confusion and pride at the same time
Sin but honestly I don't know why people would choose to go through that whole process multiple times. It's crazy!! Once is enough for us. I am DONE with giving birth!
we will talk about it again when your daughter wants a sibling 
no, seriously. i have heard from many that every birth is different, your pregnancy was perfect, but the birth was probably of the heavier variety. a friend's mother had 4 children and the labour was between 2 and 50 hours, so it can be more pleasant next time. 
anyway, all the best futhermore 
Joh He was fantastic, but it was pretty traumatic for him too. I was very thankful he was there! I was passing out and unconscious between contractions. He basically descibed it as watching my life slowly ebb away each time. Pretty scary to think if it wasn't for modern medicine it would have dragged on for a few more days and I would have died of some horrible condition like sepsis or gangrene. Childbirth was the biggest killer of women until very recently, and still is in a lot of places.
and you are still alive.
Sin No more next time! I would cut my own womb out with a rusty butter knife before I go through that again!
Got it don't be a hero!
You are the healthiest and most knowledgeable! So if you say it's bad I believe you !
Sin retty scary to think if it wasn't for modern medicine it would have dragged on for a few more days and I would have died of some horrible condition like sepsis or gangrene. Childbirth was the biggest killer of women until very recently, and still is in a lot of places.
There's a lot to be grateful for! If all doctors were still guys with crow masks and leaches that would be awful...
my greatest respect for you and your husband, i understand that you are rather averse to future pregnancies, but i would not relate this one to the future. something can always happen, but according this logic women shouldn't have children anymore. anyway, i'm glad you got through it and hopefully will be with your daughter (and us) for a long time to come
Sin No more next time! I would cut my own womb out with a rusty butter knife before I go through that again!
you should never tell your daughter that
Angelina if everyone thinks like that, mankind dies out,
That is precisely why I am so strongly in favor of people not having children. There are enough humans in this world, not making more of them is the only way to bring that number down without killing anyone
Angelina here i disagree, if everyone thinks like that, mankind dies out, every human being is something special and every child is a gift of nature
I meant us personally, neither of us want a whole tribe of little snot muppets running around! Having children is a HUGE decision and far too many people start having multiple kids with no real consideration as to how they will pay for food, housing, clothing, school etc etc. I couldn't imagine breeding in my 20s, it would have been completely irresponsible relying on others for our child's welfare.
Joh When have you in mind to get one?
definitely much later than my wedding, i think not for another 10 years or so, that's not so easy even for a lesbian couple
youdontknowme There are enough humans in this world,
yes, but not enough sensible people and if i can help to increase the number of sensible people i am happy to do so.
of course you should only have children if you are ready to carry this responsibility, i know from my own experience with my mother that not everyone can do that. but i think that you are a reasonable person and therefore you are able to take care of one or more children. the financial aspect is of course another issue.
Saintprudence I just want to say that I unironically love how far afield this conversation has strayed from the original topic!
Yes, it went far away from the intended topic, but... I hope it is ok to get it a bit back.
My Mom and I talked and we decided that I won't get a break till the end of Ramadan and that I'll be wearing my thigh bands except for school time.
Megan If you own this medical insurance, you are definitely a happy person. Anybody else just pays to much money for her/his health care. Just have a look at most western European countries. We pay so much less for our health care for a better service, even if you include the taxes that are used for the medical system. From what I have heard, everything is 2-3x more expensive in the us for the exact same service with the exact same qualification. We have also health care for almost everyone and almost everything is covered. Without long waiting times, at least when it is necessary/mandatory and without getting a bill afterwards that will destroy your financial situation and make you a homeless person because you have to sell anything you own.
There is no need to go to the right hospital, call the right ambulance or wait until you can't stand it any longer. I think at least the German system is much better than the American, even if it's far away from being perfect.
Oh, please bring this thread back to its intended topic!
I wish you strength during the Ramadan. Do you have a fixed chain length, or can it be adjusted depending on what you are doing?
Did you ever consider what I suggested before, that your mother decides when you have breaks with random intervals, so you don't know when to expect the next? (Obviously outside of the Ramadan period)