with responsible and open minded parents.

Angelina

Sin There's a lot to consider when it comes to having kids

I agree with you

Sin and it's not really in anyone's interest to bring more people into our world.

here i disagree, if everyone thinks like that, mankind dies out, every human being is something special and every child is a gift of nature 😃

Joh

Angelina every human being is something special and every child is a gift of nature

When have you in mind to get one?

youdontknowme

Angelina if everyone thinks like that, mankind dies out,

That is precisely why I am so strongly in favor of people not having children. There are enough humans in this world, not making more of them is the only way to bring that number down without killing anyone

Sin

Angelina here i disagree, if everyone thinks like that, mankind dies out, every human being is something special and every child is a gift of nature

I meant us personally, neither of us want a whole tribe of little snot muppets running around! Having children is a HUGE decision and far too many people start having multiple kids with no real consideration as to how they will pay for food, housing, clothing, school etc etc. I couldn't imagine breeding in my 20s, it would have been completely irresponsible relying on others for our child's welfare.

Angelina

Joh When have you in mind to get one?

definitely much later than my wedding, i think not for another 10 years or so, that's not so easy even for a lesbian couple

youdontknowme There are enough humans in this world,

yes, but not enough sensible people and if i can help to increase the number of sensible people i am happy to do so. 🙂

Sin

of course you should only have children if you are ready to carry this responsibility, i know from my own experience with my mother that not everyone can do that. but i think that you are a reasonable person and therefore you are able to take care of one or more children. the financial aspect is of course another issue.

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